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Post by Sexy Spork #37 on Dec 16, 2012 19:00:28 GMT -5
I don't think I'm good looking and people tend to agree with me. But I'm English, and we tend to insult each other quite frequently.
People who've posted a picture on here I think are very brave. I couldn't do it. I don't even have any recent photos of me.
Maybe we need a 'describe yourself' thread. One could answer a series of descriptive questions.
I'm too shy to even do that.
Who'll start? It'll be down to me, won't it?
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Post by robini123 on Dec 16, 2012 21:20:45 GMT -5
I don't think I'm good looking and people tend to agree with me. But I'm English, and we tend to insult each other quite frequently. People who've posted a picture on here I think are very brave. I couldn't do it. I don't even have any recent photos of me. Maybe we need a 'describe yourself' thread. One could answer a series of descriptive questions. I'm too shy to even do that. Who'll start? It'll be down to me, won't it? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
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Post by marle on Dec 16, 2012 21:41:28 GMT -5
Thanks for posting the picture, robini!
I've posted my picture a few times, although I usually take them down after a few weeks. I do it to retain a nominal sense of anonymity (although I often don't think I'm doing a good job of that). I very much don't like the way I look, but I actually feel better after posting my photo because it's something you do voluntarily. I feel like in doing so, I'm making the statement to myself that it's really not a big deal. And you don't have to post a picture of yourself just staring ahead, there's often a lot more going on in the context of the picture, like your personal style, your expression, who you're with, whether you're doing something funny, etc.
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Post by robini123 on Dec 17, 2012 2:28:09 GMT -5
Thanks for posting the picture, robini! I've posted my picture a few times, although I usually take them down after a few weeks. I do it to retain a nominal sense of anonymity (although I often don't think I'm doing a good job of that). I very much don't like the way I look, but I actually feel better after posting my photo because it's something you do voluntarily. I feel like in doing so, I'm making the statement to myself that it's really not a big deal. And you don't have to post a picture of yourself just staring ahead, there's often a lot more going on in the context of the picture, like your personal style, your expression, who you're with, whether you're doing something funny, etc. Thanks. There are so many great ways to fight our shyness, and the posting of a simple pic on a safe website like SHY United is a good exercise in pushing our comfort envelope.
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Post by Sexy Spork #37 on Dec 17, 2012 8:56:06 GMT -5
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder? Irrelevant if one doesn't match one's idea of beauty. I assume others have found me attractive because I have been asked out by complete strangers, but I always say no.
If you're one of the types of shy people who see it as a hindrance and as severely affecting your life, posting your picture on here is a wonderful idea and in fact, is highly recommended.
If you're comfortable with it and see it no reason to overcome it (like me), all you can do is encourage those who do and help them to overcome it.
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Post by Crashtastic on Dec 17, 2012 23:10:21 GMT -5
I've never thought that I was very attractive. I mean I guess I'm pretty average. Meh as long as there is something attractive enough about me to snag guys I like, that's good enough for me lol But I've kinda stopped caring as much about it. I just try to look semi decent when I walk out the door...no boogies hanging from my nose...check. Hair isn't sticking all over the place...and check. I occasionally put forth a little more effort. I used to be waaay more self conscious, but somewhere I just got tired of it and I don't know I feel better not giving as much of a shit lol Also noticed I'm a lot less shy because I stopped caring as much...albeit still shy in certain situations. But anyways its not about your looks, it's about how you see yourself. ...Oh and when i say I used to be more self conscious...I used to not want to go outside or to work because I thought I was too ugly to be seen at some points That's kind of nuts...I'm pretty sure I'm not that bad lol
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Post by marle on Dec 18, 2012 23:22:12 GMT -5
Maybe we need a 'describe yourself' thread. One could answer a series of descriptive questions. I'm too shy to even do that. Who'll start? It'll be down to me, won't it? By the way I like this idea. Is it just for physical descriptions, or for other kinds of questions as well?
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Post by Sexy Spork #37 on Dec 19, 2012 9:46:34 GMT -5
Ooh, that's a great idea, Marl.
You could have a series of questions starting with the obvious general stuff like age, height, hair and eye colour, weight (optional), etcetera and the like, and go onto questions about music you listen to, or favourite genre, books you like, movies you like, likes about this, that, the other, etcetera, etcetera. It also depends on how personal you want to get (first kiss?) It could also be incredibly random. Personal favourite type of fabric (he, he, he). And there could be a 'why this answer?'
It's all very basic information but it's a great way to get to know each other better and for new members to introduce themselves.
I think if the questions are varied and good enough, the idea could take off like this picture thread. At least I hope it would.
I'd try to avoid too many 'favourite' questions or at least word them differently. Instead of 'favourite genre of music' use 'genres of music you like'. I've always had a problem with favourites. For example, if you have a large group of shoes and you have a favourite pair, why do you have a large group of shoes? Why not just that pair? It's why I only have one pair. Favourite questions bug me.
Certainly a great idea to expand it beyond looks, though.
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Post by marle on Dec 19, 2012 19:48:25 GMT -5
I had thought about starting that sort of thread before, but I was afraid it might be seen as defeating the purpose of a discussion board, which I guess is about getting to know each other through discussions. But now I don't really think that's a big concern. It shouldn't prevent people from elaborating or starting their own topics if they wish to do so. And there could be a 'why this answer?' I definitely agree with this. One-word answers to everything would be boring. All the questions can be made optional. People will feel differently about what they're comfortable answering. That should give you the license to ask whatever you'd like (within forum rules). Creative questions should be encouraged . I think it would be good if philosophical-type questions are included. You could also post more questions to the thread periodically, in the same survey-style. If people like answering the questions, you may as well keep it going.
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Post by Sexy Spork #37 on Dec 19, 2012 20:28:14 GMT -5
To be honest, there isn't a great deal of discussion going on here at the moment. I'd go so far as to say that it may kick start some discussion and bring the site to life. After all, it's premise is for the shy to meet like-minded people and not to feel so isolated. I think it would not only achieve these goals but epitomise what the site is about. Or something like that.
I think one would have to be careful abut philosophical questions as people can get tetchy about those sorts of things. Not that this is a site where people are mean to each other but people can upset over the smallest things regarding those sorts of issues. There'll have to be a way to get around this. I believe in the old days this was called pussyfooting. I have no idea if that's the right word these days.
I think before such a thread was created we'd need to create a list of questions that at least start the thread. Maybe there could be a list of standard questions and room for three more at the end that could change depending on the discussions going on in the thread. Certainly, all should be optional. It'll encourage people to join in at least with a few questions. Everyone, after all, is a different degree of shy.
I'm not great at coming up with questions, however. It's not like I have three blogs with the second one being a questions and answers blog...
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Post by marle on Dec 19, 2012 21:24:46 GMT -5
To be honest, there isn't a great deal of discussion going on here at the moment. I'd go so far as to say that it may kick start some discussion and bring the site to life. Yeah, I was thinking that too. And yes, philosophical questions can be approached gingerly. I'd want to avoid as much controversy as possible. And not all philosophical questions need to be very controversial. I feel a little shy starting a thread where I'm asking a bunch of nosy questions , but I'll try to start something in the next few days if no one else does.
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Post by marle on Dec 23, 2012 19:10:46 GMT -5
Well, I've created the "Describe Yourself" thread (called "About Yourself"). I tried to avoid the Favorite questions, or word them so that more than one answer is possible, but I wasn't able to avoid them completely. I just realized it looks like a ton of questions, so I hope a few people will reply.
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Post by Sexy Spork #37 on Dec 23, 2012 20:08:28 GMT -5
Shit, that is a lot of questions But they're very, very, good. It's late here so I'm going to bed, but I'll have a look at them in the morning. I'm not looking forward to trying to justify my penchant for sexy sporks...
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Post by Karen on Dec 23, 2012 20:29:15 GMT -5
That is indeed an impressive list of questions Marle ;D I haven't been great about posting lately, but I'm going to try to answer some of them sometime soon.
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Post by Samantha on Dec 26, 2012 18:48:23 GMT -5
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder? Irrelevant if one doesn't match one's idea of beauty. Isn't that actually the entire point of the saying? That we have the power to change our concept of beauty? Why would anyone suggest changing that if they were happy with themselves?
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