Post by jai on Feb 23, 2012 7:02:33 GMT -5
I don't know where to start... It started well, then they forgot about me. I didn't care I let them get on with it. Then they tried to make the effort back so I did too. It was the strangest friendship I've ever had because I don't even know if it even existed. Now a year later and a summer break in between I don't know what they want??
I'm in university and naturally you make new friends there. I made some good and some bad and some which I don't even know where I would put them. These are the ones I am talking about. I met these two in particular a boy and a girl, in every sense of the word. We got talking and one day decided to go to the town center. This is where they got closer, and I was fine with it. If you like someone more than me I haven't got a problem with it, because sometimes I am the same. Then, because I talked to the girl more, she felt the need to hide her relationship with the boy. I never knew how far it went and I couldn't care less, it's between them. But she felt the need to be secret when mentioning him and I didn't know why. I don't know if she thought I was jealous or intimidated, I didn't show it?
So the year goes on and we have our ups and downs and grow closer, well at least I think so? And summer break comes. -.- no contact whatsoever. I guess I just forgot about it about her. I feel kinda bad so I make more of an effort and I kind of hinted to her I would too. As strange as this may sound I actually moved in with her into a 2 bedroom flat. Now at this point the boy and girl aren't on talking terms because the boy has a new girlfriend and she doesn't want him talking to the girl lol...
We have xmas break and during this time I've decided to move out because I realized what a SNAKE this girl was. Sometimes I can be naive and like to find the best in people but she crossed the line. She was trying to take credit for work which I had completed and because it was a group assignment I even gave her credit for some of the parts I had done. I caught her out but decided not to say anything. Instead I moved out.
The worst thing is I end up being in the boys and girls group after xmas break in a new semester. WHY??! u ask... simply because I was sitting next to them (it's because I didn't know anyone else to sit next to). So now the boy and girl are suddenly best friends and drifted away from me even on civil terms. They disappear at every opportunity, miss lectures and tutorials together and DON'T do the work. Fine you've got cozy together, fine you may not want to talk to me, but at least be mature enough to realize that we are in a group (again) and we have an important assignment to do and put our issues aside and DO the work. They think I care that they've become friends again because maybe they think I lost them as a friend. I've come to realize they were never friends to start with. Friends don't stab the other in the back. Friends don't lose other friends to gain a friend. Friends look after each other. And you know what, I never felt that. Not even for a second.
So know I'm stuck with 2 so called 'friends' or ex-'friends' in a group who can't even grow up enough to keep things civil, even if it is for the other group members, and I don't know what to do. Confrontation is out of the question, because when I do confront them they turn paranoid like what they've done they know is bad but the DENIAL in what they've done inside them turns them like this. Then they suddenly forget about it :S?
? I've made it CLEAR I don't care if they are friends now, all I care about is my assignment, my education and my future.
What should I do...
I'm in university and naturally you make new friends there. I made some good and some bad and some which I don't even know where I would put them. These are the ones I am talking about. I met these two in particular a boy and a girl, in every sense of the word. We got talking and one day decided to go to the town center. This is where they got closer, and I was fine with it. If you like someone more than me I haven't got a problem with it, because sometimes I am the same. Then, because I talked to the girl more, she felt the need to hide her relationship with the boy. I never knew how far it went and I couldn't care less, it's between them. But she felt the need to be secret when mentioning him and I didn't know why. I don't know if she thought I was jealous or intimidated, I didn't show it?
So the year goes on and we have our ups and downs and grow closer, well at least I think so? And summer break comes. -.- no contact whatsoever. I guess I just forgot about it about her. I feel kinda bad so I make more of an effort and I kind of hinted to her I would too. As strange as this may sound I actually moved in with her into a 2 bedroom flat. Now at this point the boy and girl aren't on talking terms because the boy has a new girlfriend and she doesn't want him talking to the girl lol...
We have xmas break and during this time I've decided to move out because I realized what a SNAKE this girl was. Sometimes I can be naive and like to find the best in people but she crossed the line. She was trying to take credit for work which I had completed and because it was a group assignment I even gave her credit for some of the parts I had done. I caught her out but decided not to say anything. Instead I moved out.
The worst thing is I end up being in the boys and girls group after xmas break in a new semester. WHY??! u ask... simply because I was sitting next to them (it's because I didn't know anyone else to sit next to). So now the boy and girl are suddenly best friends and drifted away from me even on civil terms. They disappear at every opportunity, miss lectures and tutorials together and DON'T do the work. Fine you've got cozy together, fine you may not want to talk to me, but at least be mature enough to realize that we are in a group (again) and we have an important assignment to do and put our issues aside and DO the work. They think I care that they've become friends again because maybe they think I lost them as a friend. I've come to realize they were never friends to start with. Friends don't stab the other in the back. Friends don't lose other friends to gain a friend. Friends look after each other. And you know what, I never felt that. Not even for a second.
So know I'm stuck with 2 so called 'friends' or ex-'friends' in a group who can't even grow up enough to keep things civil, even if it is for the other group members, and I don't know what to do. Confrontation is out of the question, because when I do confront them they turn paranoid like what they've done they know is bad but the DENIAL in what they've done inside them turns them like this. Then they suddenly forget about it :S?
? I've made it CLEAR I don't care if they are friends now, all I care about is my assignment, my education and my future.What should I do...
