Post by moray on Apr 25, 2006 19:56:54 GMT -5
I've heard psychologists, therapists, doctors, and other people trying to convince us that shyness is not a disease, and that it's a quality such as having red hair or brown hair. First of all, all of the above statements are completely false. Shyness is not a quality. If you have red hair, and you don't like it, you can change the color of your hair anytime. Can you do the same for shyness?........This is one of the worst things that we could have ever done to ourselves: ignoring the fact that shyness is a disease. How can I ignore the fact that I can't act upon my own will? How can I accept the fact that I'm quiet as a mute. Feeling useless and incompetent when you have all the skills and knowledge is not pleasant. It's frustrating, embarrassing, and unbearable. And it's not fun to have everybody fear you. When they get to know you, they're surprised of what you can do. It shouldn't be this way. I'm scared of them, now they're scared of me. It shouldn't be this way. I would accept shyness as a way of being or a quality if I can really act upon my own will, that is do the things that I want to do regardless of my monsterous fear.
We all know that shyness can be overcome; however, it's not that simple. Some of us might have read "the Old man and the sea". Not only that it's great book about courage, but it also shows endurance. To overcome shyness that's what we need. I'm not extremely shy, but i'm moderately shy. I find myself mostly shy for example if I'm trying to approach an individual and have a small talk. If they come and talk to me, I might not show any sight of shyness. I might feel comfortable talking to them. If we have enough courage and show enough endurance, we could overcome shyness. I feel like if I have someone to indicate me and require me to do the things that i'm scared to do, I will show lots of improvement. I think that it's a matter of courage and endurance. Most of us chicken out when it comes to confront our fears. I know it's unbearable. But this is something that we need to do.
I'm trying to make more friends. And hopefully, everything works out.
We all know that shyness can be overcome; however, it's not that simple. Some of us might have read "the Old man and the sea". Not only that it's great book about courage, but it also shows endurance. To overcome shyness that's what we need. I'm not extremely shy, but i'm moderately shy. I find myself mostly shy for example if I'm trying to approach an individual and have a small talk. If they come and talk to me, I might not show any sight of shyness. I might feel comfortable talking to them. If we have enough courage and show enough endurance, we could overcome shyness. I feel like if I have someone to indicate me and require me to do the things that i'm scared to do, I will show lots of improvement. I think that it's a matter of courage and endurance. Most of us chicken out when it comes to confront our fears. I know it's unbearable. But this is something that we need to do.
I'm trying to make more friends. And hopefully, everything works out.