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Post by Twice-Shy on Jul 12, 2003 8:23:52 GMT -5
A therapist on a tv show over here during the week had a great bit of advice for those of us who think negatively all the time. He said that we should turn all this negative energy into the positive. For example, instead of looking back on a messy divorce, we should focus on the great times we had whilst married.
Good advice.
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Post by glennmiller on Jul 28, 2003 11:07:50 GMT -5
i will try that. see if it works.
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Post by NewOrleansLady on Oct 27, 2003 2:41:09 GMT -5
I'll give it a try. I sometimes remember stupid things that I've said or done and get embarassed about it all over again. It's stupid, I know, to be weorrying about things that have already been done and are in the past.  |
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Post by smartie on Nov 23, 2003 15:27:45 GMT -5
I can't think of any way to make progress other than to adopt just that attitude. If you're full of negative recollections, you will almost certainly be consumed by introspection. If we don't have any bad times, we have nothing to benchmark the goodtimes by. review the rubbish bits, and take them as formative moments in making you what you are today. My shyness has brought wilful malice upon me from others in the past. Too many people regard shyness as providing a window for exploitation, abuse, disenfrachisement and deiberate misconstrual of what the shy person really is. That isn't an indicator of what I or we really are as shy people, it's a pointer as to what these other people are. I personally am not bitter about juvenile attitudes I've encountered in the past, I'm wiser, and I'm more determined than ever that I would never stoop so low as to treat people in the way I have been treated.
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Post by EdgedInBlue on Dec 7, 2003 5:21:00 GMT -5
I often use my past as a motivator. I remember the people that underestimated me, treated me like crap and essentially destroyed my confidence when I was in school and I basically try to be better than them. I work hard, at times I over exert myself, but I know where I'm going. Success is the best revenge!  |
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Post by Jarous on Jan 23, 2004 14:16:46 GMT -5
I fully agree, the best kind of revenge is not to become like unto them. Succeed and make them see they were wrong, take comfort in the knowledge you'll never sink as low as they have. We may lack confidence but not dignity.
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