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Post by casanova on Sept 8, 2009 4:15:16 GMT -5
I would say the church is a good place to meet at least nice people ive recently met a girl there and most people are freindly at church.
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Post by anabella on Jan 20, 2010 12:10:29 GMT -5
Honestly... I say the less you look the more you find. Sound strange? I believe it to be true. Because when you're not looking, you don't have a wall and you can just be yourself. I have a feeling i could have put my explanation is much more better words. :/ Sorry.
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Post by Tal on Jan 30, 2010 7:08:41 GMT -5
Honestly... I say the less you look the more you find. Sound strange? I believe it to be true. Because when you're not looking, you don't have a wall and you can just be yourself. I have a feeling i could have put my explanation is much more better words. :/ Sorry. I think that can be true. When someone tries too hard it can come across as desperation. However when you're desperate to have some kind of relationship, sex, or even friendship with others, it's hard to just sit back and wait for it. The desperation takes control, so you're always looking. |
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Post by MrNice on Jan 30, 2010 9:54:57 GMT -5
that is definitely not true if you sit home and don't meet anyone
for majority of shy guys being yourself means behaving in ways that are not attractive to the opposite sex
sure you may run into someone sometime that will like you just the way you are, but that is only the case if you meet at least a certain amount of new women all the time and then the probability of MUTUAL attraction is even smaller
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Post by fightingspirit on Feb 5, 2010 14:05:44 GMT -5
for majority of shy guys being yourself means behaving in ways that are not attractive to the opposite sex sure you may run into someone sometime that will like you just the way you are, but that is only the case if you meet at least a certain amount of new women all the time and then the probability of MUTUAL attraction is even smaller That is the crux of the problem, isn't it? Why does being yourself not result in attracting women? It doesn't seem like our fathers or grandfathers had problems finding significant others and chances are that they weren't the epitomes of cool. Obviously, something has changed in the world where average guys are now struggling to get women. |
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Post by strawberrysweetie on Feb 5, 2010 18:07:04 GMT -5
for majority of shy guys being yourself means behaving in ways that are not attractive to the opposite sex sure you may run into someone sometime that will like you just the way you are, but that is only the case if you meet at least a certain amount of new women all the time and then the probability of MUTUAL attraction is even smaller That is the crux of the problem, isn't it? Why does being yourself not result in attracting women? It doesn't seem like our fathers or grandfathers had problems finding significant others and chances are that they weren't the epitomes of cool. Obviously, something has changed in the world where average guys are now struggling to get women. Options. So much has changed. Transportation, feminism, birth control, the internet, media depicting perfect fairy tale love stories.... There are pros and cons to everything I guess. It is a shame that so many good guys can't seem to get girls, though. I will agree with that. But it can go both ways, too.  |
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Post by Scotty on Feb 5, 2010 19:09:22 GMT -5
Shy United. ;D
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Post by strawberrysweetie on Feb 8, 2010 20:14:44 GMT -5
Brownie points for the Scotsman!  |
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Post by pluralzalpha2 on Feb 8, 2010 20:37:49 GMT -5
I dont know how to or where to meet nice girls either. I guess nice girls stay in their homes??? some do  mmm-hmm. |
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Post by cyphrshy1 on Feb 10, 2010 23:30:14 GMT -5
that is definitely not true if you sit home and don't meet anyone for majority of shy guys being yourself means behaving in ways that are not attractive to the opposite sex sure you may run into someone sometime that will like you just the way you are, but that is only the case if you meet at least a certain amount of new women all the time and then the probability of MUTUAL attraction is even smaller hi im new thought id jump in here if nobody minds lol I have to agree with mr nice. times have changed. and some women are more modern i mean some are not old fashioned. the old fashioned way was that the man would lead the family and be the bread-winner and provider. unfotunately some women don't like the old fashioned way. and i believe that is part of the reason why it is hard for guys and girls or men and women to get into a relationship together. there are women who just will not put themselves into that position of being the stay-at-home wife and/or mother if they both should choose to have a child/children. some women want to have a career and put getting a husband and having children on the backburner. then later on, when they have their career established some have rreached an age where it is more difficult to conceive; of course she can still get married; but of course if she waits for her career to be well established then she may not have as many men to pick from then iif she had been on the dating scene say when she was in her early to mid 20s. I'm just citing this as 1 possible reason. im not saying it is the only reason, mind you. males today, imo are (I agree with mr nice, as i said) not always allowed to "be themselves"; because I think imo it is a man's nature (being himself) to be the man and take the lead (I don't mean like some do who are overly domineering to the point of extreme in which some may beat their wives into submission) by doing those things for a woman that the old fashioned way advocated; things like opening a door for a lady; offering her an arm if she needed one (say when the sidewalk is icy) so she doesn't fall - when they go for a walk together; just really nice gestures that express leadership, but not in a mean way (as I mentioned above). Sometimes imo men don't know what they can do that a woman will acccept in this day and age, with some of the feminism going round. just my opinion. where to meet nice girls? at church if you go; if not, just probably anywhere the average person goes like work or the grocery store; some meet people through other friends; or through relatives; or in an apartment building; on a trip; out during exercise walking or jogging or in a gym or othe exercise venue (like a class); at a university if one attends; at a concert; etc. etc. im sure there are other examples also. just thought i'd put these just in case it might be of some help. |
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Post by cyphrshy1 on Feb 10, 2010 23:46:19 GMT -5
for majority of shy guys being yourself means behaving in ways that are not attractive to the opposite sex sure you may run into someone sometime that will like you just the way you are, but that is only the case if you meet at least a certain amount of new women all the time and then the probability of MUTUAL attraction is even smaller That is the crux of the problem, isn't it? Why does being yourself not result in attracting women? It doesn't seem like our fathers or grandfathers had problems finding significant others and chances are that they weren't the epitomes of cool. Obviously, something has changed in the world where average guys are now struggling to get women. i can tell you what has changed (and watch the fur fly, lol from the feminists ): As I mentioned in my earlier post reply, if women don't want the man to lead, then he can't be himself. society (well feminism) is attempting to turn men into versions of themselves. in effect in a sense castrating a man (not literally), but figuratively, by not allowing a man to do what is in his nature to do: lead. And the divorces are rampant. Years ago divorce was practically unheard of (I mean early 1900s)! that is why our grand and great grandfathers had no trouble securing a wife. The old way was how it was; and everyone (each gender) accepted his or her roles, respectively, as bread-winner/leader; and homemaker/helpmeet (for want of another description)/nurturer of children (if any, and there usually was at least 1 child in those days - the exception was probably only either if the woman had miscarried her baby/ies; or if she was unable to conceive). And they were i think happy in those days, imo  . |
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Post by MrNice on Feb 11, 2010 12:47:12 GMT -5
yeah - things were different before
the difference is that people are free to chose their partner now or stay solitary as opposed to enter an arrangement or getting involved with someone out of necessity - as it was done for centuries. Yeah - divorces were unheard of - but 'marrying the girl of your dreams' was just as unlikely.
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Post by madiocre on May 26, 2010 8:02:37 GMT -5
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Post by Astroruss on Jun 5, 2010 22:09:00 GMT -5
Since I've graduated library school, I've met quite a few nice women in that program. The problem is they're all attached. But the search continues. It may not be too much longer for me. |
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Post by timarends on Aug 29, 2010 22:01:44 GMT -5
I'm not at all religious, so I can't drag myself to a church, but I agree, if you're already a member, that is one of the best places to meet someone. Not that there aren't jerks there like everywhere else, but you're around the same people every week, so it's easy to get to know someone gradually. If you don't like going to church, a club or social organization is also a good choice.
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mmm-hmm.
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