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Post by nghtrain36 on Nov 23, 2010 20:02:34 GMT -5
What do you do if you like certain things, but can't find anyone else that does? I have searched for so long for a girl that is into the same stuff I'm into, but it's like all the girls that like my kind of things have gone extinct! I'll admit right now I'm a pretty damn big nerd, but wouldn't there be female nerds as well? I've tried so many different sites but it seems like they are just dead, and there is no one in my entire county that is like me. It's a bad thing to be one of a kind! I seem to have the right personality traits to keep a girlfriend, but I can't seem to find one yet! I know that there probably aren't too many girls that are into video games, anime, etc but there has to be at least a few. My social anxiety doesn't help much either, usually when I'm around a female I just go dead silent. And if I don't get help soon, my lovesickness will eat me alive! I write stories every day about a life I wish I had, just to stave off the sickness. Is there any to help a deadlocked lover like me?
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Post by soulelectroluv on Nov 23, 2010 23:05:44 GMT -5
Out of curiosity, what are your interests?
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Post by madiocre on Nov 24, 2010 5:46:36 GMT -5
well you dont necessarily need to have the same interests. do you any type of music that can be a common ground, moviies general things like that . If you are nerdy thats not such a nad thing some girls go for that . If they like the same things i can see that makes it easier but you dont need to like the same things . My bf is a big gamer he plays poker at least 3 times a week and every other night plays magic the gathering online...both things i have given a go but not really found an interest in personally yet i think our relationship.
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Post by madiocre on Nov 24, 2010 5:47:01 GMT -5
ohh and like he said what are your interests
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Post by nghtrain36 on Nov 24, 2010 7:54:18 GMT -5
Interests: Trance music, Video Games, Anime, Manga, Toy collecting, Fantasy and Sci-Fi books, I haven't watched no more than probably 6 movies in my lifetime (one of them being Transformers), studying, drawing, writing, and working on my laptop. All of my hobbies though, are not taken lightly unfortunately. I'm pretty big on all of my hobbies, and it's hard to find anyone willing to go as far as me.
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Post by madiocre on Nov 24, 2010 8:13:59 GMT -5
you say you hav ethe right personality traits to keep a gf.....perhaps you don't have the time ?
relationships need time you need to start with the dating then its ongoing invest ment of time together even if she liked all those things it would be hard for you really to spend qualty time together reading, drawing etc if you get what i mean.
But dont give up hope as i said b4 there many women out there who go for guys who like that sort of thing. sometime just a passion is all you need. as i said b4 i couldnt care less about poker but my bf often rattles on about tournaments i dont understand what he is saying but love hearing the excitement in his voice. simalrly im sure he couldnt care less about the children i work with but i always talk about them and he listens, i love art too he couldnt care less but travelled interstate with me just to go see some perticular paintings.
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Post by nghtrain36 on Nov 24, 2010 16:59:56 GMT -5
Well that's another thing. I have plenty of time to invest in a relationship, heck I'd give up even my deepest hobbies just to spend time with the one I love. I have alot of my hobbies because I have TOO MUCH time on my hands. The main problem is that I can't find anyone no matter where I look, too many people just ignore me. I've looked into different websites, different areas in my neighborhood, some of my friends friends, and more but I can't find anyone who is willing to devote a little time for me! They just shrug me off like "We never dated, he just tried and I was uninterested"
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Post by soulelectroluv on Nov 24, 2010 19:48:23 GMT -5
Interests: Trance music, Video Games, Anime, Manga, Toy collecting, Fantasy and Sci-Fi books, I haven't watched no more than probably 6 movies in my lifetime (one of them being Transformers), studying, drawing, writing, and working on my laptop. All of my hobbies though, are not taken lightly unfortunately. I'm pretty big on all of my hobbies, and it's hard to find anyone willing to go as far as me. I am actually shocked. I always find ppl with those interest, but not those exact interest. One thing I've learned is that no one is going to have exactly what u are looking for. For example, I love designers japanese toys, but don't collect them because they're pricey and I'd rather have new clothes. I looove video games, but can live without anime. My genres are french electro, house, techno and underground hiphop...but dnt like trance. Your last for hobbies are my favs too :-). Please do not let it get you down, I think its best to stay first with ppl of similiar interests and let the sparks fly from there. |
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Post by Scotty on Nov 24, 2010 20:52:18 GMT -5
Like others haven said, you're never going to find someone with the exact same interests as you, but I happen to know several nerdy girls who are into several of those things. Just don't give up looking.  |
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Post by nghtrain36 on Nov 25, 2010 0:31:30 GMT -5
All great advice, but I don't expect to find anyone with the EXACT same interests. Maybe just a couple, or someone that accepts my unusual hobbies. Now that the hobby thing is out of the way, where the bloody hell do I look? I can't find too many active websites any more for dating, and especially for my kind. Heck I'd settle for a girl that doesn't treat me like crap like all the others do, a good personality perhaps? No one in my region falls under 'good' personality, and I have bad luck online. Where else can I search??
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Post by Jeremy on Nov 26, 2010 17:47:47 GMT -5
I know various people (women included) who share some of my interests, but I am a massiove cricket fan, and have really only met one lady (who is now actually married to one one of my closest friends) who would for axample, probably be interested enough to come and watch me play in a match. One of my other main interests is also science fiction, and I know several women who also have this interest to one degree or other, but not, for instance the same series or films. And in a similar way i'm not so into reading books. But if you click in other ways I think there would be some 'natural' compromise of interests and hobbies, I think that's the only way relationships work from that point of view. However being a complete social dullard I may of course be talking coplete and utter nonesense,  ,but that's just the way I see things. |
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Post by Stranger on Nov 30, 2010 0:42:35 GMT -5
What do you do if you like certain things, but can't find anyone else that does? I have searched for so long for a girl that is into the same stuff I'm into, but it's like all the girls that like my kind of things have gone extinct! ... I know that there probably aren't too many girls that are into video games, anime, etc but there has to be at least a few. ... Is there any to help a deadlocked lover like me? You don't need to share most of your interests, although it helps if you're at least into the fact that they're into the things they're into, if that makes sense, lol. It's actually kinda cool if there are things you can learn off each other. It's stuff like sense of humor and personality that usually need to be more closely aligned, IMO. All great advice, but I don't expect to find anyone with the EXACT same interests. Maybe just a couple, or someone that accepts my unusual hobbies. Now that the hobby thing is out of the way, where the bloody hell do I look? I can't find too many active websites any more for dating, and especially for my kind. Heck I'd settle for a girl that doesn't treat me like crap like all the others do, a good personality perhaps? No one in my region falls under 'good' personality, and I have bad luck online. Where else can I search?? That's quite a turnaround from the tone of your original post. Forgive the bluntness, but it feels rather aggressive and off-putting to me. Rather than assume there is no medium through which you could meet suitable people, could it be that there's something in your personality that makes it hard for people to connect with you? I mean aside from shyness/anxiety. |
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Post by soulelectroluv on Nov 30, 2010 2:42:20 GMT -5
Sorry, I just had to come back to correct my typos. This is what I get for replying by phone.
"For example, I love designer Japanese toys, but don't collect them because they're pricey and I'd rather have new clothes. I looove video games, but can live without anime. My genres are french electro, house, techno and underground hiphop...but I dont like trance. Your last four hobbies are my favorites too :-).
Please do not let it get you down, I think its best to stay
friends first with people of similiar interests and let the sparks fly from there."
I wonder what your personality is like as well....
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Post by nghtrain36 on Nov 30, 2010 7:38:00 GMT -5
What do you do if you like certain things, but can't find anyone else that does? I have searched for so long for a girl that is into the same stuff I'm into, but it's like all the girls that like my kind of things have gone extinct! ... I know that there probably aren't too many girls that are into video games, anime, etc but there has to be at least a few. ... Is there any to help a deadlocked lover like me? You don't need to share most of your interests, although it helps if you're at least into the fact that they're into the things they're into, if that makes sense, lol. It's actually kinda cool if there are things you can learn off each other. It's stuff like sense of humor and personality that usually need to be more closely aligned, IMO. All great advice, but I don't expect to find anyone with the EXACT same interests. Maybe just a couple, or someone that accepts my unusual hobbies. Now that the hobby thing is out of the way, where the bloody hell do I look? I can't find too many active websites any more for dating, and especially for my kind. Heck I'd settle for a girl that doesn't treat me like crap like all the others do, a good personality perhaps? No one in my region falls under 'good' personality, and I have bad luck online. Where else can I search?? That's quite a turnaround from the tone of your original post. Forgive the bluntness, but it feels rather aggressive and off-putting to me. Rather than assume there is no medium through which you could meet suitable people, could it be that there's something in your personality that makes it hard for people to connect with you? I mean aside from shyness/anxiety. Could be, I wouldn't know directly what could be keeping me from connecting. In my own opinion, it's that I'm only able to talk about stuff I know about. So I guess I should try to find someone that would want to get to know the stuff I like? |
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Post by nghtrain36 on Nov 30, 2010 7:42:18 GMT -5
Sorry, I just had to come back to correct my typos. This is what I get for replying by phone. "For example, I love designer Japanese toys, but don't collect them because they're pricey and I'd rather have new clothes. I looove video games, but can live without anime. My genres are french electro, house, techno and underground hiphop...but I dont like trance. Your last four hobbies are my favorites too :-). Please do not let it get you down, I think its best to stay friends first with people of similiar interests and let the sparks fly from there." I wonder what your personality is like as well.... Personality? That's alot of different aspects to explain for me. Depends on what your specifically looking for. |
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,but that's just the way I see things. 