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Post by putter65 on Mar 3, 2011 10:40:40 GMT -5
Yes that was me feeling sorry for myself. I've felt so down today. No reason at all really. I don't think having someone you like on facebook does you any good. I did delete her last september because of this but she found out and made a big deal over it, so I added her again.
There is no reason for me to feel down about her. It was only a week ago she came in to see me. Not anybody else, it was to see me. A good friend does this so I should be bloody happy about it. It seems I need reassurance all the time that I mean something to someone. And it's not just this woman but everybody. I have this constant negative voice in my head nagging at me, putting a downer on everything. When something good happens, I feel good for awhile and then I then I start to wonder and worry and then it's back to been negative again.
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Post by putter65 on Mar 3, 2011 13:03:46 GMT -5
I'm playing golf next week and she is my caddie. She's just sent me a message on facebook. No, I can't believe it either !
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Post by Karen on Mar 3, 2011 14:52:00 GMT -5
There is no reason for me to feel down about her. It was only a week ago she came in to see me. Not anybody else, it was to see me. A good friend does this so I should be bloody happy about it. It seems I need reassurance all the time that I mean something to someone. And it's not just this woman but everybody. I have this constant negative voice in my head nagging at me, putting a downer on everything. When something good happens, I feel good for awhile and then I then I start to wonder and worry and then it's back to been negative again. Oh, I know allllll about that negative voice in your head, its a real bastard, I started talking back to mine and telling it to shut the f*ck up. ......and you know, it worked.  The constant need for reassurance sounds like possible depression. have you ever been tested or given anything to help with that? Also this may seem odd, but have you ever checked your parents for NPD? It could have done alot of damage to you growing up, and honestly from your posts I would say you grew up in a house with at least one NPD parent. PS sorry if these questions are intrusive, you need not answer them, but please think about them.  |
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Post by Karen on Mar 3, 2011 14:54:40 GMT -5
I'm playing golf next week and she is my caddie. She's just sent me a message on facebook. No, I can't believe it either ! I don't know much about golf, but I am glad you'll be spending time with your friend. |
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Post by putter65 on Mar 3, 2011 16:11:40 GMT -5
Hi Karen - I don't know what NPD is but my parents were fine. I'm not a negative person apart when it comes to women. I complain about my Dad who is negative regarding sports matches.
I can't remember been so negative when I was 15,16. I was just shy and maybe too sensitive. Rejections / been laughed at hurt me then.
The golf thing is just going to be fun. She suggested it when she left my work. (2 months ago)I was surprized and like an wally I said we can go in the summer. Of course I regretted saying that because it's too far in the future. And today she's come on facebook and said she can't wait until we do it, I mentioned my holiday next week and she said we can go then.
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Post by Karen on Mar 3, 2011 16:47:09 GMT -5
NPD- Narcissistic Personality Disorder, if you grow up in a house with a parent that has it, you can end up feeling worthless, and like a burden to everyone you meet. As if people were only ever "putting up" with you.
The golf thing sounds fun, and if she was so excited about it, then for sure she at least sincerely wants to be your friend. Thats a wonderful thing!
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Post by putter65 on Mar 4, 2011 10:27:05 GMT -5
I can't really get my head around it. A woman wanting to spend time with me. It all seems too good to be true.
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Post by Karen on Mar 4, 2011 11:01:14 GMT -5
I can't really get my head around it. A woman wanting to spend time with me. It all seems too good to be true. Ghaa! Don't put so much pressure on it. Hanging out with a girl is not the Taj Mahal. If you over think things your going to be uncomfortable the entire day! Just go have fun!  |
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Post by putter65 on Mar 4, 2011 11:06:04 GMT -5
Oh I'm really looking forward to it. It will be a proper chance to talk. Last time in the work canteen, people were popping in every few minutes getting in the way. And when I worked with her, the creepy boss usually stuck his ugly mug in.
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Post by Karen on Mar 4, 2011 11:10:44 GMT -5
Oh I'm really looking forward to it. It will be a proper chance to talk. Last time in the work canteen, people were popping in every few minutes getting in the way. And when I worked with her, the creepy boss usually stuck his ugly mug in. Good for you come back and tell us how things go please! |
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Post by putter65 on Mar 6, 2011 10:36:53 GMT -5
Well it's on for Thursday. She sent me a message on facebook. So I sent a text. She said she can't wait. I said I was looking forward to it.
I sent a few texts to my brother explaining what was going on and he found it all a bit odd. A golf course in March, cold, windy, muddy, it's the last place you'd expect to find a woman like her. She has initiated all of this from the start. It's nice to think a woman is willing to spend some time with me.
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Post by putter65 on Mar 8, 2011 13:09:42 GMT -5
What aload of crap ! She 's on facebook making plans for Thursday when we are supposed to be playing golf. I knew it was too good to be true. I've got to ask the question. Why do I bother  ?? |
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Post by Karen on Mar 8, 2011 13:35:36 GMT -5
putter, have you asked her about it? Find out whats going on first before you get too upset maybe she just forgot, or maybe her plans are for after.
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Post by putter65 on Mar 8, 2011 17:54:54 GMT -5
Yes I did and I'm glad about it because I could have sulked and not done anything. I sent her a message on facebook and she said she was definately going, looking forward to it. I sent her a text as well and she said the same thing.
So the only thing I can think of is she had no idea how long a golf round lasts. She maybe thought it lasts an hour and she was making plans for after.
Either that or she was messing with me, seeing how I would react.
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Post by Karen on Mar 8, 2011 19:45:12 GMT -5
She probably doesn't know how long it will last. Have fun Thursday and let us know how things go! |
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