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Post by chemistry on Jul 20, 2005 9:52:54 GMT -5
Although it is not easy for most of us, the best cure is to keep trying at things 'til we get it right. I've been trying and yes I've been stumbling but one of these days everything will be just right. So, keep trying everyone because IMO that's the only way you'll overcome your shyness. Chem
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Post by Paulinus on Jul 20, 2005 10:34:26 GMT -5
Your absolutely right chem, I feel a happier person now that I am at least trying things even if they are only very small steps and dont always work. I can see a light at the end of the tunnel and even though it may be a very distant light I feel I should eventually get there if I keep going and dont give up.
I even feel I have made positive steps on this very forum, I see things like posting my photo and participating in the chat rooms as progress for me. As would have never considered doing such things in the past.
Of course we all have bad days when we feel like giving up (for me see "I'm sick of this" in Shy rants) but we have to keep trying.
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Post by chemistry on Jul 20, 2005 11:15:45 GMT -5
Bad days? Whoa, you should see some of the stuff I post when I'm down and out. getting back to the original subject of trying, two pretty ladies walked in here looking for assistance just amoment ago. I jumped at the chance to help them. All they needed were deposit slips but as long as I got to help them, that's fine with me ;D
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Post by wagnerr on Jul 20, 2005 12:40:49 GMT -5
I hate trying new things and working hard to do things right all the time, but i do love the thrill of knowing that i've done something right for a change. One of the reasons i swtiched from being a science major to a history/econ student was that i kept on screwing up on the chemical equations and mathematical forumlas. This was the time in school when my self esteem was at an all time low. When i switched to something i was better at, my self esteem started climbing. I began making friends too, and i discovered study abroad. I never could go abroad to distant places on my own before. I missed out on a lot of great opportunities just because i was afraid to try. To all of yall out ther, keep on trying. And remember; making mistakes and learning from them is how you improve, not by doing everything right the first time.
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Post by Paulinus on Jul 20, 2005 13:10:25 GMT -5
Bad days? Whoa, you should see some of the stuff I post when I'm down and out. Yeah I've seen them, its good that you keep on trying despite that.
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Post by pnoopiepnats on Jul 20, 2005 13:23:44 GMT -5
I don't really want to overcome my shyness.
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Post by Paulinus on Jul 20, 2005 13:32:59 GMT -5
I don't really want to overcome my shyness. Your right there are good points to shyness, I don't want to lose mine completely. The problem for me though is I have been so shy that its prevented me from getting on in life. I mean I'm never going to get a girlfriend if I cant even talk to people properly unless I'm incredibly lucky.
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Post by chemistry on Jul 20, 2005 14:29:30 GMT -5
Oh, I definately want to lose my shyness. I want to be able to do things with no hesitation.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 21, 2005 16:32:11 GMT -5
Although it is not easy for most of us, the best cure is to keep trying at things 'til we get it right. I've been trying and yes I've been stumbling but one of these days everything will be just right. So, keep trying everyone because IMO that's the only way you'll overcome your shyness. Chem Never give up, never surrender. I am not as shy as I was when I was younger. I just said F- It I don't care anymore, got tired of it and decided to make some changes. My shyness was mostly with women, I still have my moments from time to time. But I am much better now. I talk to lots of women anytime now, I realized that I tried to hide the real me thinking I wasn't good enough. Now i act like I want, I am still a nice guy type but with some fire. And if ya don't like me, no big deal. Ya can't please everyone. I also changed or updated my looks,,got blonde highlights, earring, some new clothes. That helped my confidence too, while making myself look younger too. I even dated a girl last year that was 10 years younger than me ( I am 33) she thought I was 26, and I loved it,,,lol
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