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Post by malcom72 on Apr 4, 2008 21:02:55 GMT -5
Recently I asked a female friend just why she thinks that all shy guys are boring and not worth the effort of a relationship. Her answer was pretty much that shy people in general have no sense of humor whatsoever. That may well be true with me so I ask what can a guy do to make up for a lack of humor? And why is being funny so damn important ?
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Post by theinfiniteabyss84 on Apr 4, 2008 22:00:27 GMT -5
Recently I asked a female friend just why she thinks that all shy guys are boring and not worth the effort of a relationship. Her answer was pretty much that shy people in general have no sense of humor whatsoever. That may well be true with me so I ask what can a guy do to make up for a lack of humor? And why is being funny so damn important ? It sounds like this friend of yours never got to know a shy person. Beneath the shy and insecure exterior often times there is a really humorous and open person. |
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Post by HybridMoment on Apr 4, 2008 22:39:47 GMT -5
I guess it depends on personal preference, but I think a sense of humor is a very important quality. People want to be around people who can make them laugh and have fun. Shy people can be funny too though, the members of this site joke around on the forum and especially in the chatroom. Even my stupid witty remarks seem to amuse some people, my co-workers say that even though I'm shy, I'm funny.
If you aren't good at telling jokes you can play up your sense of humor in other ways like wearing a funny t-shirt, using sarcasm, or just making fun of situations you encounter.
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Post by k151 on Apr 5, 2008 0:05:35 GMT -5
I think very few people genuinely lack a sense of humor. In my case, I just don't show my sense of humor for a long time. There are also certain people I can joke with. My sister has been living with us for a few weeks. When shes around, I talk more and joke more. When it's just my parents, I hardly talk at all and essentially NEVER joke.
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Post by I am Jack's wasted life on Apr 6, 2008 2:45:26 GMT -5
I've never really met anyone without a sense of humor. I don't think being shy has anything to do with a sense of humor or lack thereof. I think it takes us a while to open up and share our sense of humor though.
Also, people have different senses of humor, so just because you don't "get" someone's sense of humor doesn't mean you don't have your own. I sometimes don't get jokes made by people with really dry senses of humor. I'm also really bad at knowing whether or not a person is joking when they say something in a totally deadpan manner which tend to lead to confusion and awkwardness on my part lol.
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Post by annaa on Apr 6, 2008 14:53:49 GMT -5
...Also, people have different senses of humor, so just because you don't "get" someone's sense of humor doesn't mean you don't have your own... This is very true. I tend to notice shy people do have a different sense of humour to the "in your face" types. And then again, within a group of shy people you'll always get a very different sense of humour from each person. It's all about a persons definition of what's funny. |
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Post by gaz on Apr 6, 2008 17:12:53 GMT -5
I can't believe that your female friend has this oppinion about shy people! Just because shy people are less likely to show their humour does not mean that we don't have any!
Judgemental people suck!
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Post by malcom72 on Apr 6, 2008 21:58:25 GMT -5
I can't believe that your female friend has this oppinion about shy people! Just because shy people are less likely to show their humour does not mean that we don't have any! Judgemental people suck! Well, I don't think her point was that shy men have no personality only that you kind of have to bring it out of them. And at the end of the day there are plenty of guys who will show themselves with no prompting so she doesn't see the value chasing a shy male. |
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Post by MrNice on Apr 6, 2008 22:32:47 GMT -5
so what's your question then?
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Post by malcom72 on Apr 7, 2008 16:35:11 GMT -5
so what's your question then? My question is. "Is that the way that most women feel or is she just different from the average female, and if so how do you overcome it? |
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Post by MrNice on Apr 7, 2008 18:57:39 GMT -5
you will be better off if you learn to show your personality as opposed to having people fish it out of you, period
is there a certain percentage of women you need to feel this way in order to convince you that its worth it?
there is definitely plenty of guys that will show their personality and to me it makes sense that most women would not go to great depth to find and rescue some guy thats locked up in his own world
such a guy is not guaranteed to be any better then some other guy even if he comes out of his shell
we all like to think that we are hot stuff underneath it all, but its just another fantasy
it sounds like you are fishing for that 'don't change anything one day the girl of your dreams will find you' advice
a girl will find you sure,
though she is not likely to be the girl of your dreams, lol
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Post by slu2008 on Apr 7, 2008 19:59:52 GMT -5
I think Mr. Nice is right. Many of my ex's found me, and turned out to be psychos. Perhaps my shyness led to them believe I was pushover, or something.
Meanwhile, I have seen girls that are pretty and interesting, walk on by because I was afraid to make the first move.
I feel I have a sense of humor, but I have to be relaxed to let it show...
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Post by annaa on Apr 7, 2008 22:08:45 GMT -5
...a girl will find you sure, though she is not likely to be the girl of your dreams, lol ;D lolz! He's right! She'll be a fucking fat nutter that wants you to go out in matching outfits and shit like that.. lolz! *** I am being sarcastic ***
To be honest, different women will have different ideas of the most important quality in a potential partner. A sense of humour isn't always at the top of their list at all. I googled "Top traits in a potential partner" and it came up with this link. I don't know how reliable the source is, but as you can see, sense of humour doesn't appear at all. |
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Post by lennythegiant on Apr 12, 2008 20:31:36 GMT -5
Recently I asked a female friend just why she thinks that all shy guys are boring and not worth the effort of a relationship. Her answer was pretty much that shy people in general have no sense of humor whatsoever. That may well be true with me so I ask what can a guy do to make up for a lack of humor? And why is being funny so damn important ? It's fairly important, but having a good sense of humor doesn't mean you have to be Will Ferrell. Just don't take yourself too seriously, and try to get a good sense of when you can crack a joke here and there, and you'll be fine. I used to be big on self-depreciating humor, but really too much of it makes you come off as just as insecure as not cracking jokes at all. I think last night when I was hanging out with friends I cracked maybe one self-depreciating joke, and it was one where I didn't even put myself down that badly at all and the timing was right so that it seemed appropriate and not like I was putting myself down out of nowhere. I think maybe shyness causes us to not risk any kind of humor, because you don't know what people might take too seriously. At least that's how I used to see it. But if you hang around people enough you can get a sense of what will be okay to joke about around them. |
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Post by rudy on Apr 17, 2008 18:15:49 GMT -5
i have a great sense of humor. everyone knows i have a good sense of humor. the only problem: i couldn't talk to a girl to save my life.lol
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