Not even started and Injuries making me more shy

[peterseter3]

I've been shy all my life. I've tried a few things here and there to talk to people. I've talked to some foreigners and that sometimes has turned good and i made some termporary friends.

But overall i haven't really started trying to talk to girls for dating etc.

And i'm getting older and more hurt and it's just making me feel more depressed and shy.

Recently my ankle is dislocating, and i'm having spine problems which are giving me alot of other torso problems.. and recently my thumb is hurting badly probably ligament damage.

I feel like i'm becoming useless...but i was just about to s tart trying talking to girls or whatever...but this is making me feel like there's no point.

How do you feel any happiness and excitement again when you're gradually getting worse health at age(31).? I want to be happy to start talking to people.

[mike86]

Jan 4, 2011 21:37:33 GMT -5 peterseter3 said:

I've been shy all my life. I've tried a few things here and there to talk to people. I've talked to some foreigners and that sometimes has turned good and i made some termporary friends.

But overall i haven't really started trying to talk to girls for dating etc.

And i'm getting older and more hurt and it's just making me feel more depressed and shy.

Recently my ankle is dislocating, and i'm having spine problems which are giving me alot of other torso problems.. and recently my thumb is hurting badly probably ligament damage.

I feel like i'm becoming useless...but i was just about to s tart trying talking to girls or whatever...but this is making me feel like there's no point.

How do you feel any happiness and excitement again when you're gradually getting worse health at age(31).? I want to be happy to start talking to people.

why is there no point? one of my brothers has had health problems all of his life and he's getting married for the second time this year. I recommend reading 'anatomy of an illness' by Norman Cousins. It's about a guy who fought cancer by having a positive mental attitude, a strong will to live and by watching comedy films to raise his spirits. Worry and a negative attitude can cause a lot of health problems, everything from ulcers to hair loss.

It's still important to consult your doctor but it's equally as important to have a positive frame of mind.

Shy people sabotage themselves a lot, they come up with reasons why they can't do things and a lot of a time, it is just an illusion. I needed to write an important letter a few years ago and I kept binning it thinking 'why would they want to know about someone like me?' and 'I bet they won't even reply.' In the end, I found the courage to send the letter and I received a reply. That was a big learning curve for me because it made me realise how I was holding myself back.