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Post by What Me Worry on Sept 12, 2004 23:23:29 GMT -5
Hey, it may have been obvious to you but I am proud of my discovery.
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Post by Max Power on Sept 13, 2004 0:49:36 GMT -5
I know, I'm sorry, duh was the wrong response. I should've said, "You betcha mister!"
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Cactus
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Post by Cactus on Sept 13, 2004 18:26:15 GMT -5
Even now, I have trouble looking anyone in the eye while talking to them – especially women I fancy. You may not know this yet, but sometimes looking someone in the eye can make things easier. You can actually see their reactions, that they aren't scary or hostile and that they are truly friendly. You can't always see this if you turn your gaze away. Perhaps you should try making eye contact in everyday situations (with people who aren't so intimidating as women you "fancy"). When you do make eye contact, ask yourself what you see there. It can be most reassuring. Doesn't matter if she was older or younger unless it matters to you. A smile is a smile. A way of being friendly. Or of being embarrassed as all get out! (but in a good way). "What was that?" It was a smile....aimed at you! ;D I think for a lot of people, this kind of situation can be very awkward because you don't know what's supposed to happen next. Great! Someone smiles at you from another line, 20 feet away. Now what? Are you supposed to go over there and introduce yourself? I don't think many people have that kind of nerve....Are you supposed to smile back? It would be a good start, but then you still don't have anything to say to each other because you don't know anything about each other....and you're still 20 feet apart....in different lines. Perhaps it might make more sense for you to try to get to know some attractive women that you have regular contact with, say work or school or hobby groups, for example. Then, at least there's common ground for you to work from. I know I like to get to know a person a bit before being thrown into a dating situation with them. It makes things much less awkward. Just one more thing before I wrap this up. If you avoid eye contact with people, it can come across as you not being interested in who they are or what they're saying. Not terribly positive. If you can work on really seeing people, it could make your interactions a lot more comfortable. How did you develop your close friendships? Certainly, you didn't avoid looking at them, did you? You must have smiled....
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