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Post by seabreeze on Feb 1, 2005 14:48:34 GMT -5
maybe u are just exceptionally tall
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Post by Tal on Feb 1, 2005 15:01:14 GMT -5
nah, I'm quite short.
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Post by seabreeze on Feb 2, 2005 6:49:28 GMT -5
wat u thinking of studying? p.s thats a good website u got there. i like the quote "if u cannot be a poet be the poem" inspiration for all of us who are shit at writting poetry
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Post by Tal on Feb 2, 2005 16:55:04 GMT -5
Thanks. I find quotations and poems amazing antidotes to depression and loneliness.
Even better, everyone should be the poet, then be their poem. (unless it's really bad, in which case perhaps they can be someone else's poem) ;D
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Post by wagnerr on Feb 7, 2005 13:45:14 GMT -5
Hi Sea Breeze! I'm actually a graduate student, so you can say i'm really in for the long haul for college. Five years, BA, and still going strong. I'm actually really lucky. I'm also a really person, not naturally, though. I used to not be shy at all. But life has kind of kicked me in the teeth a lot lately. i'm just like all you guys. I find college hard because of all the socialization involved. As an undergraduate, especially. I feel for you guys, because college is still new and scary. But stay cool. I found me a little niche, here in Houston. I work for the history dept at my university, and the professors i work for are really nice and helpful. They've taught me a great deal over the years. And now i help them out all the time: i make coffee, photocopy stuff, tutor students, and even substitute for their classes some times. It took me a while too, but i've found me a good spot here where i am. But of course, i still can't get over all the heartbreaks i've had lately, and the students here all care about only themselves and being cool. And of course, college girls are not human: they are totally insensitive to guys like me, quite often actually. If any of you guys need some advice, try and do what i did. Stop tyring to connect with inhuman college students and get involved with the school itself. I think you'll find the adult working world-type environment much more rewarding and beneficial, and will really help your self esteem as well. I'm the perfect example. Good Luck. Ya know, i can't remember posting so many smileys. This is actually pretty cool!
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Post by fellow student on Feb 17, 2005 16:01:27 GMT -5
im 20, second yr at british uni - it's a pain in the bum - yeah i get you with the lecture thing, but in the past its been seminars that have killed me off from making friends really - when nerves take over - its a shame, because as a shy bloke, who isn't pug ugly, no one is interested in talking to me...maybe i come across as intimidating and arrogant but im not - im just very insular...perhaps i have a chip on my shoulder because ppl just arent interested in me. In the first yr it was always me trying to get chatting (i had a renewed sense of confidence first term, 1st yr at uni - quite oddly) - start of second yr i pretty much broke down, but im ok at the moment.
Seabreeze you won't be the only one but i wish i had ppl in my groups similiar to myself but i don't...its frustrating because im a nice warm person but until ppl get to know me, they would never know it.
Arghhh.... !
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Post by hello on Feb 17, 2005 16:07:57 GMT -5
just to say, i posted the "fellow student" post previous to this one - just was too lazy to log in at the time.
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Post by seabreeze on Feb 22, 2005 13:55:52 GMT -5
im 20, second yr at british uni - it's a pain in the bum - yeah i get you with the lecture thing, but in the past its been seminars that have killed me off from making friends really - when nerves take over - its a shame, because as a shy bloke, who isn't pug ugly, no one is interested in talking to me...maybe i come across as intimidating and arrogant but im not - im just very insular...perhaps i have a chip on my shoulder because ppl just arent interested in me. In the first yr it was always me trying to get chatting (i had a renewed sense of confidence first term, 1st yr at uni - quite oddly) - start of second yr i pretty much broke down, but im ok at the moment. Seabreeze you won't be the only one but i wish i had ppl in my groups similiar to myself but i don't...its frustrating because im a nice warm person but until ppl get to know me, they would never know it. Arghhh.... ! i get that aswell. moments where ur confident and then the next minute u feel completely shit. at the moment im just kinda thinkin about exams that are comin up. at lectures i tend to just sit byself or meet random ppl that i know do my course. even then though, i sometimes strugle to find thinngs to say. with me its been the reverse. first year was completely shit. the second year has been abit better. p.s wat uni are u studying at?
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Post by hello on Feb 22, 2005 15:25:46 GMT -5
Hello
Im at York.
I am quite shy, some days just physically more shy than other days, but truth be told, ive had bad nerves and anxiety for last 5 years - thats my main worry. - last 2 months have been great, but over the yrs my nerves have triggered off shyness, being downright insular and always thinking about what others think etc...and i've had panic attacks...i think it must be something physical, checked in with doctor at xmas and think its an over-active thyroid gland - 3 months before xmas were absolutely dreadful with anxiety, ill from it, physically felt really weighted down and exhausted with nerves.
I can remember introducing myelf at a seminar last october...in a group and i shít myself so badly - panic attack and i couldnt stop shaking, somehow some words/sentence came out, but two people (blokes) opposite laughed a little - it was sniggering more than anything and that really hurt. To be honest, im probably known as "mr nervous" with my peers in the department - but im not mates with any of them anyways. So nerves have held me back big time, but ive started to become alot more confident last two months, look around and things are relatively good right now. Ive got alot of potential, but cannot seem to attract people...ppl seem to scared to approach me...its probably hardly surprising, im sure in the recent past i have given off a horrendous nervous aurora - thats how i felt so it wouldnt surprise me. Its a shame...i wish i could rewind 18 months back to start of uni year but thats not possible. Trouble is im a late starter with alot of things, college was a complete non-starter, but i thought i would do well at uni, but to be fair i haven't, but what ive done is a start, if that - made some "friends" - but to be honest my housemates are hardly that - yeah we have a laugh sometimes, don'tr really go out much, but they're not me so its very frustrating.
Im on propranolol right now, and its really helped me - its also saved my uni career as i felt so bad, i was seriously contemplating about packing it all in.
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Post by old free guy on Feb 22, 2005 23:50:13 GMT -5
This is probably not very useful story for most of you, but I'll tell you about it.
I was a socially awkard guy(I became that way because I was quiet through high school and my friends approach me first), I had low-self confidence and depressed I think. I studied 2 years in University and quit because I was not able to form any friendship and couldn't take it anymore. Yes, I am a rare case and it felt like a prision at university. I eat alone and stay in library between lectures.
For a few years I lived a reculsive life ,sometimes without work and worked full time for 18 month at my last job.
Then I made a decision to go back to study and get over my shyness. Last year I meet a person that I would call friend and I hope this year will be 100x times better. I have 9 monthes left to go and I am scared that I couldn't get ride of my shyness by the time.
I guess my point is that "you are not alone", and we understand what you are going through. Don't give up and quit your study. We can share experience, encourage each other, and offer each other advice.
Good Luck
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