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Post by hoping2overcome on Jan 8, 2007 23:19:34 GMT -5
I've been thinking alot lately about asking a guy out cause I've never been on a date...I know there's a mutual attraction but the problem is getting him alone cause he's almost always with friends......I know what I'd say but I dunno how I can prepare myself for it
any1 here ever asked someone for a date? how did it go? how afraid were u?
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Post by phoenixferret on Jan 9, 2007 2:32:54 GMT -5
I've soooort of done it twice, and neither guy was interested, but it all turned out fine in the end. Actually *doing* it was absolutely terrifying both times, but the aftermath in both cases wasn't bad at all, and in fact it was a huge relief just to know that I'd done it and gotten it out of the way.
If you know there's a mutual attraction, it should be much less difficult, though. I don't think there's anything you can *really* do to prepare yourself for it; if you already know what you'll say, then all that remains is to just carry it out. Whatever may happen--and if there's mutual attraction, the results should be predictably good--it'll be worth it. It sounds like you already know that this is something you've got to do, and I think that determination is all you really need to be able to pull it off.
Well, unless you've done it already, good luck!
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Post by lennythegiant on Jan 9, 2007 22:28:02 GMT -5
I've had the guts to ask someone out...a whopping one time.
She said no. Ah well. I was happy at the time to just give it a shot. But since then I've gone to a college where everyone seems to be out of my league.
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Post by Linzi on Jan 10, 2007 12:18:43 GMT -5
I've asked a couple of guys out before.......but only on texts, not face to face. I don't think I'd find it possible to do that.
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Post by theinfiniteabyss84 on Jan 12, 2007 1:27:02 GMT -5
I wouldnt have the nerve to ask a guy out. I did tell a guy I liked him via long letter in high school. He didnt feel the same way but I was shocked and proud that I actually did that.
~ia
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Post by cradith on Jan 12, 2007 18:11:08 GMT -5
I asked my husband out, he does not consider it a date since it was coffee. I was nervous but I knew I had to do it since I was coming to the end of my contract and did not know if I would be called back. It helped that we had a mutual co-worker that was trying to encourage both of us. Plus my husband would always ak me what i was doing on my days off but never followwed through. So it made it alittle easier
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Post by annaa on Jan 13, 2007 19:55:33 GMT -5
No, never asked someone out. I told a boy I fancied him once, but I was 11 and he was a lot older so it wasn't like it was going to go anywhere.
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Post by kimberley on Jan 14, 2007 0:12:25 GMT -5
I've never had a problem asking a guy out. Most of the relationships that I've been in have been initiated by me. I've never had that problem. My problem is making the relationship work past that superficial, lusty, beginning phase.
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Post by k151 on Jan 14, 2007 1:10:42 GMT -5
I asked a girl and was turned down
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Post by timid on Jan 17, 2007 15:19:09 GMT -5
I am scared *&%$less of asking a guy out! World Peace would probably happen first!
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Post by melissaqu on Jan 17, 2007 19:51:16 GMT -5
Believe it or not, I did ask out a guy when I was 17. He was in my class and we both liked each other a lot, but we were both so shy and couldn't talk to each other. The junior formal was coming up and I knew he wanted to go with me but couldn't ask, so I did it. We were on the bus, not many people were on it, and I went into the seat behind him and asked if he had a date to the prom. He said no, and I asked if he'd like to go. That was it, I went back to my seat! lol My heart was racing miles and I was so nervous but I'm glad I did it. It was a nice night, even though it was extremely awkward because we were both so shy heheh
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Post by annaa on Jan 18, 2007 19:55:26 GMT -5
Believe it or not, I did ask out a guy when I was 17. He was in my class and we both liked each other a lot, but we were both so shy and couldn't talk to each other. The junior formal was coming up and I knew he wanted to go with me but couldn't ask, so I did it. We were on the bus, not many people were on it, and I went into the seat behind him and asked if he had a date to the prom. He said no, and I asked if he'd like to go. That was it, I went back to my seat! lol My heart was racing miles and I was so nervous but I'm glad I did it. It was a nice night, even though it was extremely awkward because we were both so shy heheh Good for you. Having the nerve to ask someone out is admirable enough, actually going through with it is amazing. I'd probably be looking for an excuse not to go.
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Post by melissaqu on Jan 21, 2007 13:08:31 GMT -5
Believe me, I DID NOT WANT TO GO. But EVERYONE went so I would look like an idiot if I didn't go. I went to a very small school. But it went nice. I can't say that I'd ever ask someone out again lol, well I'm married so that leaves that out It was really scary, but I'm glad I did it. Not because I felt like I had to go to the prom, but because I wanted to see if something could spark between that guy and I. Unfortunately the both of us were too shy to go out again, so that was that!
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Post by lavinator on Sept 8, 2012 13:14:23 GMT -5
I've never dared myself to ask a girl out...don't mind experiencing rejection and 'protocol' lol, just hadn't the opportunity - which is a whole can of whoop-ass on its own.
The issue with getting them alone and figuring what you want to say. The fear that circle of friends can be nosey and/or judgemental *tsk*
Curses! o.0
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Post by putter65 on Nov 17, 2012 16:07:59 GMT -5
I don't want to think back and count. Between 5 and 10, all said 'no' I asked one out using facebook last year and she said 'yes'
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