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Post by billd1 on Sept 9, 2008 17:50:27 GMT -5
Hello, Everyone.
I'm a new member of SHY United, possibly the newest member.
I'm using the name Bill D1, in honor of Bill W, founder of Alcoholics Anonymous, the man who really gave momentum to lay therapy groups.
I think professionals are great, but sometimes it takes one to know one, it takes one to understand one, & it takes one to help one.
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gaia
New Member
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Post by gaia on Sept 10, 2008 4:06:41 GMT -5
First of all, welcome to SU. As far as an "Anonymous" type of group is concerned, i've never heard of one for people like ourselves. I don't know if the title Social Inadequates is very appealing, but that's just my opinion. Anyway, this board is more a place for moral support than it is a 12 step programme. But you'll find that out i'm sure.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Sept 10, 2008 9:17:25 GMT -5
First of all, welcome to SU. As far as an "Anonymous" type of group is concerned, i've never heard of one for people like ourselves. I don't know if the title Social Inadequates is very appealing, but that's just my opinion. Anyway, this board is more a place for moral support than it is a 12 step programme. But you'll find that out i'm sure. yes, i agree. positive support is the stated purpose of the site. i realize 12 step programs have helped alot of people, but they aren't a good fit for everybody...and i for one would not be interested.
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Post by strawberrysweetie on Sept 10, 2008 15:42:05 GMT -5
I've never heard of anything by that exact name, but I have come across a "Social Phobics Anonymous" group. You can just search that, but here's a link to one----> www.geocities.com/seanphilib/ColoradoSPA.htmlThat one seems like a 12 step program. But then there are other groups like shyness or social anxiety meetup groups from meetup.com. The problem is that most of them are ones that are organized in big cities so it's not accessible to everyone. I've thought of trying to do something anonymously on campus...first start out by putting up flyers and seeing if anyone would even respond. But I've only thought about it. Anyway...I think it would be great to be able to have a group of people who understand this in real life....just because it would be great practice in socializing and gaining potential friendships in addition to having the support. So good luck to you in starting a group. And of course, welcome to this forum.
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Post by Naptaq on Sept 10, 2008 16:34:08 GMT -5
Welcome Bill D! I'm very happy that you're very fond of Bill W, and his work. I'm very fond of his work as well. The impact it had on society is amazing. If you count just the alcoholics anonymous groups the recovered alcoholics is probably in the millions. And if you count all the other anonymous groups the combined number is probably bigger than the population of many a country. With these Anonymous groups it's fairly easy to start them; anyone can start them. But 'Social Inadequates' might not be so inclined, as the name suggests. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/12_steps#Twelve_StepsSo I don't know, the first 3 steps can be used for anything.. maybe 11 too. I wrote a post about this some time ago.Bill, a group like you described would be great. But we work with what we have.
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Post by rukryM on Nov 18, 2008 17:00:16 GMT -5
I think here on the board, we have a lot of people who are "simply" shy, & are able to function socially despite being shy I'm shy and I have no problems going out my front door and take part in activities which are typical for a student. One might say, from your definitions {or suggestions?} that I'm a simple shy person. But I feel uncomfortable when talking to strangers, to people I know consider me odd, and to a group of individuals {approaching them and having their attention drawn towards me. It kills me}. Because of this I avoid situations like those, but if I happen to be the victim of one, I just try to behave "normally". My point is, though I'm a "simple shy person" I still have problems with social interactions, problems that are gradually escalating, I just wanted to comment on that, making it clear that being a "simple shy person" is no walk in the park, either^^. Anyway, interesting idea, this group of yours, they should have put something up like that too in my area.
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Post by rukryM on Nov 18, 2008 17:24:43 GMT -5
Yep, when it comes to for example linguistics and language knowledge in general, which is an interest of mine, I'm not afraid of speaking up in public. Otherwise, if there's a conversation about dating, living together and so on, I cannot speak of it, as I have very little experience, and it just seems far-fetched to say anything, so I keep quiet.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Nov 18, 2008 18:49:10 GMT -5
Thanks for the post, rukryM. I think there is quite a contradiction to Shy people. Some people are shy about some things, but not shy about other things. While I am shy about a lot of things, one time, a local prosecutor announced he was going to prosecute pornographic films and printed material, and he held a public meeting on the subject. I went to the meeting, probably attended by 200 or so people, and actually stood up in front of the crowd, and asked certain questions, using very explicit terms, such as "penetration," for example, that being among many things I would be normally too shy to dare even mention to any of my friends in regular, polite conversation. But, it didn't bother me, or embarass me in the least to stand up in front of that group & ask such questions. We Shy people can be quite contradictory, can't we? yep, we sure can.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Jan 4, 2009 0:12:03 GMT -5
Well, it's been almost 4 months since my first post here, & Social Inadequates Anonymous still only has 2 members. But, Bill W & Dr. Bob might have been the only 2 members of what they eventually called Alcoholics anonymous, for that long, or longer, before they had more than 2 members. do you actually have real meetings in a public place that are open to the public and post notices and all that?
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Post by Sweet Pea on Jan 4, 2009 18:21:52 GMT -5
Sweet Pea: So far, we only have had telephone meetings, and communcation by e-mail & post office mail. I have been thinking that a Social Inadequates Anonymous webpage might be the best way for people with our problem to "meet" each other. A telephone conference "meeting" would definitely be too expensive. After a few phone calls from my co-founder, I decided to say tghose calls marked the begining of Social Inadequates Anonymous, altho we didn't realize it for some time, just like Bill W & Dr. Bob with their Alcoholics Anonymous. do you actually have real meetings in a public place that are open to the public and post notices and all that? have you considered conferencing on skype (skype.com) as an inexpensive way of meeting?
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Post by burdeninhand92 on Jan 6, 2009 23:38:20 GMT -5
hey everyone. I'm new to this whole website so i don't know what I'm doing just yet. I'm probably the shyest person ever (i think at least) and i really need help to be more confident. I'm really glad that i found this website because i can finally talk about my problems and maybe get feed back from others who have the same problem as me. thanks for reading
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Post by solacefox on Jan 7, 2009 16:43:50 GMT -5
Hi burdeninhand2...welcome:)
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Post by billd1 on Jun 16, 2016 14:37:48 GMT -5
I'm now well into my eighth year as a member here.
Haven't posted in awhile, but am doing so in the hope that I can get into communication with others who share a mutual affliction.
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Post by Scotty on Jun 16, 2016 15:40:42 GMT -5
Welcome back! How have you been?
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Post by Zoe on Jun 16, 2016 22:27:56 GMT -5
I'm now well into my eighth year as a member here. Haven't posted in awhile, but am doing so in the hope that I can get into communication with others who share a mutual affliction. Hello
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