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Post by casanova2 on Feb 4, 2012 7:49:41 GMT -5
Also i am very quiet anyway with everyone including my family.
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Post by Sigh on Feb 4, 2012 14:25:44 GMT -5
we seemed to get on better when i was drinking and she was on drugs. tbh, I think a relationship where both parties only really like each other when they're drugged or drunk is a recipe for disaster.
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Post by Karen on Feb 4, 2012 16:50:54 GMT -5
we seemed to get on better when i was drinking and she was on drugs. Perhaps a lot of the reason you were together was that you both had addictions. It's easy to be comfortable with someone when you don't feel judged for something like drinking or doing drugs. When she decided to get off drugs and asked you to stop your drinking, there may not have been much left to your relationship. Also she may have felt smothered by you if you were getting upset at things like her not returning your texts messages, or your insecurities about the relationship. That's always hard because you can't help the way you feel, and the other person can't help it if they feel overwhelmed or smothered. Its possible to love someone and still feel that its best not to be with them. I think you're best off just moving on Casanova, it sounds like this relationship wasn't right for either of you. Good luck. As someone else mentioned, keep busy, and try to focus on your own life for a while. Please, don't try any 'tricks' to getting her back or making her miss you, that would just muddle any good things your relationship was with manipulation, and it's most likely to just prolong your grieving/moving on time.
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Post by strawberrysweetie on Feb 4, 2012 23:53:18 GMT -5
Ditto to what they said.
Don't fool yourself into thinking that things were better when you were both drugged up. Using substances just numbs you to life, that is all. You may do it to 'escape' but it's really not improving anything, and really it just makes things worse. Much worse. It affects everyone around you.
Try your best and stay sober. Try and find other ways to deal with your problems and life. I know it's easier said than done, but stopping your drinking is one step towards a better path. Try and not let go of that.
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Post by casanova2 on Feb 5, 2012 13:17:53 GMT -5
To be fair my drinking was never a problem i only drink at weekend's she used to drink quite alot as well. I have spoken to my doc and he said a couple of pints won't hurt.She was stopping me from having that.
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Post by casanova2 on Feb 6, 2012 7:14:51 GMT -5
I wanna win her back.She surely must still have feelings for they can't just go like that.
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Post by casanova2 on Feb 8, 2012 12:50:17 GMT -5
Is there any chance of getting her back?i have just found out my mum sent her a message on fb. Some advice please?
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Post by Ram150 on Apr 6, 2012 18:39:25 GMT -5
Don't. Sending ur ex flowers because u broke up is pathetic. Accept that it didn't work out. Move on and give her room to do the same.
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Post by residentweevil on Jul 27, 2012 1:59:08 GMT -5
I've been there, and if you don't find out why she broke up with you, it's going to gnaw at you for a long time. Unless you can go from love to apathy in a short period of time, it might get rough. At least if she tells you why she broke it off, it'll give you some peace of mind. Also, if she tells you, give her an example to the contrary if you can think of one at that moment, but DON'T start a fight. Just accept it and walk away.
P.S. I'm guessing, "Rowe" = fight?
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Post by Astroruss on Aug 1, 2012 2:46:38 GMT -5
Is there any chance of getting her back?i have just found out my mum sent her a message on fb. Some advice please? There may be a chance of getting her back. Or more accurately for you and her to come back together. But don't send her flowers or gifts or even notes. Give her time. She may come to miss you and realize what she lost. Don't send any notes or phone calls, but don't burn your bridge with her either. Let her call you.
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