Help me look good!

[SilentShadow]

Hello again everybody!

I recently started University and have found myself in a depression again! If you've read some of my other threads you'll know that I am very unhappy with my physical appearance. and since I've started University I've been seeing nothing but attractive people everywhere!!! it makes me realize how ugly I am. There are girls in my classes that seem somewhat shy and approachable, but I have so LITTLE self-esteem that I think every girl is just too pretty for me!
In short, I have a question (directed mostly towards the girls of the forum) is there ANYTHING I can do (within reason) to make myself appear more attractive and more appealing to the opposite gender? I'm very thin and kinda short for a guy, but is it still possible to make me look GOOD? (way I dress etc...) any little hints would help, I don't want to spend the next 4 years of University alone...

[GreenFerret]

I just started college, too; and like you, I have noticed that there are a LOT of extremely good-looking people. The really cute guys to lust after... the girls with such perfect features that I can't help but get jealous and awfully discouraged... Ugh. I try telling myself I don't look so bad, but the moment I see one of those girls that look like models, I can't help but think, "well, screw that! I give up." I'm gonna have to work on the personality thing and leave the beauty aspect alone.

Ok, SilentShadow: if you're going to try "looking good," "very thin" is as good a place to start as any. If your college has on-campus athletic facilities, it might be very easy for you to go there after classes a few times a week and thereby attain a bit of muscle tone or something. Exercise--in moderation, of course--is altogether healthy, anyway... or so I hear! Some people even say it helps improve your mood. But if you don't want to do that, maybe just wear clothes that err a bit more on the baggy side than the tight side. I dunno; thin isn't bad, really.

As for being "kinda short," I don't think that's much to worry about. There're many girls who won't care even if you are shorter than them, and also many who are short themselves, and who might prefer a guy who is not going to tower over her all the time. The most important thing to work with, and of course the most difficult, is the whole confidence issue. So, try thinking of yourself as, at the very least, a reasonably good-looking guy. Didn't you say in a different thread that you do alright with smiling at girls? Keep that up, for certain, and be careful not to accidentally stare at girls you like, and hopefully that'll all work for you in time.

I guess that's all the advice I have. I don't really know what I'm talking about here, but at least you can be certain that there are other shy new college students out there with self-esteem issues and a definite dearth of attractive properties. Good luck to you!