blushing?

[itouchmyself]

my bigget problem seems to be that i go really red at the slightest thing. i was just wondering if anyone has any ideas onhow to deal with it or make it go away completely???

[Meow]

oh my god I blush so easily! what do I do about it? wear tons of foundation LOL jk. I can't do anything about it except tell myself when it starts "there's no need to blush, stop blushing there is NO point in blushing" try and talk yourself out of it in your head.

[pansy]

i think everyone should keep blushing cuz i think it's cute as hell. but don't mind me, i'm weird.

[sj]

I cant even say hello to alot of people without going red.

And what makes it worse??? When everybody notices and then points it out! "Oh look, he's all embarassed now" .... Thanks.

[kirby]

Everyonen blushes, not just us. But I guess we blush over the dumbest things.

[somewhatdamaged]

Blushing really pisses me off. I just start blushing sometimes when people start a conversation.. and then I hate myself for it. And I always seem to make people nervous when I talk to them, which isn't very comforting at all
Grrr!! Shyness is so destructive. To say the least.
I never really realised how many people are so similar to me. I wish we could all just sit down and blush together and not feel embarrassed to be doing so ;D Because nobody understands how hard it is for us..

There is something though, that prevents shyness really well for me. I just get really hypo, either excercising or just jumping round being ridiculous. That way I'm more happy and feel more confident and therefore talkative Try it out.. go crazy WOOHOO!
And don't rely on alcohol.. well, I'm just saying that because I despise it.

[shyjack]

So far the best thing I can think of, is to just try to ignore it. But I still have problems with this, especially if I like that person. But I figure the best way to eventually get over this I suppose is just not to worry about it.

[susyq]

somewhatdamaged said:

I wish we could all just sit down and blush together and not feel embarrassed to be doing so ;D Because nobody understands how hard it is for us...

lol...funny! I know how it feels. I hate it. It really sucks cuz there's really no way to contol it. Thankfully I don't blush all the time. I haven't blushed in a while, but I hate it when I do.

[fighter]

I have found that some physical problems go away once you stop thinking about them. I used to get very stiff and begin shaking a lot; I would always think to myself, 'I can't stop shaking, I look like an idiot'. It was when I decided to block those thoughts out of my mind that the shaking stopped too. I'm not sure about the blushing as I've never been told I blush, but it's always worth a shot.

[niceguy]

I suffer from blushing alot. I believe the fear of blushing is what causes the blushing itself. I often find myself getting into situations which I've come to accept as an "uncomfortable" situation where I tend to blush, and I find myself thinking "omg don't blush!" These situations are often very stupid and the fact that I blush during these times hurts my sub-conscious mind quite alot.

I can walk around in public fine but if someone approaches me say in the shop for a conversation (even if they are a friend of mine) I often find myself blushing. Waiting in queues, speaking in front of groups (only where I have undivided attention), speaking one on one (interviews); these are all potential blushing situations.

Sometimes I have found the best way to "fight back the blush" is to often take a deep breath and really get into the conversation. Try and focus on what the other person/people are saying, or really start to focus on what it is you are saying. I think focusing or zoning in on what you are actually doing is the best way to "control" the blushing which is rooted into your sub-conscious mind. I find that if you start focusing in your mind on the fact that you are getting hot in the face almost completely takes you away from what is actually going on and makes you feel like you just want to escape and not face/overcome the problem.

I still blush quite a bit but recently when feeling the blush onset I have been able to subdue it by using the method above. I hope this helps you guys.

[dantheman]

Niceguy you've really hit the nail on the head there! I have precisely the same problem. Most of my conversing takes place at work, made even worse by the fact that it's very hot there even in winter, and heat always makes me ten times worse! But as you say, I too have also tried the focusing on what we're actually talking about angle, though some days I just can't do it. Usually, I am approached at my engineering bench and dependant on who it is approaching me (the most frequent guy seems very aware and eye contacty of me so I blush much more with him) I start to feel the heat engulf me. I'm sure they notice straight away as the first words exit their mouth. What I try to do, and the biggest problem I have is actually REMEMBERING to do it, is when I'm approached, I exhale long and soft, and try to let every muscle in my body just release and untense, at the same time trying to really listen to what they say. Though concentrating on more than one thing isn't easy, it's easy to tense up once I then get into the chat, but usually then I'm quite involved, also on a bit of a mid chat high that I haven't yet blushed, and the whole package SOMETIMES works, but not always. The theory is that because you're trying to concentrate so hard if you can muster the focus, on so many different things at once, blushing doesn't enter your head. I guess it's a start. Incidently if the place is nice and cool, then I have no trouble and then I will only blush if I am truly embarrassed about something.

[Cassava]

Yeah I suffer VERY badly from this. Haven't found anything that works. Think there is a surgery you can get, but doesn't sound like a good idea.

[oddball23]

oh my gosh...i blush so easily...if i look at someone ill blush...when it happens ill get all worried cuz people look at me and see that im all red and they just look at me and i hate it....im a people watcher and i guess i dont like people looking at me, lol

[MC]

Hehe lucky for me I don't blush much..but I do if I feel made fun of. I might have blushed talking to girls I like...I'm not sure.

[melissaqu]

You've all hit the nail on the head! It's a horrible thing isn't it? Then why do many people (those who don't have a problem blushing) say that it's ok to blush and that it's cute? If they only knew!