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Post by Chump on Oct 2, 2005 13:54:41 GMT -5
I've been looking for a vehicle for 2 years! Can't decide on one, it's really starting to take a toll on me. I can't be impulsive and just buy something, I'll weigh out the pros and cons for hours and do it all again the next day... then i'll decide on one vehicle, then find everything wrong with it and im back to square one. This doesn't apply just to vehicle shopping, many situations at work I have the same problem.
Anyone else have a bitch of a time making decisions?
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Post by pnoopiepnats on Oct 2, 2005 14:07:02 GMT -5
I've been looking for a vehicle for 2 years! Can't decide on one, it's really starting to take a toll on me. I can't be impulsive and just buy something, I'll weigh out the pros and cons for hours and do it all again the next day... then i'll decide on one vehicle, then find everything wrong with it and im back to square one. This doesn't apply just to vehicle shopping, many situations at work I have the same problem. Anyone else have a bitch of a time making decisions? Yes, all the time! It takes me forever to decide to buy something. Like the laptop, I must have looked for a couple of months. Now I am looking for an mp3 player and can't decide and don't even have it narrowed down yet. Lucky for me I have Vic to help me decide stuff now. ;D |
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Post by nameless on Oct 2, 2005 16:10:32 GMT -5
i wish i had that problem, then maybe i wouldnt have so much junk i bought on the spare of the moment!
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Post by lostgirl on Oct 2, 2005 16:43:58 GMT -5
I have the same problem but maybe to a lesser extend. With cars it was love at first sight. As soon as I saw it I knew it was meant to be lol. ;D
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Post by shytothebone on Oct 2, 2005 16:58:03 GMT -5
If you have a problem with indecision try asking yourself is it gonna matter ten years from now? five years? six months? You have to allow yourself to learn and the only way your going to to that is make the wrong decisions from time to time. Indecision on buying a car is good sometimes, but If you have been looking for a car for two years I don't know that it is an indecision problem. It seems like your asking yourself if it is really that important.
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Post by urbanspaceman on Oct 3, 2005 5:45:28 GMT -5
Yes, I do....or do I? I can't decide.... sorry
I'm forever debating whether I should get something, do I really need it, how much use will I get out of it? I suppose it's better than constantly impulse buying. I would never have any money for a start, but sometimes I get the feeling I'm being incredibly anal over what to buy when there are bigger things to think about than which pair of socks to buy.
Curse you brain!
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Post by Samantha on Oct 3, 2005 6:01:16 GMT -5
Yeah I do too. It took me a year when I moved into my flat to decide to paint it how it exactly how it was in my old flat. I'm not good at subjective stuff which is why I have a fondness for numbers I guess.
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Post by HybridMoment on Oct 3, 2005 13:16:44 GMT -5
I probably have a worse issue with making decisions then I do with shyness, and my shyness is pretty bad.
From college/career decisions to major or minor purchases I have a very difficult time. Even replying to message boards I have a hard time deciding to say something or not, a lot of times I write up a whole paragraph and then think it sounds dumb and delete it all. Then I make 3 or 4 different versions and finally submit. (If anyone is wondering this is the 2nd revision of this submission.)
My mom once sent me to get some paper towels in the grocery store, and she came to the aisle 15 minutes later and found me trying to calculate which brand had the most sheets for the cheapest price. It got confusing when I got to the paper towels with 3 different kind of sheet tearing options. I didn't even have enough time to factor in estimated absorption rates before my mom sighed and just grabbed some random brand off the shelf. Luckily my family has my mom to make decisions for us, if it weren't for her my dad would still be dating her for 26+ years trying to decide whether to marry her or not.
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Post by Kitten on Oct 3, 2005 13:51:20 GMT -5
I've been looking for a vehicle for 2 years! Can't decide on one, it's really starting to take a toll on me. I can't be impulsive and just buy something, I'll weigh out the pros and cons for hours and do it all again the next day... then i'll decide on one vehicle, then find everything wrong with it and im back to square one. This doesn't apply just to vehicle shopping, many situations at work I have the same problem. Anyone else have a bitch of a time making decisions? In a way..I can narrow it down pretty quickly but then have a hard time deciding between two of the things I narrowed it down to. I'll waffle back and forth for a while then eventually I'll just give in. This usually only happens when I'm forced to make a choice, like buying a car or ordering a meal in a restaurant. If I'm buying clothes or CDs and I can't decide, I'll invariably wind up buying them both/all. Buying a car is a big purchase that should not be taken lightly, but two years is a long time to wait. You're going to drive yourself nuts and no car you get is going to seem good enough after you've analyzed them to death. So if you've decided between a few cars you probably know that either one of them could work for you, you just have to pick one, right? Go with the car you've been leaning towards the most. I'd say go for the car you just like the best, not necessarily the one that's most economical or whatever. As long as you could afford it. Just remember you're going to have to drive it for the next 5 years at least. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 3, 2005 16:28:39 GMT -5
I can't decide if I do struggle with it or not,, maybe i do maybe I don't,, I don't know,,,hmmmm.,,lol ;D
Seriously yes from time to time I do.
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Post by Crashtastic on Oct 3, 2005 16:32:18 GMT -5
I sort of do I think about something and think about it and out of no where I'll decide....could be in the car or the toliet. I'm pretty impulsive.
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Post by Chump on Oct 3, 2005 23:29:17 GMT -5
Interesting, I always thought indecision was a result of fear or anxiety. I know a few impulsive people and they seem to be very outgoing people.
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Post by johnnyo2004 on Oct 4, 2005 3:05:28 GMT -5
Same here!!
No matter what decision i have to make, buying a pair of jeans, car, deciding what time to leave to get somewhwere, i always seem to end up analyzing every small detail.
Decorating a room is the worst, 'The only time i really feel envious of my mates having a girlfriend / wife to make the decision for them........'paint the ceiling this colour and the walls that...now get on with it!!!'.....sounds bliss to me!!!
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Post by pnoopiepnats on Oct 4, 2005 3:11:07 GMT -5
Interesting, I always thought indecision was a result of fear or anxiety. I know a few impulsive people and they seem to be very outgoing people. I know my indecision is the fear of making a mistake. |
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Post by andyem on Oct 4, 2005 9:46:09 GMT -5
This is one area I have become unbeleiveable in the past 3-4 years. I used to make quick decisions before but always made the wrong ones. Watch a simple plan on how easy it actually is and it can apply to anything in your life. Start off with a piece of paper and write down the word of what it is your deciding car, laptop,girlfriends ,etc. Then put down what you actually want in what your buying or what matters most to you. For example a car. I want speed or convertible, good priced, reliable. For a girl put down what you want out a relationship, good sex, a companion, a friend, whatever. Then order them in importance to you. Now below that put down your top 4 choices that you want and 1 choice everyone else says is a good choice. Once you have your choices find a few people with knowledge in this area. For a car a mechanic (never a salesman) for a girlfriend maybe your friends or someone who has been around. But you need people who are objective and can tell you "things to look out for". Then go see each choice for example a car or apartment. Use the things to look out for and make sure one of these choices has your most important thing to you on the list AT LEAST. if more then one choice has it then go to number two and so on. Use your importance list to narrow down your choice till you find the one that has the most importat things to you on it and that one is your choice. This was obserd the first time I heard it becuase I figured this would take too long but then the person who told me said. If its a major purchase or girlfriend do you really want to make a quick decsion and suffer through the mistake. Beleive me that line changed my view on te whole process. I now can make this list in my head about anything. It doesnt always give me the best result but it gave me the result I know was the best result I COULD have come up with. Making mistakes is part of life. The more you make the more you learn. I have been able to buy my last car and last three apartments within days by using this process and they have all worked out. Later on you find out things you never thought of before but you can keep these in mind the next time you make the same purchases or on your next girlfriend. Hope this helped. Take care
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