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Post by ben on Mar 14, 2003 9:45:45 GMT -5
I have noticed that the severity of my shyness depends on who I am around at that time. If I'm out with close friends I am completely normal. If I'm out with strangers I just totally clam up. If I'm with people I know but not that well my shynessm is somewhere in between. Is this normal for others?
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Post by unionjackattack86 on Mar 14, 2003 13:03:30 GMT -5
yeah it seems perfectly normal, i'm fine with people I know well but i'm a bit of a nervous wreck when i'm around girls i'm attracted to and strangers. As for people I know but don't know well, i'm not shy with them but I can't be myself ie I couldn't joke with them or anything.
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Post by NewOrleansLady on Mar 16, 2003 5:24:06 GMT -5
I am the same way. And the bad part is, it takes me a long time to feel comfortable around new people. At my age, 27, I think most people just don't want to wait around for that time to come. So I have one or two good friends and all of their friends are just acquaintances.
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Post by Michael1973 on Mar 17, 2003 14:12:34 GMT -5
Most of the time, my shyness is almost nonexistent when I'm at work. My job often requires me to talk to people both in person and on the phone and I've done it for so long that it's natural for me now.
But then I go into a social enviroment, even if it's with these same co-workers, and I become totally mute. I sit there and listen and wish I could join in, but I'm usually too terrified.
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Post by moogle on Mar 23, 2003 20:51:49 GMT -5
i am shy with anyone i don't know. it doesn't matter where i am (work, school, home, on the phone or online), if i don't know them very well, i pretty much don't talk at all.
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Tiff
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Post by Tiff on Mar 31, 2003 8:44:02 GMT -5
Hi,
My shyness becomes heightened with someone I don't know or do know but just not comfortable with and also in particular with men I find attractive. Been researching this a bit I just found that out recently.
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Post by shyvegan on Dec 6, 2003 11:50:20 GMT -5
I seem to be more shy around some people and not others. For example, my in-laws ( I can't seem to think of anything to say to them), strangers, and people I feel are smarter than me too.  |
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Post by glenn miller on Dec 6, 2003 11:58:06 GMT -5
iam shy with most people i dont know. and with a few i do know.
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Post by CaryGrant on Dec 6, 2003 12:35:53 GMT -5
Totally. Shy with: women I am attracted to; anyone who seems to be considered "cool" and influential in a group; loud, boisterous people; groups of people who all seem to know each other already.
I find I am also overly sensitive to signs of aloofness and rejection, but am learning that people putting out these signals may be just...wait for it...SHY!
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Post by johnadams on Dec 6, 2003 14:59:40 GMT -5
Well, I find it hard to avoid shyness when I am (this will sound absurd) with a person who has led a satisfying life. Seriously, whenever I make an acquaintance and learn in time that this person has spent the better part of her or his life in happiness, I clam up. Then, I try to overcompensate by joking with them, and everything goes downhill from there. I simply have a hard time invariably relating to fulfilled people. Hope this makes sense.
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Post by CaryGrant on Dec 8, 2003 11:57:49 GMT -5
johnadams - oh yeah. I feel like a loser around such people.
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Post by Placido on Dec 8, 2003 12:18:45 GMT -5
That kind of thing varies with me - sometimes I can see them as inspirations, especially if they are a little shy themselves.
I think it depends how much I can relate - people who have big houses, high-pressure jobs and imposing cars are just people who want completely different things out of life to what I do, so there are few points of commonality.
Onthe other hand, people who have good relationships with their wives/girlfriends, a range of interests and an appetiite for new experiences and knowledge are people I can feel comfortable around, because their values are more like my values, even if I might also envy them a little.
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Post by 2_Shy_4_My_Own_Good on Jul 4, 2004 0:08:47 GMT -5
i totally agree! people sometimes think i'm kind of rude because i don't talk alot around new people or people i haven't seen in a long time.
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Post by Jill on Jul 7, 2004 21:58:23 GMT -5
I fine with people I know as long as a know everyone well if there is just one person that I dont know I become very quiet
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Post by anonomie on Jul 10, 2004 4:54:34 GMT -5
Ditto CarryGrant, I too, "seem to feel shyest when I'm around people who I am attracted to; anyone who seems to be considered "cool" and influential in a group; loud, boisterous people; groups of people who all seem to know each other already. " I find those "perky popular types" entertaining to watch in the moment, but I have progressed to the point where I can open my mouth and speak, but I never sense a rapport or connection...I hate to judge these boisterous outgoing types but many seem so superficial. It's also because many of these seemingly nice, outgoing folk with the gift of gab are the perpetrators of dirty office politics and workplace bullying. Which brings me to THEE most major shyness I have...shyness at work. That's the hardest because of the office politics...I'm sadly seeing that although it's not totally irrelevant, going to work and working hard isn't good enough...especially the way this generation and the economy are (hate to put down my fellow generation X-ers, but oh the times they have-a-changed)  . |
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