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Post by slu2008 on Apr 2, 2008 22:25:41 GMT -5
If only there was a way to be content with being shy. I think that if accepted that I am not an outgoing person, I would spend less time tossing and turning at night, wondering if I will work up the nerve to speak to someone the next day.
I think I could live with people saying: " He don't talk much" about me.
I'm my harshest critic, though. It's me saying I SHOULD have lots of friends, that I SHOULD be hanging out this weekend, that I SHOULD have better things to do than feel sorry for myself.
"Should" is a hard word to live up to. Maybe I SHOULD stop thinking of what I SHOULD do...
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Post by Sweet Pea on Apr 2, 2008 22:37:31 GMT -5
If only there was a way to be content with being shy. I think that if accepted that I am not an outgoing person, I would spend less time tossing and turning at night, wondering if I will work up the nerve to speak to someone the next day. I think I could live with people saying: " He don't talk much" about me. I'm my harshest critic, though. It's me saying I SHOULD have lots of friends, that I SHOULD be hanging out this weekend, that I SHOULD have better things to do than feel sorry for myself. "Should" is a hard word to live up to. Maybe I SHOULD stop thinking of what I SHOULD do... i think you're onto something there.  |
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Post by annaa on Apr 3, 2008 6:46:47 GMT -5
I've always had a thing with "acceptance".
And not just with my shyness - there are other areas where I feel like i'm "unacceptable".
But you'd be surprised at how many people think you're great the way you are.
And the people that don't - who are they really? Do they know you well enough to make such a judgement?
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Post by benjamin87 on Apr 9, 2008 10:54:53 GMT -5
Most of the time I'm comfortable being shy. When you don't need to be the center of attention all the time it gives you the oppurtunity to observe people and situations without commiting yourself before your comfortable. The only time I wish I was more outgoing is when I'm talking to girls.
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Post by Naptaq on Dec 9, 2008 8:05:15 GMT -5
I think the "opposite", or rather a total lack of acceptance, is shame. And guilt. We're all too familiar with the all too common "I should have _____" and then feel ashamed about it, and regret that we haven't acted differently.
One of the worst feelings that I can think of is being ashamed of being ashamed. It's happened to me in the past. Someone would say "Are you ashemed of 'xyz'?" and I'd say "No." - A lie.
So my remedy is that I'm just trying to accept that I'm just simply.. you know..Ugly and stupid ;D
There's a saying in AA "We're responsible for effort, not the result" So when I'm trying to be nice and come across, or think that I'm coming across, as something else.. I try to accept and learn the lesson.
Hey, it seemed a good idea at the time to say "You M.F.-er!". ;D I did the best I could and if I could do better, I obviously would have.
To be human is to have limitations.
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Post by deadendphilosopher on Dec 9, 2008 15:04:33 GMT -5
I'm reading a book called The Dark Side of the Light Chasers, by Debbie Ford, which I'm finding really, really useful in learning to accept myself. I highly recommend it.
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Post by pnoopiepnats on Dec 9, 2008 17:08:10 GMT -5
I'm reading a book called The Dark Side of the Light Chasers, by Debbie Ford, which I'm finding really, really useful in learning to accept myself. I highly recommend it. That is a good one. I rather enjoy reading those types of books. I'm reading one called The Power of Self Coaching. |
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Post by deadendphilosopher on Dec 12, 2008 12:43:34 GMT -5
I'm reading a book called The Dark Side of the Light Chasers, by Debbie Ford, which I'm finding really, really useful in learning to accept myself. I highly recommend it. That is a good one. I rather enjoy reading those types of books. I'm reading one called The Power of Self Coaching. Maybe I'll check that one out. Another really good one is Healing Through the Dark Emotions: The Wisdom of Grief, Fear, and Despair, by Miriam Greenspan. |
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Post by Naptaq on Dec 26, 2008 22:39:23 GMT -5
Not that I read the book, nor am I a feminist, but here's a book for you gals:
Everything Matters, Nothing Matters: For Women Who Dare to Live with Exquisite Calm, Euphoric Creativity & Divine Clarity by Gina Mazza Hillier
;D
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Post by gals on Nov 29, 2010 5:10:22 GMT -5
"Should" is a hard word to live up to. Maybe I SHOULD stop thinking of what I SHOULD do... Yes slu, you just gave yourself your own advice. Just do what you have to do. Anyway, others are quite busy living their own lives than bothering about you, don't you think? |
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Post by gals on Jan 26, 2011 22:35:51 GMT -5
If only there was a way to be content with being shy. I think that if accepted that I am not an outgoing person, I would spend less time tossing and turning at night, wondering if I will work up the nerve to speak to someone the next day. I think I could live with people saying: " He don't talk much" about me. I'm my harshest critic, though. It's me saying I SHOULD have lots of friends, that I SHOULD be hanging out this weekend, that I SHOULD have better things to do than feel sorry for myself. "Should" is a hard word to live up to. Maybe I SHOULD stop thinking of what I SHOULD do... hey, slu. It's good if you accept yourself as you are and all your imperfections. But if you want to improve yourself, then take it one step at a time. But if you think you're happy being you, then so be it--it's your decision. You always have a choice in what kind of person you want to be  |
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Post by Outcast on Apr 28, 2011 10:19:00 GMT -5
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