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Post by GoldenRose82 on Aug 16, 2009 23:53:27 GMT -5
I can relate as well. And like Nicole555 and Jai, I also don't speak unless spoken to. Then when I do give a response it's a short, direct one that does not lead to further conversation, which results in more difficulty in trying to make a connection. It's not that I don't want to talk to people, it's just that my mind remains totally blank, and it's even a struggle to come up with short, simple answers a lot of the time. Most people just try talking to me once or twice, and when they find I'm just not capable of holding a conversation like most others, they give up and pretend I don't exist anymore.
I have a 3 or 4 people I consider friends, but I never see them face to face, cause even with friends I have a hard time thinking of things to say, and it usually just ends up being awkward. I haven't had a conversation with a friend face to face in about a year and a half I think, and then that friend thankfully seems to not mind that they do about 99% of the talking while I just smile and nod like an idiot. It's a really frustrating and lonely existence...
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Post by bigl209 on Aug 19, 2009 18:50:04 GMT -5
It's a really frustrating and lonely existence... It truly is. I want to show people my true personality but that only comes out when I'm doing something (basketball/music/drinking) that puts me in a zone where i am not worried social acceptance
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Post by madiocre on Sept 27, 2009 6:33:25 GMT -5
yeah i think i go through cycles too. I felt like I was making progress and that I had come a long way in reguards to my shyness. I feel pretty skeptical now and like maybe I'm slipping whic is something I reallt don't wanna do and I don't know how to stay a float.
I didnt quite realise it till my b/f pointed it out but sometimes I use alcohol as crutch for it. I think it all depends on what is going on my life in general though. Right now I'm looking for employment and I'm not having any luck. I went for an interview the other day I could sleep the night before because I was afraid I was going to sleep in/ not get enough sleep then when i got to the place I bumbled so much and mixed all my words up. I'm finishing off my diploma course with new people that i wasn't with before and i seem to be having issues making friends. Igo between two groups that i feel mixed up with because i don't really fit anywhere. by befriending both groups I'm not really making any real connection like i could because I'm more a floater. It's feels a little lonely. I don't seem to be having as much time with my friends from outside tafe either our schedules are not mashing like they used to this saddens me.
And i have totally gotten off track and gone all apeship talking about myself like me me me blah blah blah but yeah
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Post by collegeshy on Oct 24, 2009 10:56:52 GMT -5
I never make that connection with many people. There's only been 3 people that a connections ever been made and they are my closest friends to this day. Just felt comfortable around them and I could be myself. They even found me funny! That's the way I am too. I have a few close friends that I can be myself around. But around most other people, I feel uncomfortable; kind of inhibited. It also sort of depends on the person. If, for some strange reason, I feel really comfortable with the person right off the bat, then I'm fine. But, like Raspberry was saying, you have conversations with people that don't materialize into any sort of relationship. Sometimes I think the more time you are forced to be around someone (and if that someone is compatible with you) then the more likely you are to become friends. Like, say, a roommate.
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Post by tylo on Dec 5, 2009 17:39:13 GMT -5
I also can't seem to make a connection with people. I never had any friends growing up, no friends in school, no friends at work. I got good at ballroom dancing and a lot of girls wanted to dance with me but I was never able to make a connection with them. In my 30's I did make my first friend. But their busy with their life and we rarely hang out.
Now I found Aiko, I think she's the greatest.
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Post by bleaknunhappy on Dec 26, 2009 19:57:26 GMT -5
I feel the same way, especially when meeting new people with a group of friends. I'll find that after introductions, I have alot of trouble talking about myself or even just making idle small talk while other people just are immediately deep into conversation, doesn't help much when it comes to making friends. I try to fight through it but shes a slow process...never give up
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Post by adriana on Feb 25, 2010 1:44:17 GMT -5
" It seems that even when I do talk to people at university or wherever else nothing ever develops further. It's just a conversation and then a parting of the ways."
Ah, I'm supposed to be starting University this fall and I always figured It'd be okay that I would somehow come out of my shell all of a sudden once i stepped through the doors, but I'm learning now it all just doesn't magically happen like that.
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Post by dead24 on Jun 14, 2010 6:12:03 GMT -5
Most people just try talking to me once or twice, and when they find I'm just not capable of holding a conversation like most others, they give up and pretend I don't exist anymore. im the same; and they become so uncomfortable and awkward with me afterwards. So i end up avoiding being with people for long periods of time so they wouldn't find out that i can't make interesting conversations.
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