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Post by Twice-Shy on Oct 4, 2003 8:58:06 GMT -5
Quick tip I read about in a local paper. If you have an event that your are really worried about you can try this. For a few minutes each day leading up to the event lie on your bed with you eyes closed. Count backwards slowly from 10 till 1. Afterwards, visualise yourself at the event. Visualise yourself being confident and relaxed. It does work.
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Post by glenn miller on Oct 9, 2003 10:21:30 GMT -5
i will try that.
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Post by Naptaq on Oct 12, 2003 12:57:20 GMT -5
all'ight shane i'll try..i think
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Post by spitzig on Oct 12, 2003 15:21:02 GMT -5
But, what if I'm nervous about trying the visualization?
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Post by Twice-Shy on Oct 13, 2003 11:37:16 GMT -5
There are so many 'alternative forms' of therapy out there. I think I've tried all of them from autokinetics through to Yoga. My problem was keeping up with using them after the novelty had worn off.
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Post by spitzig on Oct 14, 2003 1:32:02 GMT -5
You could always try visualizing yourself visualizing yourself at the event ;D But, if I'm nervous about visualization, I'd be nervous about that, too. And nervous about visualizing myself visualizing myself visualizing myself at the event, too.
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Post by Michael1973 on Oct 14, 2003 12:58:39 GMT -5
This is something I've always tried to do, but it doesn't always work for me. I usually find that, no matter how much mental preparation I do before an event, there's no way for me to know exactly what the situation will be like once I'm there.
For example, a couple of months ago I went out to dinner with a group of people. Beforehand, I pictured myself having fun chit-chatting with people and being social for a change. But when I got there, the people I knew best were already seated at the opposite end of the table. There was no room to sit near them, so I ended up sitting with people I was less comfortable with and I hardly said a word all night...
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Post by Twice-Shy on Oct 16, 2003 11:04:07 GMT -5
That's happened to me so many times as well. Panic sets in pretty quick.
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Post by NewOrleansLady on Oct 27, 2003 2:37:21 GMT -5
I wish I had read this post before the weekend. I had to spend Saturday and Sunday with my very opinionated in-laws. I could have used any help I could get. I also had a restaurant situation on Sunday. I sat at the end of the table (maybe 20 of us all together) with my husband, my mother-in-law and a few of the kids. Well, they got up to take the kids outside to run (the kids on my end were 3 and under so they didn't want to sit for too long) leaving me all alone. I felt like an as* by myself so I moved down closer to the other people but, didn't really know them too well so I nervously ate my meal while unsuccessfully trying to find something comfortable to look at.
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Post by CaryGrant on Nov 16, 2003 12:03:08 GMT -5
I think part of the trick is not to step too far out of your comfort zone; too far and self-consciousness/fear overwhelms me. I can handle small, quiet, contemplative groups, for example, but not parties where the music is too loud to talk in a normal tone of voice, or groups where I feel like a complete outsider.
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Post by atvrider on Apr 10, 2004 12:21:12 GMT -5
But, what if I'm nervous about trying the visualization? My question to you becomes...What is it that you are fearing about trying visualization? When looking fear in the face, ask yourself two questions: (1) What's the worst thing that can happen? (2) If I don't take action, what will it cost me? This amounts to the regrets in life. I shoulda, coulda, woulda, but I didn't. I encourage you to ask these questions. Your nervousness is arising because you are fearing something, find out what that something is by asking yourself questions.
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