Does shyness ever come off as snobiness?

[andyem]

I have posted once about my situation and I've thought of a different opinion on it. Let me brief you on it. At work I have this pretty girl who works near me and I only have given the good morning smile for over two weeks. Today she purposely came to our area and was talking to people I work with and I get along with that I already know and get along with. The second she came I froze up and began using my cell phone making phone calls to people that I didn't have to call in order to not be put into a situation to talk to her. This is exactly the extend my shyness goes to. I hate this because people then begin to think I'm,
a snob and I don't want to talk to her. Shes beautiful to me and I would love to get to know her regardless if something between us happens or not. I feel talking to beautiful women over and over will get me over the phobia of talking to women I find beautiful. I am fine talking to any other hot "older" women that work with me because I have found other things in common with them and also because they probably like younger guys, who knows lol. Has anyone experienced this?

[Samantha]

Yeah it seems to be quite common for shy people to come across as snobs or stand-offish unfortunately. I guess it's fair enough really. Still one gf said that was why she was curious about me lol so I guess it's not always bad.... well 'not always' meaning rare.

As someone said in another thread you have to remember that beautiful girls are still girls. Hell they are even human just like us. I think maybe you should focus on the getting to know her even if nothing happened part. Just try and talk to her as though she were anybody else. Forget about the beautiful part if you can and just try to get to know her as a person. Ah it's not always easy I know lol. Just be natural, don't over analyse everything, don't try and make a good impression or anything like that.

[nameless]

ive had similar situations, like at social events when everyones leaving and all the hugs start id try and distance or lose myself as i felt uncomfortable about it, it probably came off as quite unsociable.

[cate]

yes all the time! All of my friends now have said they really felt uncomfortable around me when they didn't know me at first...and then obviously they got to know me, and now we're the best of friends. It is quite unfortunate though, because it seems i have sort of a reputation of being a snob, when I am exactly the opposite. People just don't take the time to get to know me and end up making conclusions.

[pnoopiepnats]

I have been told that I am aloof. I guess that is how I come across.

The past few jobs I have been on, I have made an effort to say Hello to people more and try to be a bit humorous.

At this job there are some people who pretty much ignore me. The ones that talk to me the most are management people, like my boss, my super, the project managers, and two other quality engineers. I get along with foreign people better than Americans. The two sorta work friends I have are both from west Africa.

[garthbrooks]

People think I'm a jerk.

[Twice-Shy]

I remember when I was in Junior High School. People always thought I was a snob, or thought I was better than others. The real situation was that I was so quite I was really kinda scared to talk, etc.

Real bummer, though.... painful enough being shy, timid, etc. But, to be labeled a snob when your not makes it even worse!

[lula]

I always worry that I come across as stuck up. One of my coworkers recently told me I was difficult to have a conversation with. I don't mean to be this way, I'm just afraid of not being liked.

[gSteve]

This seems quite common though I have never had anyone think i'm a snob, if they have thought that they haven't told me. I think people just know that I'm quiet, its not that I ignore people as I make eye contact and say hello I just don't say much to them.

[Tal]

Nor I. I don't really see why quiet people or those with few friends would come across as being snobs to be honest, so long as they don't give everybody dirty looks to everybody else etc.

[Evarie Fayore]

Yeah, I've been labelled a snob by others too.

When I was 13, a girl in my class (one from the 'popular' group) was paying me a compliment but I didn't know how to respond nor did I know if she was being serious or not. So I didn't say "thank you" or anything; I just kind of looked at her. Then she exclaimed loudly so quite a few people could hear her "Urgh! You're such a snob!"

Also, one of my friends admitted that when she first met me she thought I was a snob. I hate to admit it but I probably was a snob when she first met me...

[Kitten]

I've gotten that too. One of my good friends from years back told me she thought I was bitch when she met me because I didn't introduce myself to her. I've had more than one person tell me I seem "unapproachable". I know I can be standoffish and sometimes I am a snob. Not in the way that I think that I'm too good to talk to poeple, just that I simply don't want to. And it shows. I try not to let this show if I"m in that kind of mood, but sometimes I just can't help it.

[zoegonzalez]

I get this too. My Mother once told me I didn't look approachable .

Not sure it makes a difference but I do try to smile & say Hello.

[saynothing]

Yeah, I think shyness comes off as snobiness too,sometimes and I think its one of the most annoying things about being shy. When I am around people I do not know very well I sometimes want to say something to break an awkward silence but my mind just goes blank and I cant make any eye contact. People often just walk away from me because I come across as stand-offish,unfriendly or snobbish. Its a bit hurtful when this happens and I sometimes think to myself "wait , come back, I'm not the snob I come across as".

[traveljunkie]

I used to get this alot in Jr. High. It seems like there are alot of cliques (sp?) In Jr. High. I just mostly kept to myself, but people would often ask me why I was sooo snobby or call me stuck up. I wasn't I was just to shy to hit people up with convo. My highschool was so big that I blended in well and didn't get this said to me often, but it still came up.