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Post by pnoopiepnats on Jan 31, 2007 17:50:47 GMT -5
i agree that age doesn't really matter in a relationship. Sometimes its the level of maturity that matters. I think the couple should not let themselves get affected when some people talk about their age difference. What matters is how you deal with your relationship. So you'd have no problem introducing a bf who was say 42, to your parents and friends? |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 2, 2007 10:09:16 GMT -5
I don't think age matters ,if 2 people click then they click. Usually its a older guy with younger girl,, but recently the trend has been older woman with younger guys.
Personally I prefer woman younger than me or the same age. But mostly I have dated younger.
Only thing I think is weird is 60+year old guys with 20 something wives or gf. 40 years is alot of difference,,lol
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Post by I am Jack's wasted life on Feb 3, 2007 3:10:26 GMT -5
One of my friends like me and we get along perfectly but the thing is, he's 13 years older than me. Yeah, he's the same one that i made a thread about WAYYYYYYYYYYYY back when he first told me about his feelings (I doubt anyone remembers anyways lol). Well, he still likes me...and I know age is just a number and all that but i can't get over the age gap! I can't help it! I'd be too ashamed to introduce him to my parents as a boyfriend. I know that makes me sound shallow or superficial or closed minded or something bad-ish lol but it's just something i can't see past even though i know he'd make a great boyfriend.
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Post by I am Jack's wasted life on Feb 3, 2007 3:22:08 GMT -5
I have a question. Does age matter in a relationship? For example say my friend liked this guy who was 20 and she was 23 would that be too weird for them to date do you think? I always wondered what people thought about age?? To answer your question, I don't see anything wrong with a 23 year old and a 20 year old dating. A 3 year gap is nothing at all. I mean, when you're younger it may seem like quite a lot (just because an 18 year old and a 15 year old would have totally different mentalities) but in your twenties it becomes a non issue. I think a 7 year older gap and a 4 year younger gap is the cut off for me. It really depends on the person. For a lot of people age isn't an issue at all no matter how large the gap. It's a matter of preference and there's nothing wrong with that (with the exception of pedophiles....eww). |
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Post by pnoopiepnats on Feb 3, 2007 4:35:14 GMT -5
One of my friends like me and we get along perfectly but the thing is, he's 13 years older than me. Yeah, he's the same one that i made a thread about WAYYYYYYYYYYYY back when he first told me about his feelings (I doubt anyone remembers anyways lol). Well, he still likes me...and I know age is just a number and all that but i can't get over the age gap! I can't help it! I'd be too ashamed to introduce him to my parents as a boyfriend. I know that makes me sound shallow or superficial or closed minded or something bad-ish lol but it's just something i can't see past even though i know he'd make a great boyfriend. Just curious at how can you be friends with someone you are ashamed of? I suppose that there are 1000s of girls out there who wouldn't be ashamed of him and I suppose there are 1000s of guys who would be ashamed of you. I was 21 when I met my now x hub. He was 34. I can't say either one of us was ashamed to bring the other home to the parents and well if he would have been his ass would have been booted right out the door and fast. I figure if their discomfort of telling their family is more important than being true to me or being respectful to me then who needs them. Besides why the hell would anyone be ashamed of me? My daughter's bf is 23 years older. They aren't ashamed of each other either. I guess I'm a pretty straightforward person. Either I like ya or I don't. If I like ya then I'm going to stand up for ya. I can't fathom why I would even be around someone who was ashamed of me or be around someone who I was ashamed of? |
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Post by I am Jack's wasted life on Feb 11, 2007 3:21:27 GMT -5
Just curious at how can you be friends with someone you are ashamed of? I suppose that there are 1000s of girls out there who wouldn't be ashamed of him and I suppose there are 1000s of guys who would be ashamed of you. I was 21 when I met my now x hub. He was 34. I can't say either one of us was ashamed to bring the other home to the parents and well if he would have been his ass would have been booted right out the door and fast. I figure if their discomfort of telling their family is more important than being true to me or being respectful to me then who needs them. Besides why the hell would anyone be ashamed of me? My daughter's bf is 23 years older. They aren't ashamed of each other either. I guess I'm a pretty straightforward person. Either I like ya or I don't. If I like ya then I'm going to stand up for ya. I can't fathom why I would even be around someone who was ashamed of me or be around someone who I was ashamed of? No, that's not what i meant at all. I'm not ashamed of him. I was saying i'd be ashamed to introduce him to my parents as my boyfriend because they're very traditional and they'd look down on me for having a boyfriend that's so much older than myself. |
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Post by k151 on Feb 11, 2007 21:24:42 GMT -5
Just curious at how can you be friends with someone you are ashamed of? I suppose that there are 1000s of girls out there who wouldn't be ashamed of him and I suppose there are 1000s of guys who would be ashamed of you. I was 21 when I met my now x hub. He was 34. I can't say either one of us was ashamed to bring the other home to the parents and well if he would have been his ass would have been booted right out the door and fast. I figure if their discomfort of telling their family is more important than being true to me or being respectful to me then who needs them. Besides why the hell would anyone be ashamed of me? My daughter's bf is 23 years older. They aren't ashamed of each other either. I guess I'm a pretty straightforward person. Either I like ya or I don't. If I like ya then I'm going to stand up for ya. I can't fathom why I would even be around someone who was ashamed of me or be around someone who I was ashamed of? No, that's not what i meant at all. I'm not ashamed of him. I was saying i'd be ashamed to introduce him to my parents as my boyfriend because they're very traditional and they'd look down on me for having a boyfriend that's so much older than myself. Then kick your parents in their rigid, narrow-minded, traditional asses  |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 13, 2007 16:19:36 GMT -5
Just curious at how can you be friends with someone you are ashamed of? I suppose that there are 1000s of girls out there who wouldn't be ashamed of him and I suppose there are 1000s of guys who would be ashamed of you. I was 21 when I met my now x hub. He was 34. I can't say either one of us was ashamed to bring the other home to the parents and well if he would have been his ass would have been booted right out the door and fast. I figure if their discomfort of telling their family is more important than being true to me or being respectful to me then who needs them. Besides why the hell would anyone be ashamed of me? My daughter's bf is 23 years older. They aren't ashamed of each other either. I guess I'm a pretty straightforward person. Either I like ya or I don't. If I like ya then I'm going to stand up for ya. I can't fathom why I would even be around someone who was ashamed of me or be around someone who I was ashamed of? No, that's not what i meant at all. I'm not ashamed of him. I was saying i'd be ashamed to introduce him to my parents as my boyfriend because they're very traditional and they'd look down on me for having a boyfriend that's so much older than myself. I always say do what makes YOU happy and not what makes your parents happy. I understand families are different and some have more influence on others and all that. My mother was kinda like that as far as race,, she always said find a nice "White" girl,, but funny thing is I am more attracted to non-white girls,,lol I don't know if its me being a rebel,, or just karma. With the age thing theres no right or wrong, its all personal preference. BTW I remember a commercial on TV,, a young girl brings her older BF home to meet the parents and he says about the mother. "Dude no way your mother looks just like my ex-wife",,,,,lol |
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Post by lavigne on Feb 16, 2007 12:49:23 GMT -5
i agree that age doesn't really matter in a relationship. Sometimes its the level of maturity that matters. I think the couple should not let themselves get affected when some people talk about their age difference. What matters is how you deal with your relationship. So you'd have no problem introducing a bf who was say 42, to your parents and friends? i think it's not a matter of how you are going to introduce him to anyone. Age in a relationship means acceptance of your partner. Would you allow anyone to affect your relationship?even with your family, if they wouldn't like your bf just because of your age gap, the decision is still yours if you will let him go just because somebody doesn't like him for you. But age in a relationship per ser should not be an issue to both of you. It is an issue of love, respect, trust, etc. _____________________ conversation skills Free Report reveals secrets to making great conversation. Get it here: www-conversation.com/self confidence Free Report reveals how to develop self-confidence. Get it here: www-confidence.com/ |
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Post by melissaqu on Feb 16, 2007 16:41:58 GMT -5
My husband is 2 years younger than I am, and we're doing just fine When you're compatible, age is irrelevant |
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Post by madiocre on Jul 2, 2008 10:00:04 GMT -5
i find it interesting though that mainly its men with younger women however ijust from the people i know many guys will fantasize about the older women where as not many girls do about the older guy but maybe i just have encountered a strange sample of the population . they say that girls are 2 yrs older mentally but that evens out with age but then sexually women reach their peak in libido in their thirties for a male they reach theirs at 17 .
.... lol maybe i had a point but it got lost in random thoughts .
i think do what pleases you and really i think socially that is nothing .
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Post by rudy on Jul 2, 2008 18:12:35 GMT -5
there was this girl a year ahead of me and i swaer, ihad the gut feeling she was the one since inwas in 7th grade. now i'm a sophmore, but i just kep thinking i 'm not good enough for her, cuz i'm younger, but i'm physically and mentally mature to be a junior in college, so the appearence doesn't really affect the possibility of me, but i'm to damn shy to talk to her. sigh.
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