Post by Shyness on Sept 2, 2004 18:14:29 GMT -5
Okay, so you are wondering "how can i prevent shyness and be sucessful with the ones i like?".
Well it is simple. Being shy is natural and many people have been raised this way, and so have i. You can prevent shyness in many ways. One way is to know how to be strong in heart.
Before i actually begin, i have other things to say.
Alot of guys do not know what to talk about because they haven't experienced much with women. They haven't realized what they should talk about. The thing is, you do not have to think about what to talk about. You just do it. Make a small topic and make it interesting.
You are not being too shy to ask a girl. You are fearing. You are scared to ask her out because you are scared of rejection. Everybody gets rejected, even those who have had dates before. Are you going to make yourself feel bad by not asking out at all, or by getting rejected and getting over with?
I've been rejected, and i forgot all about it. If you still are scared of asking her out, then do not. Women look for guys who are assertive and fun to be around with. If you have been shy around her and planning to ask her out, do not. Also, if a girl asks you for this and that, do not give them. Unless it is something serious and important, you may give them. The more you give, the more they want and they won't like you any more.
She has to see something fun about you, she has to see something that she likes about you. If she satisfies you, you ask her out. You need to learn to have a strong mind, and prevent thinking too much.
Clear your head and go outside. Also, women are not the answer to your life. They are only part of it. Do not treat them like godesses. You give them presents, what have they given you back? Have they thanked you before? Do you like this or that girl because she is only pretty?
Seek for the personality as well. Seek for what they like, and you need to have something in common. Going out with someone who is not your type will only make yourself look bad.
I have confidence in what i do because i know what to do. I do not think too much, i just take action. The world is not a drama, life is not a drama. It is the real world. Seek those who will like you back, ask her out when you have confidence. Shyness will fall from your heart once you do whatever makes you feel comfortable. Be yourself, be wise.
Negative thinkings is also a bad thing. Do not think negative. Life is not about being negative, it is about being positive. You see alot of guys with friends because of confidence. Getting confidence that you want, is by taking action of something. When you see a girl you like, you are holding yourself back feeling as if you shouldn't do it. Beat your chest (if you have strong skin) and go up to her. Get over with it.
Now, i am done for now. My message is this: avoid thinking too much and go out there and have fun.
Well it is simple. Being shy is natural and many people have been raised this way, and so have i. You can prevent shyness in many ways. One way is to know how to be strong in heart.
Before i actually begin, i have other things to say.
Alot of guys do not know what to talk about because they haven't experienced much with women. They haven't realized what they should talk about. The thing is, you do not have to think about what to talk about. You just do it. Make a small topic and make it interesting.
You are not being too shy to ask a girl. You are fearing. You are scared to ask her out because you are scared of rejection. Everybody gets rejected, even those who have had dates before. Are you going to make yourself feel bad by not asking out at all, or by getting rejected and getting over with?
I've been rejected, and i forgot all about it. If you still are scared of asking her out, then do not. Women look for guys who are assertive and fun to be around with. If you have been shy around her and planning to ask her out, do not. Also, if a girl asks you for this and that, do not give them. Unless it is something serious and important, you may give them. The more you give, the more they want and they won't like you any more.
She has to see something fun about you, she has to see something that she likes about you. If she satisfies you, you ask her out. You need to learn to have a strong mind, and prevent thinking too much.
Clear your head and go outside. Also, women are not the answer to your life. They are only part of it. Do not treat them like godesses. You give them presents, what have they given you back? Have they thanked you before? Do you like this or that girl because she is only pretty?
Seek for the personality as well. Seek for what they like, and you need to have something in common. Going out with someone who is not your type will only make yourself look bad.
I have confidence in what i do because i know what to do. I do not think too much, i just take action. The world is not a drama, life is not a drama. It is the real world. Seek those who will like you back, ask her out when you have confidence. Shyness will fall from your heart once you do whatever makes you feel comfortable. Be yourself, be wise.
Negative thinkings is also a bad thing. Do not think negative. Life is not about being negative, it is about being positive. You see alot of guys with friends because of confidence. Getting confidence that you want, is by taking action of something. When you see a girl you like, you are holding yourself back feeling as if you shouldn't do it. Beat your chest (if you have strong skin) and go up to her. Get over with it.
Now, i am done for now. My message is this: avoid thinking too much and go out there and have fun.