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Post by skyhint on Oct 5, 2011 4:28:29 GMT -5
Does antyone here believe that you will go to hell for losing your virginity beffore marriage?
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Post by geekguy on Oct 5, 2011 5:53:24 GMT -5
Does antyone here believe that you will go to hell for losing your virginity beffore marriage? That there is some good comedy material ;D
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Oct 16, 2011 19:47:51 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on Oct 16, 2011 19:47:51 GMT -5
I've read there's been several studies showing the more lifetime sexual partners you have the higher the chance of divorce. Two virgins together have the lowest chance of divorce, when they lose their virginity to each other doesn't have any effect.
And I've never had any problems with people laughing at me or anything like that when I've told them I'm a virgin. Sex is a subject that came up often when I was a Las Vegas construction worker, nobody cared about my virginity.
I've never told a woman that I'm a virgin. But if a woman had a problem with it I'd just go looking for another woman, she cares too much about things that aren't important long term.
And I don't believe that anyone is going to hell for losing their virginity before marriage, but considering the possible consequences of sex before marriage, like diseases, unwanted kids and higher chance of divorce, it's an overall bad idea.
P.S. I'm also the son of a teenage single mother, that has had a big effect on my image of myself. Growing up I heard on tv how people like me end up being criminals and are just overall a drain on society, things have changed and I haven't heard much about what a bad person I'm supposed to be in years, but its caused me problems for no good reason.
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Nov 24, 2011 1:37:49 GMT -5
Post by dumpling on Nov 24, 2011 1:37:49 GMT -5
Nothing wrong with being a virgin. Some girls even prefer it! It has no bearings on what type of person you are inside. Virginity usually has little to do with anything. I'm a virgin and I rarely even think or care about it. If that makes me a prude so be it.
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Jan 21, 2012 14:03:56 GMT -5
Post by silence on Jan 21, 2012 14:03:56 GMT -5
Honestly I have no romantic or moral attachments to virginity/sex. I'd prefer to just get it other with. It would be much easier to deal with if I wanted to wait for the right guy because that's what I believe in, but I don't the reason I've never been with a guy is because I'm ugly and shy. I agree with the people saying it makes them feel childlike. btw I would never judge someone who wanted to (safely) sleep around or judge someone who wanted to wait, these are only my feelings for myself. My only experience has been when some dirty old man grabbed me and forced his tongue down my throat. Which I don't count so technically I've never even kissed anyone either. Last year I had a chance with a guy, I went to see a band and he was in the queue so I stood with him for a bit. He was french and hardly spoke any english so it was easy as we had no way to talk to each other! He was really hot too very good looking, I would say he was even pretty and slightly on the chubby side, which I really like in a guy. To make it even better he was cosplaying one of the members in the band his outfit was amazing. Don't laugh at me. Anyway after the gig I decided to hang out a bit as I was high from the show and didn't want to go home. I met back up with him and he started trying to come on to me, however by this point the band was leaving and I wanted to wave goodbye to them so I kind of ignored him. I was interested but no one comes in between me and my band. After they left I realised I had a great chance with this guy and that I should just invite him back to the b&b I was staying at. It would have been a perfect chance for a one night stand even if I didn't know what I was doing he couldn't tell me and I knew I'd never see him again. Sadly by the time I worked myself up to it he'd gone, I saw him walking away in the distance Now looking back I'm hitting myself, was probably a once in a lifetime opportunity for me. I know some people would say I might regret having my first time with a stranger but right now I regret not doing it much more. oops probably writing a bit much but I just wanted to get that out. I'm an idiot and no man will ever look at me again blah blah blah, virgin forever. And realistically even if a guy does come on to me again I'll probably freak out and ignore him because I'm shy. edit: just wanted to add I'm not bothered if a guy is a virgin or if he has experience. However the moment a guy starts degrading women and calling them sluts that's a major turn off for me. Wouldn't want to be with a guy like that.
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Jan 22, 2012 12:56:15 GMT -5
Post by Tal on Jan 22, 2012 12:56:15 GMT -5
I know how you feel silence. It sucks when half chances vanish as quickly as they appear. I've missed a few over the years - not sure if they were down to my mistakes or bad luck, but still it makes you feel sad all the same.
I guess all you can do is learn from the missed opportunities and try and catch them next time.
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Jan 24, 2012 19:21:18 GMT -5
Post by marle on Jan 24, 2012 19:21:18 GMT -5
As far as the "by choice" virginity goes (which doesn't apply to all of us, of course):
I'd really like to see a non-conservative TV show depict virgins in a way that isn't a joke. All virgins-by-choice are depicted as uptight nutcases, from what I've seen in the U.S. Someone has got to realize it's just another personal choice for some people.
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Apr 22, 2012 17:33:14 GMT -5
Post by anticrank on Apr 22, 2012 17:33:14 GMT -5
I think that modern society has cheapened sex beyond all recognition. I don't believe in no sex till marriage, yet I totally disagree with the current disposable attitude to relationships. Over here in the UK people's attitude and shear lack of value towards sex is shocking. It's just incredible how people effectively behave like whores yet have no shame at all. It's not uncommon for many people to lose their virginity pissed, and in some cases not to know the person they did it with! What's worrying is that people feel pressure to at young ages. My view is that you should at least be with someone with whom you have rapport with and who you can trust. The thing I really dislike about the modern/western attitude to sex is the disposable/throwaway view of it. I think that the net result is to create a toxic dating scene; one that favours the small minority of players, yet leaves the average joe in a nightmarish hell. Courtship is now a thing of the past. It's no longer about whether you're a good companion, it's now about whether you'll 'give em one', if you know what I mean. Of course, if sex is cheapened to such a degree in people's mind, people don't value it as anything special and it gets disconnected from love. It's definitely true that the more sexual partners one has had, the more likely they are to cheat, especially one-night-stands and throwaway relationships. It's definitely one of the factors in divorce and family breakdown in the west. I could come up with a list as long as my arm on how this attitude to sex has worsened society. How come there are so many people who go out of their way to preach that casual sex is natural and those that don't agree with it have something wrong with them? People have tried to persuade me to lose it to a one-night stand. I never have done. Don't agree with it, would rather do it the more natural way with a relationship; rapport, love and trust. The depressing thing is, that good relationship material is hard to find, thanks in part, I believe, to what's been described. I'd really like to see a non-conservative TV show depict virgins in a way that isn't a joke. All virgins-by-choice are depicted as uptight nutcases, from what I've seen in the U.S. Someone has got to realize it's just another personal choice for some people. Read more: shyunited.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=shyr&action=post&thread=9232&page=2#ixzz1soHYYtMBAgree with you, it is a personal choice, one that shouldn't be respected. I think that for many people, virginity is not a choice, considering how nightmarish the dating scene is today.
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Apr 22, 2012 21:32:16 GMT -5
Post by marle on Apr 22, 2012 21:32:16 GMT -5
Since I don't have experience in that area, I feel like I can't really judge everyone who has casual sex. I know I don't want it (casually). From my vantage point, I don't feel pressured to have casual sex, but I feel pressure to have had sex at some point in my life (of course it being different for females and all). Truthfully, I don't get a lot of direct pressure because I don't socialize a lot with other people. But it's going to become a bigger thing as I age. I all ready see myself as a 50-year-old virgin at some point. But I hear the older you get, the less you care what others think, so maybe the stigma won't matter that much.
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May 8, 2012 19:26:05 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on May 8, 2012 19:26:05 GMT -5
I would say he was even pretty and slightly on the chubby side, which I really like in a guy. So women don't mind if a guys a little chubby, the extra weight I carry isn't overall disgusting to women. Reading that puts me in a good mood for some reason. Maybe I won't spend all my life a virgin. Now if I could just talk to a woman, that might get me a relationship.
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