xzylo
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Post by xzylo on May 6, 2011 9:29:22 GMT -5
First off, if your here, thankyou for reading this!
I really want to see if anyone can relate or has anything that will help me out.
The family that raised me I spent my entire life with I get even to where I cant think about anything to say to them. I want to spend time with them because I love them, their my family and they support me even still. I started getting into drug use when I was 14 and was in and out of all kinds of treatment programs, rehabs, division of youth services. I kinda lost touch with my family. Im 18 now and I get over the problem sometimes. I just cant seem to keep it consistent.
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Post by Sweet Pea on May 6, 2011 9:49:14 GMT -5
First off, if your here, thankyou for reading this! I really want to see if anyone can relate or has anything that will help me out. The family that raised me I spent my entire life with I get even to where I cant think about anything to say to them. I want to spend time with them because I love them, their my family and they support me even still. I started getting into drug use when I was 14 and was in and out of all kinds of treatment programs, rehabs, division of youth services. I kinda lost touch with my family. Im 18 now and I get over the problem sometimes. I just cant seem to keep it consistent. i have the same difficulty at times in that i feel inhibited about saying what's really on my mind because i anticipate being judged negatively about what i say. to some extent i think i feel this way because it really happens, but to some extent i think it's just a habit. when i feel like the person i am talking to likes me and really wants to hear what i have to say i can be quite loquacious and it just flows. *shrug* i don't think i have an answer for you except that it sometimes helps with things like this to get some perspective on the problem. this is why therapists or support groups can sometimes be helpful. by getting another person's point of view, you can begin to be more impartial about the situation you're in and make better decisions. |
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Post by 1229 on May 6, 2011 19:40:57 GMT -5
Hmm... I know a lot of shy people tend to think other non-shy people are going to respond negatively. I hardly ever feel that I will/do get a negative response from someone when I speak. But, at the same time I feel like I have nothing to add. In my head I feel like there's a conversation going on, but when I start talking it just seems like I haven't added anything to the conversation. It's kinda weird because I have added but yet I don't feel like it kept the flow of the conversation going.
I usually don't feel this way around my immediate family (parents, siblings, best friends) but I'm really quiet with my extended family and acquaintances. This probably didn't help you out, but now you see how I've added to the conversation, but it didn't really fit.
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xzylo
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Post by xzylo on May 7, 2011 7:46:40 GMT -5
I feel the same way as of thinking Im going to get a negative response and I'm going to get judged for what I say. That makes it difficult to even understand what people are talking about because I'm thinking about something different. When I do say something, sometimes I feel like it didn't make a difference in the conversation or that it wasnt important. Sometimes it just makes me wanna give up on people because Ive looked stupid in front of them.
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Post by Karen on May 7, 2011 8:54:43 GMT -5
That makes it difficult to even understand what people are talking about because I'm thinking about something different. ....... Sometimes it just makes me wanna give up on people because Ive looked stupid in front of them. I think extreme social anxiety can make it hard to concentrate on a conversation. That happens to me from time to time as well, though luckily less now then it used to. One good thing to remember is that other people never judge you as harshly as you judge yourself. |
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Post by Shan-Chan on May 7, 2011 22:02:49 GMT -5
Do you feel guilty?
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