Post by l0ner on Sept 15, 2004 19:06:46 GMT -5
Anyone else with there were an easy way to meet other shy, socially anxious people? Like some sort of dating service, but for shy people, or a 'shydar' like the 'gaydar'?
When I was really in college (I am now, but living in an apartment with only one lecture), I had all sorts of opportunities to meet people that I no longer have. But I was in a really bad place mentally and just wouldn't let myself open up to people.
Things are better lately, in a way....over the summer semester I did a few things with people and one night even had a great time going bar-hopping with a group of of peopel ( a few guys and a couple girls). But it just seems IMPOSSIBLE to meet people now, and it's so f***ing frustrating.
I really wish there were some kind of service for meeting other people with shyness or social issues, either for dating or just meeting potential friends. I have NEVER in a REALLY long time been so anxious to meet people, but it just seems impossible. I just don't know where to go to meet people or how. And I know virtually nobody around here.
It really is frustrating having more motivation to meet people, but having the least means to do so now. I've developed this mindset where I'm so damn regretful for al the time I wasted sitting alone in my room all through college, and now I can't STAND spending time in my apartment without getting depressed because "I should be out meeting people and doing stuff". So I end up spending so much time out around campus and downtown (I live close to the UW Madison campus). But I spend so much time out now, but never meet anyone, because I don't feel conversationally interesting enough to approach people.
Also, does anyone find themselves self-conscious when it comes to trying to hook up with the opposite sex because you have no friends and are afraid of looking like some kind of weirdo? Yet another hurdle to get over for me.
When I was really in college (I am now, but living in an apartment with only one lecture), I had all sorts of opportunities to meet people that I no longer have. But I was in a really bad place mentally and just wouldn't let myself open up to people.
Things are better lately, in a way....over the summer semester I did a few things with people and one night even had a great time going bar-hopping with a group of of peopel ( a few guys and a couple girls). But it just seems IMPOSSIBLE to meet people now, and it's so f***ing frustrating.
I really wish there were some kind of service for meeting other people with shyness or social issues, either for dating or just meeting potential friends. I have NEVER in a REALLY long time been so anxious to meet people, but it just seems impossible. I just don't know where to go to meet people or how. And I know virtually nobody around here.
It really is frustrating having more motivation to meet people, but having the least means to do so now. I've developed this mindset where I'm so damn regretful for al the time I wasted sitting alone in my room all through college, and now I can't STAND spending time in my apartment without getting depressed because "I should be out meeting people and doing stuff". So I end up spending so much time out around campus and downtown (I live close to the UW Madison campus). But I spend so much time out now, but never meet anyone, because I don't feel conversationally interesting enough to approach people.
Also, does anyone find themselves self-conscious when it comes to trying to hook up with the opposite sex because you have no friends and are afraid of looking like some kind of weirdo? Yet another hurdle to get over for me.
