Post by theshylife on Dec 9, 2011 0:31:31 GMT -5
Hi to all you shy rascals.
As I was trying to find books on amazon about shyness, I stumbled across this beautiful website. Instead of practicing the latest "scientific" treatments for shyness, I think a diary might be more useful - hopefully it will help me and at least one person out there.
To begin, I am a second-year medical school. For as long as I can remember, I have been extremely shy (btw.. I'm a guy). I immigrated to the U.S. and started high school here. For four years, I literally had no one I could call my friend. I never attended parties, asked out girls, or even went to prom. On the plus side, it did give me a whole bunch of time to study lol.
Things "improved" slightly in college. I had made acquaintances - but no one I felt close to. I ate a lot from depression - became fat! This was also the time I did a lot of introspection. I realized that if I wanted to be happy, I had to change my ways. I realized that socializing is a skill - and like any skill, it takes practice. Practice always makes perfection. I put myself out there without fearing rejection, always smiled, and started placing myself in uncomfortable situations (like going to parties). I can't tell you the number of times I have gone to random girls in bars and started talking. The first few times it's very difficult, but eventually you get used to rejection. I'm not saying that I have completely changed my life. At the end of the day, the essence of who you are can never change, which is why I was looking for helpful books on shyness!
Anyway... the story is long.. and I will continue later... but the moral is.. it does get better w/ practice!
As I was trying to find books on amazon about shyness, I stumbled across this beautiful website. Instead of practicing the latest "scientific" treatments for shyness, I think a diary might be more useful - hopefully it will help me and at least one person out there.
To begin, I am a second-year medical school. For as long as I can remember, I have been extremely shy (btw.. I'm a guy). I immigrated to the U.S. and started high school here. For four years, I literally had no one I could call my friend. I never attended parties, asked out girls, or even went to prom. On the plus side, it did give me a whole bunch of time to study lol.
Things "improved" slightly in college. I had made acquaintances - but no one I felt close to. I ate a lot from depression - became fat! This was also the time I did a lot of introspection. I realized that if I wanted to be happy, I had to change my ways. I realized that socializing is a skill - and like any skill, it takes practice. Practice always makes perfection. I put myself out there without fearing rejection, always smiled, and started placing myself in uncomfortable situations (like going to parties). I can't tell you the number of times I have gone to random girls in bars and started talking. The first few times it's very difficult, but eventually you get used to rejection. I'm not saying that I have completely changed my life. At the end of the day, the essence of who you are can never change, which is why I was looking for helpful books on shyness!
Anyway... the story is long.. and I will continue later... but the moral is.. it does get better w/ practice!