Post by SAM25 on Apr 10, 2004 7:58:36 GMT -5
Hi everyone,
Am just in a writing mood so thought I'd start here. My name is Shelley and I'm from Australia. Have spent my life trying to wish I was more confident or outgoing and its taken me a long time to get used to just being me.
I am a teacher and love working with children. It is completely different relating to kids - there is just honesty - no pressure or judgement at all. I do have more difficulty however relating to their parents. Even though I know I am good at what I do, I always feel like the second class citizen when I am talking to them which is only a problem when they become unreasonable or demanding.
I have a few close friends with whom I feel fairly comfortable sharing things with but I can't seem to discuss my shyness with anyone. If anything, when I am around my friends I am almost extroverted as if I am trying to prove something to myself. I feel fake when I am like this but it is just as hard to turn off confidence in this situation as it is to turn it on in others.
I have seriously considered seeing a counsillor or someone about my shyness but always baulk at the idea. I know in my mind I see this as a huge flaw and it is almost like I can't bear to have even one person knowing this about me.
It has been great reading your thoughts and stories on this site. I can relate to so many of you and its fantastic to hear some positive comments - I think this is what everyone needs.
Hopefully I can turn this into a more positive experience to. I have to remember that there is so much in my life that I am grateful for - shyness is not the epitomy of me - just one small part. We'll deal!
Thanx for reading!
Am just in a writing mood so thought I'd start here. My name is Shelley and I'm from Australia. Have spent my life trying to wish I was more confident or outgoing and its taken me a long time to get used to just being me.
I am a teacher and love working with children. It is completely different relating to kids - there is just honesty - no pressure or judgement at all. I do have more difficulty however relating to their parents. Even though I know I am good at what I do, I always feel like the second class citizen when I am talking to them which is only a problem when they become unreasonable or demanding.
I have a few close friends with whom I feel fairly comfortable sharing things with but I can't seem to discuss my shyness with anyone. If anything, when I am around my friends I am almost extroverted as if I am trying to prove something to myself. I feel fake when I am like this but it is just as hard to turn off confidence in this situation as it is to turn it on in others.
I have seriously considered seeing a counsillor or someone about my shyness but always baulk at the idea. I know in my mind I see this as a huge flaw and it is almost like I can't bear to have even one person knowing this about me.
It has been great reading your thoughts and stories on this site. I can relate to so many of you and its fantastic to hear some positive comments - I think this is what everyone needs.
Hopefully I can turn this into a more positive experience to. I have to remember that there is so much in my life that I am grateful for - shyness is not the epitomy of me - just one small part. We'll deal!
Thanx for reading!