I think everyone should read up on buddhism. I'm not saying everyone should become a buddhist (it's a philosophy anyway, even if people do treat it as a religion), but there's a lot of really interesting things to learn about and some stuff that can be applied to the real world. I'm reading "The Complete Idiot's Guide to Understanding Buddhism" right now and it is truly fascinating (and insightful!)
I've just bought Overcoming Social Anxiety and Shyness, by Professor Gillian Butler. It's got an exercise section in it too. I'll have read it by this time next week, so I'll come back on and write about it. Has anyone else read it? It's got good reviews on Amazon anyway!
I've been reading "From Shy To Social: The Shy Man's Guide to Personal & Dating Success". Its a pretty easy and interesting read and its written by someone who had problems with shyness and social anxiety and overcame it. It has some great ideas and exercises to improve yourself that can be used by women as well.
I usually Google about tips on how to overcome shyness and how to build self-esteem. But if you want a specific book to read, you might be interested with Overcom Shyness 101 , that's what I am reading at the moment. I helped me a lot and I hope it will help you too.
I thought the Shyness Research Institute site was pretty interesting. I found myself agreeing with most of the things they mentioned there on overcoming shyness. Still, knowing doesn't necessarily mean doing them will be easy. Especially when you often end up feeling bad after trying to. It's not easy to control one's emotions or put into practice something you're not really accustomed to.
Well, i think both sites are pretty helpful. It would not hurt to try and give them a look.
Doing and saying the wrong things most of the time 24/7. Being me means having to endure people not liking me.