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Post by Tal on Aug 24, 2010 13:39:41 GMT -5
Maybe I just have an over-active mind or something....or too much imagination. lol Do you do any creative writing? If you have a good imagination, perhaps you could be good at writing fiction? I used to write stories, but I couldn't do it anymore as I felt more disconnected from the world, like I couldn't write anything that would be of any relevance to anyone. I hope I'll be able to write creatively again one day, though, because creative writing is one of the few things that can make me feel as if I have some value. I'd like to write some stories, but I don't at present. I'm too depressed and lonely to get much motivation to write and like you say I doubt whether whatever I have to write will be of much relevance to anyone. Hopefully one day my imagination will allow me to come up with some great stories. Yeah I know what you mean strawberry...would be nice to have some of that interpersonal intelligence for a change. lol
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Post by lostmyself on Jul 8, 2011 10:05:12 GMT -5
I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels like this because it always feels as though I am. I have a poor memory and trouble really concentrating. When you can't remember the name of a song or a movie or what happened in a book you read it takes away things that could potentially be a conversation with someone. That's part of the reason I avoid debating online...because even if I have an opinion I find it difficult to express it and defend it against much more confident people. I feel like this too as although I have opinions on plenty of things, I don't have much confidence in my knowledge to properly debate it.
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Post by marle on Jul 8, 2011 19:04:27 GMT -5
lostmyself, I'm much the same when it comes to remembering details. And I definitely think that has hurt me in conversations. I'm very good at understanding and remembering patterns - information that relates to other information in a logical way. I'm also good with concepts, structures, "whole picture" thinking. Details, not so much. Very few things actually interest me so that is another reason not to remember things, as memory is closely related to emotion. I'm slower to come up with the right words and pieces of information to keep a conversation going. I'm also not creative, I think I lost my creativity in my teenage years. These are intellectual deficiencies that hurt my life, but because I'm a logical-thinking person with some intellectual interests (more emphasis on 'interests', less on knowledge), I may seem like a smart person. I think my deficiencies and my strengths on the whole balance out each other (I'm being optimistic here).
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Post by Audio the obscure on Jun 7, 2013 0:07:40 GMT -5
I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels like this because it always feels as though I am. I have a poor memory and trouble really concentrating. When you can't remember the name of a song or a movie or what happened in a book you read it takes away things that could potentially be a conversation with someone. That's part of the reason I avoid debating online...because even if I have an opinion I find it difficult to express it and defend it against much more confident people. I feel like this too as although I have opinions on plenty of things, I don't have much confidence in my knowledge to properly debate it. That's my problem - the memory of a title of a movie or a song, or anything along that line. Some days it seems I'm not too bad, and other days my brain just seems like it's frozen or something. I, too, think low self esteem or low confidence contributes to feeling unintelligent. I feel the same way as Tal in regard to debates. I've presented (in my opinion) some logical arguments, but only in email, and one on one with one or two people at different times of course. I think I "could" debate, but I'm just too lacking in confidence to do it in the forums; and also for the second reason of being too nervous and high strung to "hold my own" in such an undertaking, publicly at least. When I'm feeling low (as is usual for me), I feel very unintelligent, especially if I've made a social "faux pas" (as I'd done earlier, hence my feeling like "crap", as I said in another thread in the general section). But the reason behind the mistake was caused by a mental or a brain problem, not shyness, or anything of a more "social" nature, as it were. For many years, especially in the 90s, I called myself "stupid". I tried to work on that this century, and I had conquered it for a while. But it's coming back on me again of late. I haven't really made much effort lately to squash that as the feeling is strong now, unfortunately. I expect a lot of myself, and haven't delivered; and there is so much more I could say about that *sighs*. I feel guilty that I haven't lived up to my aspirations. I wrote a song about it when I was a teenager, not even 16 yet, and the old bitterness (self hatred) is back again full force. It's very difficult for me to keep an "open mind" and to try not to think of myself as "stupid" or unintelligent, when stuff in my life comes up that seems to reinforce my belief (and I don't want it to). I'd give anything to not "see evidence" (even if it is just blind "evidence") of my own stupidity staring me in the face each day or through my deeds and/or especially words. I can't really explain it any more or any better. It's just how I feel. And I wish I didn't feel this way.
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