So the last couple of months I have been going on dates rather consistently but I struggle to get passed the second date. The first girl I met we met txt back and forth then met up for some drinks one night. After a good time I hadnt talked to her for a week, she was an er doctor and I knew she was working the midnight shift all that week, then she started txting back and forth right after and eventually met up for dinner and drive around the area. We made plans to go out again but I never heard back from here again. I then met this other girl and we went out two times as well. First time we met up a drink and then our second date was dinner and then we went bowling. This situation was a little different becuase we talked to each other consistently and thier was a little more flirting involved as far as holding hands. Sure enough though after the second she texted me saying that the dreaded line she realy liked me alot but she felt we didnt click. So last nite I went out with girl, we met up for dinner downtown and then walked around the area pretty much just talking. Sure enough I got the same message today, she had a great time and that I was nice guy but she just wanted to be friends.
Am I to nice? I mean I open their doors, try to be considerate. Im thinking maybe I should just be a douch bag like alot of other guys I see. They seem to get the girls or Am I just bad a dating
I have had problems like that on online dating but i have had it where a few email were exhanged then they just stopped emailing me.I had one date similar to yours where she said we didn't click. All i think is don't give up.
Post by lostmyself on Aug 26, 2011 14:04:21 GMT -5
You may be right, girls do go for idiots sometimes and but then they spend their life complaining about them. I think if you want the right girl, being considerate and nice and being yourself is the way to go.
As casanova said, just keep trying. They obviously like you if they're prepared to go on more than one date.
I don't use spellchecks i would say its more of what to put in a first message so that they write back and i nkow compliments don't work that early.
Personally, if I received a message composed similarly to this...I probably wouldn't respond back.
Maybe since we're in the world of text messaging (*sigh* ), good grammar and spelling seem to have gone out the window...and maybe you don't think it's very important.
But, at least for me, it is important. What I quoted...what you wrote...is completely run-on. It's hard to read, because the statements aren't separated. The way something is written alone, can send a message.
I won't even pretend to know anything about dating itself.
All I would say, from my perspective, is that you need to first and foremost just be completely genuine. Don't try too hard, be yourself ( I know, I know...completely cliche). But if you try to be something you're not, it's most likely not going to work in the end.
Maybe put the thought of "dating and relationships" aside, and think of it as just getting to know someone. Hopefully if you're bothering to message someone, you've seen something in them that you can relate to...someone that you have common interests with. Begin there. And see how it goes.
The dating world seems like it can be pretty cruel, so it may take a while. Don't give up, though, and make sure you keep putting yourself out there. Putting yourself out there and being you is really all you can do.
Begining to think i am ugly yet people have always said to me i am a decent looking guy.
If I was you, I wouldn't necessarily worry about this. You're sort of at the advantage, since you're a man.
It seems to be that physical attractiveness is WAY more important to men than it is to women (generally speaking). Sure, everyone's "shallow" on some level, but really....there's only so much that can be done about physical appearance. How you behave and make someone feel is way more important.
Anyway, this may not be the best forum to expect to receive lots of dating advice...I think it's safe to say that most everyone here struggles with it.