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Post by peterseter3 on Jun 8, 2011 20:51:34 GMT -5
Most sexy women i've seen... are never nice to shy guys. They think we're crap. they're not attracted, they say shy guys are boring.
I dont' know how this phenomenon happens but it seems.
Even if the girls are kind of on the quiet side, they like going to clubs and stuff.
I just think Sexy women don't like us.
They like alphamales and that's the truth
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Post by Scotty on Jun 8, 2011 22:09:47 GMT -5
I assume your are talking about what society classes as 'sexy'. In this case you probably have your standards too high. In reality sexy is a vague term that is different for everyone. There are lots of cute/ beautiful/ gorgeous women who don't like clubbing and prefer quieter, shy guys...it's just a case of finding them.
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Post by spinky on Jun 10, 2011 6:21:21 GMT -5
The common perception is that quiet guys are "nice" guys. I'm talking about your average, everyday Joe more so than serial killer quiet.
As i'm well mannered, and an all-round nice guy, i've heard many "awwwwwwwwwwwww, how cute" comments from the opposite sex over the years. I'd rather hear, "how cute" than "ewwwwwwwwwwwwww, how creepy" from attractive hotties.
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Post by ura on Jun 10, 2011 16:16:08 GMT -5
As far as I see it for a man to be shy when it comes to attracting women is the biggest put off, many otherwise fine men wouldn't get noticed or never have the confidence to approach a woman. I have seen men do so much better with women simply because they know how to act and what to say so I agree OP it sucks being a shy male I know.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Jun 10, 2011 18:28:12 GMT -5
i've never enjoyed the company of loud, obnoxious guys who act like fools in public and embarrass me, but they seem to be the only kind i can get into relationships with. i am attracted to shy/introverted men, but either they don't like me or they won't talk to me. the loud extroverted guys are the ones who talk to me, ask me out or respond positively to my invitations. *shrug*
come on! prove me wrong! ;D
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Post by peterseter3 on Jun 30, 2011 22:09:46 GMT -5
Sweet Pea, that's true, alphamales get you.
and we shy guys never try. BECAUSE you girls don't even smile at us even if we do smile at you. So we don't feel good about approaching.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Jul 1, 2011 0:07:58 GMT -5
Sweet Pea, that's true, alphamales get you. and we shy guys never try. BECAUSE you girls don't even smile at us even if we do smile at you. So we don't feel good about approaching. come on...smile at me...i DARE you! ;D |
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Post by peterseter3 on Jul 1, 2011 14:45:02 GMT -5
I do tit all the time!!!
And girls are disgusted by me
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Post by putter65 on Jul 1, 2011 15:28:53 GMT -5
Why though ?
Are you ugly ?
How do you dress ?
I'm presuming you keep yourself clean and tidy.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Jul 2, 2011 0:17:06 GMT -5
I do tit all the time!!! And girls are disgusted by me well, i can see why if you do tits all the time...but...what does that mean?  |
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Post by Rose on Jul 2, 2011 0:35:40 GMT -5
Most sexy women i've seen... are never nice to shy guys. They think we're crap. they're not attracted, they say shy guys are boring. I dont' know how this phenomenon happens but it seems. Even if the girls are kind of on the quiet side, they like going to clubs and stuff. I just think Sexy women don't like us. They like alphamales and that's the truth Maybe some of these "sexy women" are shy, and the ones who like shy sexy men are too quiet to feel a need to advertize it to the world, hence reinforcing your illusion that women prefer loud men. (And for your info, my boyfriend is shy, and I find him very attractive. I'm not sure how "sexy" I am considered on average, but I'm not aiming to prove you wrong because I don't care, so it doesn't matter). And BTW, I find the whole "alphamale" thing barbaric-sounding.  |
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Post by anticrank on Aug 25, 2011 11:57:39 GMT -5
I've heard this one before. The reality is that a lot of the pretty women out there often do get approached by guy, however, they are usually not the kind that are genuine, they are usually the bragging, laddish type that tend to do this. Now, there are many women out there who are absolutely sick to death of only being approached by loud obnoxious poseurs. Loud and obnoxious isn't everyone's cup of tea. From my own observations, and from observations of girls who I've known the reality is quite the opposite of 'pretty girls only go after loud guys'. To many women, a nice down to earth guy that's not trying to get inside her pants will come as a refreshing change. However, quieter guys do tend not to take the initiative so much, which is possibly one of the reasons giving the illusion. SO shyness is not unattractive, weak or unmasculine as such, some women even find it attractive, giving a sense of mystery.
As for women who don't like shyness? Writing someone off as boring without getting to know somebody? That seems awfully immature and judgemental. My opinion is that they're just very shallow if they do that. If you try to meet women in bars, clubs, loud parties etc. those environments will tend to attract those types. There are many attractive and nice girls, who are not stuck-up who don't like those environments at all. There are plenty out there that don't write people off on first meeting. I'll tell you one thing, when you do meet a girl like that, good god does it feel good! They are out there
I think that a lot of dating advice out there is highly one sided and one doubts whether some of it is actually designed to make you feel insecure. NEVER EVER feel you have to be something you're not to impress people (who are probably not worth trying to impress). At the end of the day I think it's a question of meeting the right people
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Post by lostmyself on Aug 25, 2011 14:24:28 GMT -5
You give good advice anticrank  I agree with where you're looking for women. If someone came up to me in a bar and asked me out I would know it was purely based upon the way I look, I want someone to want to ask me out because of who I am, sure they have to be attracted to me but there needs to be more to it than that. I'm not attracted to loud guys at all, I prefer quiet guys who don't love themselves. Anticrank is right, it's about meeting the right people. If these sexy women are unkind just because you're shy then they're really not worth it. |
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Post by madiocre on Apr 2, 2012 20:36:13 GMT -5
sigh... it's frustrating how its like women who are good looking are considered as if they are a totally different gender altogether to normal women....
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Post by Karen on Apr 3, 2012 10:43:18 GMT -5
sigh... it's frustrating how its like women who are good looking are considered as if they are a totally different gender altogether to normal women.... Ha! I like that. I've never though of it that way, but you're right. |
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