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Post by Sigh on Sept 18, 2012 14:26:19 GMT -5
I think you did the right thing, that guy seems to have only been after one thing and most of what he said I would say is sour grapes because he didn't get what he wanted. I mean you had only known him a few hours? Different if you'd known him awhile or if it was something that just happened; but the fact he would only walk you back with a promise of some kind of sexual action is arsehole-y.
It's better not to hate yourself than to do something like that and regret it imo. I think sometimes one of the frustrating things about being a shy girl is not only is interest hard to get; that it sometimes seems that guys who do want you, only do because you're female... not because of who you are as a person. I don't think all guys are like that but some I have encountered seem to be.
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Post by Karen on Sept 18, 2012 15:00:33 GMT -5
most of what he said I would say is sour grapes because he didn't get what he wanted. I mean you had only known him a few hours? Different if you'd known him awhile or if it was something that just happened; but the fact he would only walk you back with a promise of some kind of sexual action is arsehole-y ^This. That guy was gross. The fact that you said you would have felt bad about yourself had you done it should answer any doubts you have. Also, who says having random/carefree sex is what makes a 'grown up, independent woman'? To me that idea is pretty insulting. A woman is much more than the amount, and manner of sex she has. |
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Post by Owen on Sept 19, 2012 7:09:40 GMT -5
I can't believe someone would say that! I was drinking coffee when I read your post and I almost sprayed it over my monitor in shock!
You really did the right thing, self respect is the easiest thing to lose and the hardest thing to gain.
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Post by ura on Sept 19, 2012 12:53:21 GMT -5
I agree with Owen and what others have said, if you didn't really want to have sex than you shouldn't have and it shouldn't matter what some person who you only spoke to for a couple of hours says.
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Post by Zoe on Sept 20, 2012 7:18:43 GMT -5
Wow, thank you gents and ladies for all the support and feedback. Happy to report I am safe back home in Sydney. Mr GeekGuy gave an awesome send off on the eve of my departure whilst imparting some wise words about this topic. Unfortunately didn't get to meet MissKlew on this trip, maybe next time. Hopefully she will be feeling better? Need to get my head into work mode, I only have this weekend and *bam* intense time catching up in the office.
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Post by missklew on Sept 22, 2012 21:55:47 GMT -5
Wow, thank you gents and ladies for all the support and feedback. Happy to report I am safe back home in Sydney. Mr GeekGuy gave an awesome send off on the eve of my departure whilst imparting some wise words about this topic. Unfortunately didn't get to meet MissKlew on this trip, maybe next time. Hopefully she will be feeling better? Need to get my head into work mode, I only have this weekend and *bam* intense time catching up in the office. I am sorry we didn't get to meet.  I'm glad you had a great time on your travels. xxx I haven't been well. |
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Post by Zoe on Sept 23, 2012 1:11:33 GMT -5
Wow, thank you gents and ladies for all the support and feedback. Happy to report I am safe back home in Sydney. Mr GeekGuy gave an awesome send off on the eve of my departure whilst imparting some wise words about this topic. Unfortunately didn't get to meet MissKlew on this trip, maybe next time. Hopefully she will be feeling better? Need to get my head into work mode, I only have this weekend and *bam* intense time catching up in the office. I am sorry we didn't get to meet. I'm glad you had a great time on your travels. xxx I haven't been well. *aww.... wrap arms around MissKlew and gives a big warm hug* Sorry to hear you are not feeling well. I left a gift with GeekGuy to pass on to you which hopefully will be useful for next winter. Are the ulcers playing up? |
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Post by Zoe on Oct 27, 2012 6:59:48 GMT -5
October Update: Hello everybody....being missing in action as i have been fighting off the viruses the last couple of weeks. Feeling 90% better now....medication has made me a bit more *relaxed* than usual...so if any of my posts on other threads sounds a bit trippy, i blame it on that. Office politics has been playing up badly in the last 2 weeks and its been stressful. I have been given good advice from the people close to me, so I'll play things by ear and hope for the best. if everything settles down, i plan to go on a joint Japan and Korea trip middle of next year. At least that is something to look forward to ;D. I remember 4 years ago, that i told the team in the office that the world is going to end in 2012 and here we are. Somehow, i don't think that is going to happen. Not that i want it to. I got holidays planned  |
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Post by Zoe on Dec 24, 2012 7:33:03 GMT -5
Felt a wee bit uncomfortable to post a photo on the post a picture thread cause i would be breaking the chain of posts talking about describing ourselves therefore i thought to place a photo of my newly dyed and cut hair here.  |
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Post by marle on Dec 24, 2012 18:16:48 GMT -5
^Very neat, Zoe! I understand worrying about breaking the flow of discussion, but your photos totally belong there more than our thread-hijacking posts.  |
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Post by missklew on Dec 24, 2012 20:51:52 GMT -5
Zoe, I like your new style and color a lot!
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Post by Zoe on Mar 10, 2013 6:59:08 GMT -5
Survived the End of the World but stayed in my special hiding place for a couple of months just to be sure  To be honest, i had some minor health issues in the beginning of the year and just needed to take time out getting tests done and sorting things out. I have a health plan that i will need to follow and routine visits to the doctor for 6 months and hopefully i will be back on track. I have tried to improve my social skills more by saying yes to invitations (well half of the time anyways) but i still have problems with maintaining eye contact and talking gibberish out of nervousness. The Big Bang Theory has introduced a new character called Lucy who has social anxiety and i totally can relate to her, SPOILER ALERT!! Here is a short clip of Lucy explaining to Raj on why she ran out on their first date: And thanks to Geek and Sundry on Youtube - Table Top videos.....i have a strong urge to learn Dungeon & Dragons (old school way with dices not computerised) and playing board games (which is pretty hard when you don't feel comfortable around a group of people yet there is really no board game for one player only) |
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Post by marle on Mar 10, 2013 11:48:27 GMT -5
That clip was fantastic, Zoe! ;D Thanks for sharing!
The board / role playing games seem like a great social opportunity. Go for it! I wish I felt like doing group-oriented activities.
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Post by Zoe on Mar 16, 2013 8:20:12 GMT -5
That clip was fantastic, Zoe! ;D Thanks for sharing! The board / role playing games seem like a great social opportunity. Go for it! I wish I felt like doing group-oriented activities. Ugh... i didn't stay long at the venue where they were doing the group roleplaying ( I was hoping to learn how to play pathfinder which i think is a shorter version of D & D) i got a bit intimidated by the sheer amount of young males in the room. i asked a few questions and left. The day wasn't totally wasted though, i spent time exploring the city, there was an open day at an adult learning centre so i went in and got to listen to some interesting lectures condensed for the general public ranging from anthropology to health science. Eaten a healthy Lunch (grilled fish and salad) at a cafe with a view of a water feature on their walls. Went on a long walk to the harbour as I missed looking out to the sea and Enjoyed the sea breeze underneath some much needed shade (it was quite hot today) There was a big park area i needed to cross to be able to catch a train to go home. A festival was on today and there were little stalls everywhere in that park, celebrating the Greek Culture, must be some special day for them i think? I thought it was cool we have these events....i remember last time it was Spanish/Latin America celebration? Drool....i remembered the paella was so yummy! And the time before that was a promotion for KOREA. I made one last pit stop to the amusement centre as it was 2 streets away from the station. Spent $5 on those claw grabbing toy machines (and actually won something) and ate some really thin crepes with maple syrup afterwards. My soles of my feet are aching, shoulders are sore and i feel really tired...but honestly this day could not have turn out better than it already had. I like hanging out with myself.....i need to step outside of the house and explore more often. P.S. I was quite anxious today as i was roaming around the city, i kept feeling that i was a freak and wanted to find some space where people didn't notice me. when the waitress asked what i wanted to eat, i had to raise my voice in order for her to hear me and i had trouble looking into her eyes. I keep putting my head down, same with other people that i had to interact today. Included a different clip with Lucy and Raj, I can't help myself....they are so sweet |
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Post by Sweet Pea on Mar 16, 2013 17:41:19 GMT -5
That clip was fantastic, Zoe! ;D Thanks for sharing! The board / role playing games seem like a great social opportunity. Go for it! I wish I felt like doing group-oriented activities. Ugh... i didn't stay long at the venue where they were doing the group roleplaying ( I was hoping to learn how to play pathfinder which i think is a shorter version of D & D) i got a bit intimidated by the sheer amount of young males in the room. i asked a few questions and left. The day wasn't totally wasted though, i spent time exploring the city, there was an open day at an adult learning centre so i went in and got to listen to some interesting lectures condensed for the general public ranging from anthropology to health science. Eaten a healthy Lunch (grilled fish and salad) at a cafe with a view of a water feature on their walls. Went on a long walk to the harbour as I missed looking out to the sea and Enjoyed the sea breeze underneath some much needed shade (it was quite hot today) There was a big park area i needed to cross to be able to catch a train to go home. A festival was on today and there were little stalls everywhere in that park, celebrating the Greek Culture, must be some special day for them i think? I thought it was cool we have these events....i remember last time it was Spanish/Latin America celebration? Drool....i remembered the paella was so yummy! And the time before that was a promotion for KOREA. I made one last pit stop to the amusement centre as it was 2 streets away from the station. Spent $5 on those claw grabbing toy machines (and actually won something) and ate some really thin crepes with maple syrup afterwards. My soles of my feet are aching, shoulders are sore and i feel really tired...but honestly this day could not have turn out better than it already had. I like hanging out with myself.....i need to step outside of the house and explore more often. P.S. I was quite anxious today as i was roaming around the city, i kept feeling that i was a freak and wanted to find some space where people didn't notice me. when the waitress asked what i wanted to eat, i had to raise my voice in order for her to hear me and i had trouble looking into her eyes. I keep putting my head down, same with other people that i had to interact today. Included a different clip with Lucy and Raj, I can't help myself....they are so sweet this series is hilarious. thanx for posting the clips.  |
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