Post by robini123 on Dec 26, 2012 15:23:58 GMT -5
I found this article interesting as well as vindicating. A story of Carmen Electra and her regret for being drawn to badboys.
As a young man, I knew many a young woman who were like a moth to a flame, drawn to the badboy... then when they got burned, I was the kind "safe" friend who's shoulder they would cry on. Today I am thankful for this experience, as it has shaped my respectful view of women and made me a better man and a better husband... but circa 1988 it felt horrible because I was in love with one girl in particular who continually chose to be burned by the flame rather than be safe and secure with me.
For years now I have been preaching that the badboys are all smoke and mirrors, hiding behind a wall of macho attitude all in an effort to mask their insecurities... the same insecurities we all have.
I am still friends with a "reformed" badboy... a guy who had the looks of a Rocker version of the Marlboro Man, and could charm any woman out of her cloths with a word and a smile. Back in the 80's I watched the revolving door of women he was with, and heard the sadness in his voice and saw the pain in his eyes... he was empty all the while bedding the best looking women in town. In the end it nearly cost him his family, friends, and life. He became addicted to... well, many things, nearly to his ruin.
Some see strength in hiding weakness... all I see in that attitude is the presence of a profound weakness.
Here is the story from The National Ledger;
(The still sexy actress-and-model admits she always dated ''macho'' men when she first moved to Hollywood at the age of 18, and she now feels ''foolish'' for believing guys had to be tough.)
(She said: ''I had been brought up with macho guys. All my four older brothers were karate black belts. A lot of guys do not want to show they are vulnerable because they regard it as weakness.)
(''So I ignored that for a time. I was foolish. But at 18 I was attracted to bad boys. I watched what went on around me in Hollywood and wanted to learn.'')
(Speaking to The Sun newspaper, she added: ''Am I still interested in a guy's body? Now I have grown up, I am much more of a 'vibe' kind of person! If a man has a good body, that is an added plus. But I do not think it is the most important.)
(''A big turn-on to me is a guy who can have any girl he wants but says no. He has self-control. Not the guy with all the chicks who is insecure.'')
www.nationalledger.com/pop-culture-news/carmen-electra-was-attracted-to-270665.shtml#.UNtSaaz2F8M
As a young man, I knew many a young woman who were like a moth to a flame, drawn to the badboy... then when they got burned, I was the kind "safe" friend who's shoulder they would cry on. Today I am thankful for this experience, as it has shaped my respectful view of women and made me a better man and a better husband... but circa 1988 it felt horrible because I was in love with one girl in particular who continually chose to be burned by the flame rather than be safe and secure with me.
For years now I have been preaching that the badboys are all smoke and mirrors, hiding behind a wall of macho attitude all in an effort to mask their insecurities... the same insecurities we all have.
I am still friends with a "reformed" badboy... a guy who had the looks of a Rocker version of the Marlboro Man, and could charm any woman out of her cloths with a word and a smile. Back in the 80's I watched the revolving door of women he was with, and heard the sadness in his voice and saw the pain in his eyes... he was empty all the while bedding the best looking women in town. In the end it nearly cost him his family, friends, and life. He became addicted to... well, many things, nearly to his ruin.
Some see strength in hiding weakness... all I see in that attitude is the presence of a profound weakness.
Here is the story from The National Ledger;
(The still sexy actress-and-model admits she always dated ''macho'' men when she first moved to Hollywood at the age of 18, and she now feels ''foolish'' for believing guys had to be tough.)
(She said: ''I had been brought up with macho guys. All my four older brothers were karate black belts. A lot of guys do not want to show they are vulnerable because they regard it as weakness.)
(''So I ignored that for a time. I was foolish. But at 18 I was attracted to bad boys. I watched what went on around me in Hollywood and wanted to learn.'')
(Speaking to The Sun newspaper, she added: ''Am I still interested in a guy's body? Now I have grown up, I am much more of a 'vibe' kind of person! If a man has a good body, that is an added plus. But I do not think it is the most important.)
(''A big turn-on to me is a guy who can have any girl he wants but says no. He has self-control. Not the guy with all the chicks who is insecure.'')
www.nationalledger.com/pop-culture-news/carmen-electra-was-attracted-to-270665.shtml#.UNtSaaz2F8M