Post by famfnl on Sept 27, 2008 16:59:25 GMT -5
I tired to write about all my issues with shyness and the world around me. These are things that I just jotted down. Sorry that its reeeeally long.
My kindergarten teacher remembers me as the shy girl who sat in the front when i went back to see her after 10 years!
Since kindergarten I remember feeling all left out when we had to write letters and send them to one another…and I never got one from anybody
I’ve only gotten along with boys. I played handball, basketball with them.
I cut my hair boy short, simply because I liked it short. And some thought I was a boy and didn’t believe me when I said I was a girl.
I never had any friends to hangout with when I was young. I just played with them at school and that was it. Until 6th grade, I had no real friends.
I have a hard time finding out what career I want to pursue in. I want a job that doesn’t involve me talking a lot because of my shy problem and inability to speak (I choke up a lot)
I’m terrified of taking a speech class. I will NEVER ever take that class EVEN IF MY LIFE DEPENDED ON IT. I’m dead serious on that. That’s how bad I hate it. I know that I will choke up, faint, cry, or do something embarrassing.
I’m very emotional and sensitive.
I talk with myself to my bedroom mirror to sort out my feelings. I may seem like a crazy person but it really helps me get out the things that are on my mind. I don’t know if anybody else does this too.
May I remind you that I have absolutely no self-confidence in myself.
The only time that I do feel it is when I am dancing.
I’ve recently realized why I feel so comfortable dancing in front of crowds is because I don’t have to ever use MY VOICE!
It’s all about body movements.
I’ve never had a boyfriend.
I’ve only gone on a few dates.
The reason is because I don’t think I can handle being in a relationship even though I really want one. I really hate talking on the phone. Honestly, I really don’t like talking that much and when I do talk, I can’t communicate and explain that well to the person I am talking to. I have a communication problem.
I get so screwed up in the head that I just feel so useless and worthless in this world that I just want to end it. But I would never commit suicide. I even sometimes tell God to just take me away. I don’t belong here and I am sure of it. I feel so secluded and lost. I’m in my third year of college and am still undecided. I’ve only had one job and that lasted just 3 months because I couldn’t keep up and felt like I was going to get fired.
I ‘m just not proud of myself; not proud of who I am; I’ve been wanting to change but I find it impossible. My friend’s don’t really understand what I am going through. one of them is taking it the wrong way like it is his problem when it’s really me that is antisocial.
I’ve gotten to college and have made ZERO friends. The friends that I have now are from high school and elementary school. But I still feel like I have no friends because I can’t open up myself to them and tell them what is really going on with me. I feel totally embarrassed if I do.
I went to the career center about a week ago so I can finally decide on what I want to do with my life; to finally have a goal and a reason to live. The counselor asked me a few questions about what hobbies I’m into and what my friends could see me as being and all that. At some point, I started tearing up and she saw that. I just hate being like that. I can’t control my tears. I am so weak and don’t know how I can be strong. I couldn’t even answer simple questions like “What is your dream job?”. I answered “dancing”. Well, the reason why I teared up is because I have the talent as I have been told but I have no confidence and I can’t handle rejections and auditions and that just hurts me really bad. My heart wants to dance but I can’t get myself there because of who I am.
My parents do love me and are somewhat proud of me and all but sometimes they just put me down because I don’t talk that much and don’t put myself out there.
I am trying to find a job because I need the money to help my family out BUT I don’t have any skills. I don’t know what kind of job to apply for. I don’t want to work at the mall. I would like an office job where I won’t have to answer the phone or deal with people. But I don’t know any jobs like that. Can anybody help me out? I do type like 65 wpm and am comfortable with the computer and internet. But I don’t know, I just feel so useless and hopeless as far as finding the right job for me.
I did get a Pharmacy Technician certification but I can’t handle the environment of dealing with customers all day. I hate resolving issues (well I’m not good at it at all). I had to do my externship hours at CVS and the boss liked me and my coworkers but I just didn’t feel like I belonged there. I could get hired there but I don’t want to fail them. I know I will be asking them millions of questions and I’ll forget how to handle each situation. I just need a quiet environment where I can just go in and do my work and come out. I know that that kind of job won’t help me with my sociable problem but it’ll make me feel comfortable.
Also, I’ve always struggled with giving presentations to the class ever since my first one in 7th grade. I talk very low, and didn’t know what to say. I got all nervous and choked up many times. And because of me, my friends and I got a “D” on our final project for our statistics class because I only said like 10 words throughout or whole presentation.
I need to change but I honestly don’t know how.
I’ve met a guy online and we’ve chatted for many months now and we both like each other a lot. We’ve talked a few times on the phone. He’s actually the one who’s mostly talking. I don’t know why he still likes me because of that. He knows that I have a shy issue and he says he does too but I don’t believe it because he sounds so comfortable on the phone. I’ve blew him off twice when he asked me out because I’m scared that I won’t say a single word. I just don’t know what to do. He told me last night that he’s going to soon ask me to be his gf but we haven’t even gone on a DATE! I just don’t get it lol I feel like I’m doing all the wrong things but he’s still interested in me.
Every time I get close to a guy, I start to push them away. I feel like I won’t be able to handle being in a relationship. I know I will have to give it a try some time to get over my fear because I am 20 years old!
Working in retail also freaks the hell out of me. Places like Macys, Forever 21, Anchor Blue, etc I can’t ever see myself doing that job because I will for sure screw it up.
Ahhh I don’t know I just want to curl up with my ipod and live in my dreams where I don’t ever have to wake up.
Here’s a dancing video of myself on youtube:
This is the only way I truly feel comfortable and confident with myself, so I share it with others to make me feel better.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=u9prXleBRR0
If you read all of it, I thank you so so so much. Or even half of it or just any of it really. Thank you for listening to what I have to say. It means a lot!
My kindergarten teacher remembers me as the shy girl who sat in the front when i went back to see her after 10 years!
Since kindergarten I remember feeling all left out when we had to write letters and send them to one another…and I never got one from anybody
I’ve only gotten along with boys. I played handball, basketball with them.
I cut my hair boy short, simply because I liked it short. And some thought I was a boy and didn’t believe me when I said I was a girl.
I never had any friends to hangout with when I was young. I just played with them at school and that was it. Until 6th grade, I had no real friends.
I have a hard time finding out what career I want to pursue in. I want a job that doesn’t involve me talking a lot because of my shy problem and inability to speak (I choke up a lot)
I’m terrified of taking a speech class. I will NEVER ever take that class EVEN IF MY LIFE DEPENDED ON IT. I’m dead serious on that. That’s how bad I hate it. I know that I will choke up, faint, cry, or do something embarrassing.
I’m very emotional and sensitive.
I talk with myself to my bedroom mirror to sort out my feelings. I may seem like a crazy person but it really helps me get out the things that are on my mind. I don’t know if anybody else does this too.
May I remind you that I have absolutely no self-confidence in myself.
The only time that I do feel it is when I am dancing.
I’ve recently realized why I feel so comfortable dancing in front of crowds is because I don’t have to ever use MY VOICE!
It’s all about body movements.
I’ve never had a boyfriend.
I’ve only gone on a few dates.
The reason is because I don’t think I can handle being in a relationship even though I really want one. I really hate talking on the phone. Honestly, I really don’t like talking that much and when I do talk, I can’t communicate and explain that well to the person I am talking to. I have a communication problem.
I get so screwed up in the head that I just feel so useless and worthless in this world that I just want to end it. But I would never commit suicide. I even sometimes tell God to just take me away. I don’t belong here and I am sure of it. I feel so secluded and lost. I’m in my third year of college and am still undecided. I’ve only had one job and that lasted just 3 months because I couldn’t keep up and felt like I was going to get fired.
I ‘m just not proud of myself; not proud of who I am; I’ve been wanting to change but I find it impossible. My friend’s don’t really understand what I am going through. one of them is taking it the wrong way like it is his problem when it’s really me that is antisocial.
I’ve gotten to college and have made ZERO friends. The friends that I have now are from high school and elementary school. But I still feel like I have no friends because I can’t open up myself to them and tell them what is really going on with me. I feel totally embarrassed if I do.
I went to the career center about a week ago so I can finally decide on what I want to do with my life; to finally have a goal and a reason to live. The counselor asked me a few questions about what hobbies I’m into and what my friends could see me as being and all that. At some point, I started tearing up and she saw that. I just hate being like that. I can’t control my tears. I am so weak and don’t know how I can be strong. I couldn’t even answer simple questions like “What is your dream job?”. I answered “dancing”. Well, the reason why I teared up is because I have the talent as I have been told but I have no confidence and I can’t handle rejections and auditions and that just hurts me really bad. My heart wants to dance but I can’t get myself there because of who I am.
My parents do love me and are somewhat proud of me and all but sometimes they just put me down because I don’t talk that much and don’t put myself out there.
I am trying to find a job because I need the money to help my family out BUT I don’t have any skills. I don’t know what kind of job to apply for. I don’t want to work at the mall. I would like an office job where I won’t have to answer the phone or deal with people. But I don’t know any jobs like that. Can anybody help me out? I do type like 65 wpm and am comfortable with the computer and internet. But I don’t know, I just feel so useless and hopeless as far as finding the right job for me.
I did get a Pharmacy Technician certification but I can’t handle the environment of dealing with customers all day. I hate resolving issues (well I’m not good at it at all). I had to do my externship hours at CVS and the boss liked me and my coworkers but I just didn’t feel like I belonged there. I could get hired there but I don’t want to fail them. I know I will be asking them millions of questions and I’ll forget how to handle each situation. I just need a quiet environment where I can just go in and do my work and come out. I know that that kind of job won’t help me with my sociable problem but it’ll make me feel comfortable.
Also, I’ve always struggled with giving presentations to the class ever since my first one in 7th grade. I talk very low, and didn’t know what to say. I got all nervous and choked up many times. And because of me, my friends and I got a “D” on our final project for our statistics class because I only said like 10 words throughout or whole presentation.
I need to change but I honestly don’t know how.
I’ve met a guy online and we’ve chatted for many months now and we both like each other a lot. We’ve talked a few times on the phone. He’s actually the one who’s mostly talking. I don’t know why he still likes me because of that. He knows that I have a shy issue and he says he does too but I don’t believe it because he sounds so comfortable on the phone. I’ve blew him off twice when he asked me out because I’m scared that I won’t say a single word. I just don’t know what to do. He told me last night that he’s going to soon ask me to be his gf but we haven’t even gone on a DATE! I just don’t get it lol I feel like I’m doing all the wrong things but he’s still interested in me.
Every time I get close to a guy, I start to push them away. I feel like I won’t be able to handle being in a relationship. I know I will have to give it a try some time to get over my fear because I am 20 years old!
Working in retail also freaks the hell out of me. Places like Macys, Forever 21, Anchor Blue, etc I can’t ever see myself doing that job because I will for sure screw it up.
Ahhh I don’t know I just want to curl up with my ipod and live in my dreams where I don’t ever have to wake up.
Here’s a dancing video of myself on youtube:
This is the only way I truly feel comfortable and confident with myself, so I share it with others to make me feel better.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=u9prXleBRR0
If you read all of it, I thank you so so so much. Or even half of it or just any of it really. Thank you for listening to what I have to say. It means a lot!