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[mere phantom]

One thing I've noticed is the most white chicks online (at least in the US) usually only want to find white dudes. Often they say something like "I'm not racist but I am only interested in white guys". YEH, WHATEVA!

America is so screwed up on racial issues, i happened to notice most here are from the UK and they are way ahead of us in those matters.

Most the time I'm walking around places, most white chicks look away from me. Its not like im staring at them, just trying to smile and be friendly, nothing bad. But they have some mentality that either they are superior in beauty or think everyone in America wants to have sex with them. YEH, WHATEVA!

One time I was walking into a store (around christmas) and this white chick was ringing the bell for the salvation army, and I usually always drop some change in there, regardless who is ringing the bell, as I walked up, she stopped ringing the bell, got all stiff, was looking away and acting all scared or wierd and stuff, i almost didnt want to put money in the can-thing, and when i was halfway in the door she started ringing the bell again. I almost felt like telling her, I'm not hitting on you, I'm helping the poor, and im not gonna rob rape or kill you.

[lily]

merephantom said:

Most the time I'm walking around places, most white chicks look away from me.

Don't know if it helps any, but I would look away if you were green with purple polka dots. I always look away.

[Tal]

Well it's not racist to prefer people of your own ethnicity, religion, skin colour etc. I'm white skinned and I prefer girls who are white skinned. Sure some individuals may hold racist beliefs, but the majority seem to prefer people of their own skin colour...dunno if it's biology or society at work.

The thing you describe in the store is very different and probably was a product of society and poor race relations, though again I wouldn't go as far as to say it's racist, just quite sad to see or her about.

[guinevere]

yeah. I've heard about that kinda mentality in the US.
I'm from NL, small western country in Europe.
Hm, I would maybe also prefer someone from my own 'skin'. Not simply coz of the color of the skin, but the culture and mentality that is behind that skin. I'm not saying that black ppl are bad, heh, not at all, but I would better get along with a Dutch guy. Same as I don't think I could really get along with a Spanish guy, altho they are white (tanned).
Maybe I could better say it this way: Skin doesnt matter, but culture/character/mentality does (to me).
Tho, if I was ringing the bell, you would be more than welcome to give something to the poor! .
It's obvious that that woman was discriminating.
-Hann.

[Some Guy]

Since going to university and meeting people from all over the world I have absolutely no preference over what race I find attractive. Ive found that I actually get on better with girls from different countries and I find them more attractive than the British girls I met at uni. However I do understand that many people will have a preference and some reasons have been given above, and this is not racist in itself.

I dont know if you UK is a lot ahead of the US though, based on some of the idiots Ive met I wouldnt be so sure, but then again I dont know how things are in the US.

[allen]

merephantom said:

Most the time I'm walking around places, most white chicks look away from me.

For what its worth, most white chicks look away from me too....and I'm white.

[gSteve]

I don't think theres anything wrong with having a preference for a certain type of person but you should be open minded enough to consider anyone regardless of what race they are. I would go out with someone from any race, religion or culture it doesn't really matter if you like the person.

[Reflection]

I don't think it's racist to prefer someone of your own skin color. It's just a matter of taste, really. Personally, I am not attracted to extremely tall or extremely short guys. Doesn't mean I'm like, heightist or whatever you'd call it

[Deleted]

I knew a black girl who only would date white guys, she said she gets alot of flack from black guys and even some black girls for that. But that is preferance. Just like some like them big some like them skinny or whatever.

Nobody has the right to tell you who you should and should not date. Everyone is different in their own way. Is all about what you want.

As for me, I have only dated white women so far, but always have been open to all races. Although I do find women of other cultures more attractive/intresting, like Asian, Spanish and Arabic.

[Kitten]

As a rule I am usually attracted to white or hispanic guys, but it's not the skin color itself, it's the fact that I just have more in common, culturally, with white guys than black guys. It's just what I'm used to. Everyone has a "type", but that doesn't mean they they won't stray from that type. I just don't meet that many black guys or hang out with them due to the area that I live in. I kinda dated a black guy a couple of years ago that I worked with, and he was the most awesome guy ever, but ultimately it didn't work out and we didn't get very far. He'd tell me, "You're not the type of girl I'm usually attracted to, I usually don't date white chicks, blah blah" but I didn't find that racist at all. It was fun hanging out with him, but I was still tied to my ex at the time and let's just say it ended in some drama.

I'm surprised people are saying that the race relations are worse here in the US. We have so much diversity here, and maybe I don't notice it b/c I'm used to it, but here is much more diverse than say, Germany. It's a shame that people still feel & act superior to others because of thier skin color.

[Deleted]

I saw a story on race,, and a black guy in the UK I think said it best. He said The U.S. have classifications,, like African-American, Asian-American etc etc. In the UK he said were all English or Brits, no matter what your race is. Its good to be proud of your heritage and all but I wish all would think as one race,, the human one.

BTW I am a Irish-Englsih-French-American,,,,lol basically a mutt.

Also most applications for jobs ask for race,, which I think is wrong, only thing they should know is if your a legal citizen.

[nameless]

its the state of the world at the moment, people wrtie things like that but are the first to complain if someone they know or care about is the victim of sexism/racism or disriminated against!

[iroseiroared2]

Sometimes we are racist and can't help it, we don't try to be. It is sad but that's how it is sometimes, I think. Keep your head high.

This sounds bad but sometimes what I do is that if I don't think a guy is attractive, I make sure I don't smile because I'm afraid that if I do then he'll think I'm flirting. Don't take it personally, people make weird faces and we really don't know what they're thinking. Who cares what they think anyway, you still know you're beautiful so forget the people who can't see it!

[faeire]

I dont think liking someone of your own race or liking only one race in a sexual way is racist at all. I'm mixed race (mums white, dads black) I Like white guys, But that doesnt make a racist It's just a preference to begin with, like some guys only like blondes it doesnt mean they will only ever date a blonde. I agree with what gsteve said, although it sounds like im contradiciting myself *confused*

[Twice-Shy]

I understand how the gal in the mall must have made you feel, when your intensions were completely good. If it was because of your race/color, then it WAS WRONG.

Something came to my mind, though... maybe she was shy towards you, for what ever reason. Maybe you even reminded her of someone else she had known before.