Formulating a long-term cure...

[disengage]

Fuck. Only I'm retarded enough to accidentally delete my own account.

So I was thinking... the human body isn't equipped with the right mechanisms needed to endure my short term cure in the other thread... mentally, physically, OR spiritually[!] for that matter. So, as a work in progress, I present to you a few methods that can help tremendously. Hey, there's no magic bullet... not even Kava Kava... (damnit, i thought i was close)... but there's definitely some things you can do. So like I always say about crazy/cracked-out ideas: Just give it a shot!

1. If you're a naturally wired person like me, stay the HELL away from caffeine. All it does is increases anxiety/shyness. If you're addicted to caffeine like me, take your coffee maker and smash it against a brick wall

2. I've also learned that some cases of shyness are just cases of perfectionism in disguise. If this applies to you, maybe you can try not aiming so high. This helped me a LOT. Being afraid of failure falls under this category, too. Because who cares if you're not accepted anyway?

3. Take some deep breaths, and just cool it. Just be okay with the "here and now". Why? Cause it's all you got, foo'. This ESPECIALLY matters if you're quite the 'control freak' in shy situations; always wanting to make it turn out YOUR way. Instead, just relax and be cool with whatever outcome it's gonna dish you. 'Cause it's cool

4. Really, take some special time out of your day to get to know yourself. If you have any free time at all tomorrow, I advise that you at least TRY it, cause it can't possibly hurt. Just allow yourself to express yourself to yourself... if that makes ANY sense at all (it doesn't)!!

5. Okay, last but not least: Honestly. With others, yes... but with yourself, 99,999x even more so. Really, quit hiding [this one REALLY, REALLY works if you do it right]. All you have to do is just be an open book to yourself and others, and you will be AMAZED at how much stress/anxiety this takes off, in soooo many situations. Actually, I wouldn't be surprised if you eliminated your shyness within just a week or two on this step ALONE! So at least try!!

Just remember, practice makes perfect... errrr I mean good ENOUGH! I don't wanna eat my own words here... but they DO taste pretty good.


In all seriousness, good luck... let me know if you have some luck

[Knox]

disengage said:

All you have to do is just be an open book to yourself and others, and you will be AMAZED at how much stress/anxiety this takes off, in soooo many situations. Actually, I wouldn't be surprised if you eliminated your shyness within just a week or two on this step ALONE! So at least try!!

WOW! You mean that's it??? I never realized it was SOOOO EASY!!!..... ;D

yeah i know.. im a sarcastic s.o.b.. ;D

[audioalone]

disengage said:

1. If you're a naturally wired person like me, stay the HELL away from caffeine. All it does is increases anxiety/shyness. If you're addicted to caffeine like me, take your coffee maker and smash it against a brick wall

I don't think I can do that! - my life's so blimmin' boring I've gotta have something to juice it up, lol! But I know what you're sayin' and yes, I'm "naturally wired" also!!!

2.

I've also learned that some cases of shyness are just cases of perfectionism in disguise.

Yep, sounds like me too!

Being afraid of failure falls under this category, too.

Mind reader! ;D lol! (just jokin! )

3. Take some deep breaths, and just cool it.

Yeah, I definitely need to breathe more! I walk anerobically, even EAT anerobically!

4. Really, take some special time out of your day to get to know yourself. If you have any free time at all tomorrow, I advise that you at least TRY it, cause it can't possibly hurt. Just allow yourself to express yourself to yourself... if that makes ANY sense at all (it doesn't)!!

Sounds like I need to "just BE" which is my goal anyway!!! ;D

5. Okay, last but not least: Honestly. With others, yes... but with yourself, 99,999x even more so. Really, quit hiding [this one REALLY, REALLY works if you do it right]. All you have to do is just be an open book to yourself and others, and you will be AMAZED at how much stress/anxiety this takes off, in soooo many situations. Actually, I wouldn't be surprised if you eliminated your shyness within just a week or two on this step ALONE! So at least try!!

Sounds good to me!!! ;D thanks!

Just remember, practice makes perfect... errrr I mean good ENOUGH! I don't wanna eat my own words here... but they DO taste pretty good.

Like molasses, honey or good old kentucy fried chicken?!! ;D

In all seriousness, good luck... let me know if you have some luck

you too, and thanks for info! ;D

[annaa]

It's all great advice, which I agree with.
But I can't do the no-caffeine thing. Well, I could, but it would be too difficult.

By the way - can you say your username on your old account? I'm a bit confused. Sorry.

[disengage]

i was MINDSHAVER for about a day and was retarded enough to end up deleting my old account! lol. and by the way, the caffeine seems to be the least emotion-varying element, so i wouldn't worry about that one.

in either case, i think i hit the jackpot on my own cure. i'm not completely cured [yet], but i'm so much better off just by following my own rules for once. i think anything in the whole world can work - it's just up to you to find the one plan that you'll most likely stick to. otherwise, there's no motivation.

good luck

[annaa]

Deleting an account by accident sounds like something i'd do, so don't worry. lol

Well it's great you've found something that works for you. Hopefully i'll be able to say the same thing some day.