I asked a woman out

[putter65]

First time in 12 years. I did it using facebook. Not a great way I know, but I couldn't do it face to face.

It was such an ordeal for me, crazy really how it made me feel. I guess that's why I'm 42 and single.

As long as I get a nice 'no' that's all I'm bothered about. I would hate it if she ignores my message or I get into trouble over it.

[putter65]

It was a nice knock back.

I suppose I've got the long road of getting over this now !

[Scotty]

Well done on at least asking I've been unable to do that for a long time.

[putter65]

It wasn't easy and there was no way I could do it face to face.

I suppose Facebook was a good way of doing it.

[Scotty]

Yeah, I can usually never find a good moment to ask face to face, and then I get too nervous.

[putter65]

God I know !

Face to Face would be awfull although I used to do it years ago !

I think what makes it so awfull is the 'knowing' you are going to get a knock back. Some blokes must ask women out and get a 'yes' I suppose. God knows how though !

[gals]

So putter, how did it go?

The woman you asked via Facebook I mean,. Any follow ups from you and any updates from that asking out?

[putter65]

Jesus ! How do I start ?

I asked her out via facebook, she sent a message saying it would have been nice but she's just met someone. Ok, She then is very nice to me and never mentions it. We get on the same (Probably better). She then leaves for another shop and we have 3 days of the biggest emotional goodbye of my life; she cries alot, I offer support. I bought her a present, she cries again. We hug each other, all sorts. I've never been through anything like this before. She tells me how she loved working with me, she gives me her mobile number. At the end I tell her that I think the world of her and she says I'm a lovely, genuine guy.

Anyway, next day, she urges me to send a text message using facebook so I do. So we are texting a little, I initiate it all the time and she doesn't respond straight away. She messages me on facebook quite a bit, it's mostly only me and she's got 80 friends.

A week after she had left she came in to do some training. So I'm real happy, I was chatting to her in the canteen when she said, 'she felt jealous about her replacement (a woman) because she is working with me' , ' she was jogging near the golf course and thinking about me' and ' she wants to be my golf caddie in the summer' - So I didn't know what to think. Part of me thinks she likes me but is shy. Another part thinks she is being nice to me because she knows I like her. But if it's that, she is going to the extreme a bit.

Anyway that's it so far ! (Oh she also wants to work overtime at her shop)

[fightingspirit]

Jan 28, 2011 13:31:20 GMT -5 putter65 said:

I asked her out via facebook, she sent a message saying it would have been nice but she's just met someone.

Lie #1.

Jan 28, 2011 13:31:20 GMT -5 putter65 said:

At the end I tell her that I think the world of her and she says I'm a lovely, genuine guy.

Semi-lie. She means that you were submissive enough to her whims.

Jan 28, 2011 13:31:20 GMT -5 putter65 said:

Anyway, next day, she urges me to send a text message using facebook so I do.

Slave mentality.

Jan 28, 2011 13:31:20 GMT -5 putter65 said:

So we are texting a little, I initiate it all the time and she doesn't respond straight away. She messages me on facebook quite a bit, it's mostly only me and she's got 80 friends.

80 friends for a woman is actually quite anti-social.

Jan 28, 2011 13:31:20 GMT -5 putter65 said:

A week after she had left she came in to do some training. So I'm real happy, I was chatting to her in the canteen when she said, 'she felt jealous about her replacement (a woman) because she is working with me' , ' she was jogging near the golf course and thinking about me' and ' she wants to be my golf caddie in the summer'

That's almost a good sign, but it means nothing unless you coerce her to turn her sexual attention to you.

Jan 28, 2011 13:31:20 GMT -5 putter65 said:

- So I didn't know what to think. Part of me thinks she likes me but is shy. Another part thinks she is being nice to me because she knows I like her. But if it's that, she is going to the extreme a bit.

She's an attention whore who can do basic math. She's using your freely given attention to elevate her own status and use it for personal gain.

[brightestdark]

Hey putter. I recognise your name from the other forum...

The woman could possibly be interested if she says she's jealous of the replacement for working with you. I don't think I'd say something like that unless I liked someone. And wanting to be your golf caddie sounds like interest too. Do you think she'd meet up for a drink, even if she's seeing someone?

[putter65]

Hi !

Which forum ? That e alone one ? Who were you ? I don't go on there anymore.

I've no idea how she feels to be honest. Wanting to be my golf caddie was strange since she's never stepped on a golf course before. We had a great time, really enjoyed it.

That was 2 months ago. I asked her to golf again on Saturday and she said 'yes' - so we are going next week. Looking forward to that. I'm not sure about the 'going for a drink' - she's never mentioned it. She did say she was coming into work for a cuppa though.

[brightestdark]

Yeah, that's the forum. I have the same name as on here.

That's cool that she's said yes to golf. Does sound very positive. So maybe things are looking up for you. :-)

[putter65]

I left that forum because things got a bit ugly. Alot better than here.

Yes it is nice she's willing to play some golf with me. I would never had imagined it a few months ago. It will be nice just me and her and nobody else sticking their noses in.

[putter65]

I can't goto work without overhearing stuff about her. People are talking about her and the married boss. They did when she worked at my shop. They are now and she's been left for over 3 months. I don't get involved, I don't ask questions, I just do my work. Yet it's all a hear.
People whispering, gossiping, saying stuff. I should be used to it by now.

I'm not sure about the golf, if she's messing about with a married man why is she bothering with me. I think it can only be pity.

[putter65]

She came back to me with the golf idea, so I couldn't really say 'no' - going next Tuesday. I did give her the option of not going. I sent a text asking and left it at that. She came on facebook and she suggested a day. So she must want to go. I'm looking forward to seeing her again, it's been 2 months. Whether it's going to be awkard or not I don't know.