yeah. if it helps. maybe i've also "grown out of it" a lot. i realized that i wanted to have friends. i don't care if i'm super social, i just want a few people i can trust and talk to.
when i first came to this forum someone replied to one of my posts asking "do you even know what you want?" that was a wake-up call, because my mom had also asked me that same question. step one: setting a goal/knowing what you want.
i thought that i didn't want to be around a lot of other people, because it made me uncomfortable. but i definitly knew i did not want to be friendless.
everytime a decision comes before me, i think about what the shy factets of my personality want, then what I really want.