Don't know what to do

[rudy]

hi i'm 16 and am surrounded by beautiful girls at my school. problem is i'm to shy to talk ot any of them...i can't even saying hi. them ost frustrating thing is that iknow i have all these great things going for me like a deep voice, smart, power lifter, athletic, funny as hell and am over 6'1, but i'm to introverted to do anything with it, while i watch some jackass walk away with girl of my dreams.

any thoughts or ideas to overcome this? thanks

[rudy]

and i have been worrying myself sick over it to tthe point of depression and suicidal thoughts cuz of my acne and braces making me self-conscious.

[tylo]

I use to be have the same problem. I was too shy to say hi to anyone. Until I decided to work on it. Being in my late 30's I had to go to stores so there would be people around to try to say hi too.

When I first started my goal was to say Hi to 5 women. It took over 2 hours walking around the store to say Hi to these 5 women. It was really hard at first and I could barely squeak out the word Hi. But each time I went to the store to work on saying Hi I was able to say my 5 Hi's in less time. Sometime the women would say Hi back sometimes they wouldn't. When a woman didn't say Hi back. It really bothered my at first but I Kept working on saying Hi.

After awhile saying Hi got easier and easier. I could say Hi to any girl and it no longer bothered me if she didn't say Hi back. The more confident I got at saying Hi the more woman would say hi back. Some would even start talking to me.

If you start saying to girls most will say hi back.

[strawberrysweetie]

^ tylos' advice sounds pretty good. Start out small, baby steps...and try and work your way up to things that might be more difficult for you.

Dec 2, 2009 17:05:44 GMT -5 rudy said:

hi i'm 16 and am surrounded by beautiful girls at my school. problem is i'm to shy to talk ot any of them...i can't even saying hi. them ost frustrating thing is that iknow i have all these great things going for me like a deep voice, smart, power lifter, athletic, funny as hell and am over 6'1, but i'm to introverted to do anything with it, while i watch some jackass walk away with girl of my dreams.

any thoughts or ideas to overcome this? thanks

Well, I just want to say that....for one, high school is difficult to begin with. Many people have so many insecurities during this time. And in regards to the other things you mentioned....not sure how bad it is for you, but the acne may be only a teenager thing for you. Have you tried treatments? And the braces are definitely a temporary thing. In time, these two things should go away.

The second thing that sticks out to me is that you do have inner confidence. You're able to point out good things about yourself at least. That's great.

You may be the type that really blossoms in college. Many people seem to.

Anyway, the important thing is to not give up now. High school can be very hard in social terms, but it is temporary. There are bigger and better things out there. And more girls out there. If the girl you like goes after some jerk, then maybe she's not really all that great herself. You have plenty of time to find someone.

Sorry I don't really have any advice on how to stop fearing the opposite sex, but it really can get better with time. There will be more opportunities. I wish you good luck.