Robe
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Feb 8, 2011 14:56:35 GMT -5
Post by Robe on Feb 8, 2011 14:56:35 GMT -5
Does anyone here struggle with general anxiety?(I'm sure you do.) I got into a Mental Health program that can help me with my anxiety and help me get a job and meet people. It started off fine, but yesterday they gave me a schedule(two days a week). I went yesterday, but I didn't go today. I was too anxious. I knew my mother and counselor would be really upset, but I just couldn't go. I guess it's hard for me to commit to anything since I've been out of school for 5 years and I've never had a job. I've just been "doing nothing" all these years and every time I get a chance to do something, I usually mess it up. Any advice?(Sorry for rambling.)
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Paper
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Feb 10, 2011 13:23:55 GMT -5
Post by Paper on Feb 10, 2011 13:23:55 GMT -5
My advice would be to try to not think about being there. When next week comes just think about getting out of the door and on your way. I generally find that if I'm dreading going to something it gets less stressful once I've left the house and have therefore committed myself to going.
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Robe
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Feb 11, 2011 12:54:42 GMT -5
Post by Robe on Feb 11, 2011 12:54:42 GMT -5
Thanks for the reply. I think your advice will help . I'll try to go on Monday.
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1229
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Feb 12, 2011 11:46:52 GMT -5
Post by 1229 on Feb 12, 2011 11:46:52 GMT -5
For the most part I don't have a lot of anxiety about going somewhere, but when I am nervous about something this is true for me too:
Once you're there half the battle is over.
Good luck!
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Robe
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Feb 15, 2011 19:21:57 GMT -5
Post by Robe on Feb 15, 2011 19:21:57 GMT -5
Thanks for wishing me good luck 1229. I managed to go today and yesterday.
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1229
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Feb 15, 2011 21:31:22 GMT -5
Post by 1229 on Feb 15, 2011 21:31:22 GMT -5
You're welcome. And that's great!
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Apr 12, 2011 20:30:05 GMT -5
Post by Shan-Chan on Apr 12, 2011 20:30:05 GMT -5
Wow Robe, you are very similar to me in this aspect. I was in a program kind of like this before too... Take comfort in knowing that there are others there with difficulties too.
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Robe
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Apr 13, 2011 14:27:24 GMT -5
Post by Robe on Apr 13, 2011 14:27:24 GMT -5
Wow Robe, you are very similar to me in this aspect. I was in a program kind of like this before too... Take comfort in knowing that their are others there with difficulties too. Hi, I do take comfort in knowing there are others like me, but I feel bad that other people have to go through it. I've been going to the program two days a week now. It's easier now that I'm getting used to it. May I ask how the program went for you? Also, thanks for replying, I thought this thread was forgotten lol.
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Apr 14, 2011 17:31:32 GMT -5
Post by Shan-Chan on Apr 14, 2011 17:31:32 GMT -5
Yeah at first for me I was scared too. I didn't know anyone except one ofo the vocational consulers. It went actually well for me. I was actaully pleasantly surprised. At first I was sitting alone at lunch there (I was there from like 10 am-2pm). So yeah I sat alone at lunch sometimes and sometimes I asked people if I could sit with at their table. The people were not hostile at all. We all had our difficulties, some handicapped, some had mental dissabilities, some mental dissorders, etc. The program helped me learn how to do job interviews very well. We had lots of mock interviews with consulers and even with other people attending the program. But the focus of the program I went to was to build skills in maintaining and searching for a job.
No problem ^_^. I guess your thread is not dead then XP.
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Robe
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Apr 15, 2011 14:27:40 GMT -5
Post by Robe on Apr 15, 2011 14:27:40 GMT -5
I'm glad the program went well for you . It does sound like the program I'm in. I met my counselor first before I met anyone else and now I'm getting to know them all. They all have Mental Illness/Mental Disorders. They have lunch at the place, but I haven't had lunch with anyone yet. I've just been taking walks instead as it's in a very nice neighborhood, and I'm too shy to have lunch with the other people yet. I'm going to start doing mock interviews with my counselor soon. The focus is to help me find a job/career.
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Apr 19, 2011 19:03:05 GMT -5
Post by Shan-Chan on Apr 19, 2011 19:03:05 GMT -5
Thanks =) and you're right, these programs do sound similar. Hey if you feel more comfortable spending your lunch that way, more power to you! I do though hope you start to feel a bit more comfortable.
For me when I was in the program it was hard to find a job. Sometimes I wonder why people put ads up if they weren't going to hire people. I hope you are able to fine one =o.
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Robe
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Apr 20, 2011 13:11:08 GMT -5
Post by Robe on Apr 20, 2011 13:11:08 GMT -5
On Monday my counselor set it up for me to have lunch with someone. It was actually my idea but she chose someone without telling me. I thought we would talk about it more, but I decided to give it a try. I was uncomfortable, but it was still nice. The girl she chose has Cerebral Palsy. She wants to have lunch again. Yesterday though, I didn't go. I just didn't feel like going. My mother wasn't upset though, she said I can take a day off once in a while. This has become my diary/rambling thread lol. I hope no one minds. Thanks for the replies Shan-Chan.
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Robe
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May 18, 2011 14:10:26 GMT -5
Post by Robe on May 18, 2011 14:10:26 GMT -5
I went to the program on Monday, but I didn't go yesterday. I was more upset than usual because I had told two people that I was coming in. I hope they won't be mad at me. I'm starting to socialize more, but I still have trouble going twice in a row. I feel like I take one step forward and one step back. Also, I have an email friend that I met on this website. We've been getting along pretty well, but now she wants me to send her a drawing and letter in the mail. I told her I would start the drawing a few weeks ago, but I haven't. My anxiety and low self-esteem prevent me from doing anything creative and therefore hinder my ability to express myself. I don't want to let her down though. Does anyone have any advice? Sorry for rambling.
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May 18, 2011 16:54:17 GMT -5
Post by Karen on May 18, 2011 16:54:17 GMT -5
Glad to see your starting to socialize more, its all about small steps! Don't be to hard on yourself if your not able to go every time. Perhaps you could tell the girl your exchanging emails with about how you've been feeling about starting her project. If you met her on this site then she surely knows you have some difficulty with things like this. Whatever you decide to do, good luck! I hope it all works out well for you.
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Robe
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May 20, 2011 12:34:58 GMT -5
Post by Robe on May 20, 2011 12:34:58 GMT -5
Glad to see your starting to socialize more, its all about small steps! Don't be to hard on yourself if your not able to go every time. Perhaps you could tell the girl your exchanging emails with about how you've been feeling about starting her project. If you met her on this site then she surely knows you have some difficulty with things like this. Whatever you decide to do, good luck! I hope it all works out well for you. Hi, thanks for the reply. I did tell her how I feel about starting the drawing. She said I could draw anything or even just cut out a picture of something. She said she just likes the fact that it's made for her and it would make her day. I want to make her day so I think I'll try to draw her something. It would be good for me to start drawing again, because it would give me something to do and it would help me get over my anxiety. I hope everything works out well for you too .
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