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Post by babygirl on Sept 20, 2004 11:31:37 GMT -5
What is the best way to tell if a shy guy is interested? What are some of his signals?
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Post by SilentShadow on Sept 20, 2004 13:03:30 GMT -5
blushing, avoiding eye-contact, talking about YOU more than he is talking about himself (if he talks at all!)
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Post by l0ner on Sept 20, 2004 13:39:01 GMT -5
That really is a tough one. You could say avoiding eye contact is one signal, but then again, making excessive eye contact could also be a signal. Basically, any unusual amount or kind of eye contact.
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Post by mathew on Sept 20, 2004 15:20:35 GMT -5
Avoid looking at you when you look at him yet when he looks away he doesn't look disgusted. He will either do this repetitively or be afraid to look at you again.
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Post by babygirl on Sept 20, 2004 17:25:53 GMT -5
ok well I have gotten extnsive eye contact,there was one time where we made eye contact and he looked down right fast,we have made eye contact and he nodded at me,everytime he rides by me we make eye contact and he will wave at me,I have caught him staring at me,usually I have to talk to him before he says anything to me,but I get confused cause sometimes he want look at me at all.Like this weekend I walked by him and he was standing with a friend,he didn't look at me or anything he just kept looking at the ground.Thats what confuses me alot.
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Post by What Me Worry on Sept 20, 2004 23:14:17 GMT -5
If you see him consistently staring at you then looking away when you look back at him then he probably does fancy you. When he's looking at the ground with his friend he could be focused on talking to his friend and has nothing planned to say to you. Shy guys have to plan things out because talking to girls just doesn’t come easy for us. This could be his way of avoiding awkwardness in front of his friend.
Shy guys won’t consistently leer at a girl they do not find attractive. It makes no sense.
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Post by stock on Sept 21, 2004 19:23:30 GMT -5
Most of the posters here covered it.
For me, avoiding talking to the person at all, knowing full well how counterproductive that is, nonetheless this ends up happening. This is worsened by the fact that I am introverted overall and prefer being to myself most of the time.
Also correct, would be that should the person have the guts to talk to you at all, he or she will only talk about you, trying to get to know more about you, etc.
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Post by SpathiEluder on Sept 22, 2004 2:41:12 GMT -5
when i like a girl i always look away cause i don't want her to catch me staring at her and think i'm a pervert or gonna stalk her. so if you catch a guy staring at you and looking away, he might not be creepy after all, he could just be shy. or maybe being shy IS being creepy.... i just don't know, i can't fathom what goes on in the minds of girls
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Post by Sweet Pea on Sept 22, 2004 4:13:12 GMT -5
Most of the posters here covered it. For me, avoiding talking to the person at all, knowing full well how counterproductive that is, nonetheless this ends up happening. This is worsened by the fact that I am introverted overall and prefer being to myself most of the time. Also correct, would be that should the person have the guts to talk to you at all, he or she will only talk about you, trying to get to know more about you, etc. So, are you saying it would be better not to talk to a shy/introverted guy about himself at first - talk about other subjects instead?
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Post by Max Power on Sept 22, 2004 13:21:08 GMT -5
when i like a girl i always look away cause i don't want her to catch me staring at her and think i'm a pervert or gonna stalk her. Same with me. When I like a girl and I'm sitting next to her or anywhere near her, I look the other way and have an extremely hard time looking her way.
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Post by shy 777 on Sept 23, 2004 21:25:54 GMT -5
So, are you saying it would be better not to talk to a shy/introverted guy about himself at first - talk about other subjects instead? I LOVE talking about myself!
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Post by unrequited on Sept 24, 2004 4:30:55 GMT -5
Same with me. When I like a girl and I'm sitting next to her or anywhere near her, I look the other way and have an extremely hard time looking her way. I can relate to this. I'm crazy about a shy guy who can talk to everybody else but me. He can joke, expound, you name it...I've heard him do it plenty of times. But with me he clams up. Half the time he completely ignores me. When he talks to other women I get soooo jealous. I think, "why can't he talk to me that way?" Sigh...
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Post by babygirl on Sept 24, 2004 9:37:26 GMT -5
I can relate to this. I'm crazy about a shy guy who can talk to everybody else but me. He can joke, expound, you name it...I've heard him do it plenty of times. But with me he clams up. Half the time he completely ignores me. When he talks to other women I get soooo jealous. I think, "why can't he talk to me that way?" Sigh... Same with me only I never see him talking to other girls,I guess if i did I'd get jealous to.But with his guy friends he talks all the time,but when he's around me he want say anything,unless I say something to him.But half the time I don't know what to say.Lately hes gotten to where he will say I appreciate it,and I'm like whats up with that.
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Post by unrequited on Sept 24, 2004 16:31:27 GMT -5
Same with me only I never see him talking to other girls,I guess if i did I'd get jealous to.But with his guy friends he talks all the time,but when he's around me he want say anything,unless I say something to him.But half the time I don't know what to say.Lately hes gotten to where he will say I appreciate it,and I'm like whats up with that. I'm not sure I understood you. You mean he says "I appreciate it" when you take the first step and speak first? I'm attracted to shy men, but it seems to me they have such a hard time believing that someone actually likes them sometimes that they end up punishing women who do. Sometimes they act like they think there must be something wrong with me if I like them! It may not always be deliberate, but the downside to shyness seems to be self-absorption. Shy people can spend all their energy thinking about their own feelings and little thinking about the feelings of others. I've been guilty of this myself. I remember one time when I was in junior highschool a friend I had been close to was leaving because her parents were moving. She was my only friend at the time, and we spent alot of time together doing stuff. We had discussed how we would trade addresses and keep up a correspondence after she left. I was really sad about her leaving too. When her last day at our school came and it was time to say goodbye, I was so overwhelmed by my own feelings that I just told her "See ya! Been nice knowin ya!" casually and walked off without getting her address. She looked so sad and hurt and I felt even worse. I still look back on that to this day many years later with regret. I feel like I behaved like an ass. All I could think of at that moment was that I felt like I was being abandoned and it hurt terribly. But, sad to say, I can think of many times when I've done things like this through the years.
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Post by babygirl on Sept 25, 2004 9:29:55 GMT -5
I'm not sure I understood you. You mean he says "I appreciate it" when you take the first step and speak first? [/quote/]) I work at the race track,so when I give him his change back he'll say I appreciate it. When I talk to him he will just give me a big smile,while were talking.Like oneday he pulled over to where I was sitting and I said that I usually have to walk to the road and he said,I'm not gonna make you walk.On another occasion he was walking around in circles and I called him and he turned around and seen it was me calling him he got the big smile on his face and walked over to where I was,and I asked him are you lost and he said,I was just looking for my cup.
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