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Post by patm3300 on Dec 9, 2005 23:06:05 GMT -5
when you are TRYING to have a social conversation with someone else you cant think of anything to say... so you act all weird and dont say anything because your mind shuts off and you canno think of anything intelligent to say...
oh by the way i hate it when other people think that you don't LIKE to interact with other people because you are shy. i sure would LIKE to interact with other people, i just can't
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Post by Buzzz on Dec 9, 2005 23:08:38 GMT -5
when you are TRYING to have a social conversation with someone else you cant think of anything to say... so you act all weird and dont say anything because your mind shuts off and you canno think of anything intelligent to say... Dude, that happens to me several times a day at work, today included. I'm trying to loosen up. I'm still relatively new there. |
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Post by patm3300 on Dec 9, 2005 23:10:54 GMT -5
when you are TRYING to have a social conversation with someone else you cant think of anything to say... so you act all weird and dont say anything because your mind shuts off and you canno think of anything intelligent to say... Dude, that happens to me several times a day at work, today included. I'm trying to loosen up. I'm still relatively new there. well i am glad that i am not alone at least |
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Post by Sigh on Dec 10, 2005 8:30:58 GMT -5
when you are TRYING to have a social conversation with someone else you cant think of anything to say... so you act all weird and dont say anything because your mind shuts off and you canno think of anything intelligent to say... Yeah, I get that... it's really annoying, although I find I'm worse in pressurised situations like work places or on the phone. |
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Post by arianna7 on Dec 10, 2005 11:15:19 GMT -5
I have this problem with people I really like and/or respect but don't know well. I will even worry beforehand what to say to someone in a certain situation (currently this occurs most often with the guy I'm interested in, and he has the same problem!). My imperfect solution: I forget about saying something intelligent or significant every time I speak. I just say *something*, even if it's odd, banal, or whatever.  This works about half the time. I know... we would all like to have something insightful to say in any situation. Anyway, keep trying! |
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Post by KidCharlemagne on Dec 10, 2005 11:24:56 GMT -5
That happens to me all the time. I can never think of anyone to say to people i have just met. Usually, my conversations turn into interrogations. Someone will ask me questions and i simply give short answers and not develop the discussion in any way.
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Post by Sanity FreeZ0ne on Dec 10, 2005 12:37:23 GMT -5
My imperfect solution: I forget about saying something intelligent or significant every time I speak. I just say *something*, even if it's odd, banal, or whatever. This works about half the time. I know... we would all like to have something insightful to say in any situation. Anyway, keep trying! This is what I am trying to do. Just trying to say anything - whatever happens to be going through my mind at that point in the conversation. Allthough this may mean sounding stupid sometimes...I think it's the only way I'm going to improve my social skills. Also I think it's important not to think of conversation as being insightful all the time - but more just an exhange of thoughts. |
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Post by Samantha on Dec 10, 2005 14:54:51 GMT -5
when you are TRYING to have a social conversation with someone else you cant think of anything to say... so you act all weird and dont say anything because your mind shuts off and you canno think of anything intelligent to say... oh by the way i hate it when other people think that you don't LIKE to interact with other people because you are shy. i sure would LIKE to interact with other people, i just can't What do you mean by "act all weird"? |
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Post by zerocharisma! on Dec 10, 2005 20:39:30 GMT -5
I get this all the time. If I know what I am talking about I can speak somewhat normally, but when it comes to socializing and small talk I often can't think of what to say. Each time I try, though, the better I am at socializing.
*awkward pause*
Er... Um...
*crickets chirp*
Yeah. So anyway, keep trying.
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Post by traveler on Dec 10, 2005 22:24:37 GMT -5
happens to me to.
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Post by feyish on Dec 29, 2005 16:49:24 GMT -5
well, what i've been trying is to talk to the people i work for(neighbors, actually, i shovel their horse shit, literally). whenever i see them, they are nice and make small talk, and i have been trying to act more interested in conversation by asking little questions here and there. but i don't want to get nosy, so i try to think the question through and make sure that they wouldn't mind my asking, such as"where are you going for vacation?" i know that that is a safe question because they've been telling me about how they were qoing away for a few days and such.
i want to be really careful about being nosy, because i know that sometimes seemingly innocent questions can be off-limits. example: if someone well-meaning asks "so who are your friends?" OUCH! does that hurt! because i don't really have any friends. so i want to be really careful so i don't do the same thing to other people.
one small step at a time
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Post by nameless on Dec 29, 2005 17:27:23 GMT -5
i find some people easier to talk to than others! most of the time its people who share common interests but you still get the people who only want to give their opinion and big themself up! im not one of these people that can talk to anyone about anything, i sometimes feel i dont have much to say for myself!
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Post by pnoopiepnats on Dec 29, 2005 17:40:51 GMT -5
It happens all the time. Repetition has never made it any better.  Or if I am with one of the few people I am able to talk to, I often forget things I wanted to say. |
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Post by kimberley on Dec 30, 2005 2:41:53 GMT -5
Most of the time, I rehearse conversations in my head before meeting with someone. But, then when we get together, I get so nervous that everything I've rehearsed before hand is forgotten.
Sometimes I can be quite good at small talk, but that usually happens after getting myself into a certain 'zone' in my head. I have to continually tell myself that they're not going to be judging me, and that perhaps, they are as nervous as I am so I shouldn't worry too much about it.
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Post by johnnyo2004 on Dec 30, 2005 5:07:37 GMT -5
Glad to here i am not alone...... have done all of the above..... the worst is like kimberley, you rehearse something in your head, but when you come to say it, it comes out to fast, and usually back to frnt, so what would have been a good question, turns into some giberish !!!
happens shit !!! ....... damn there i go again.
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This works about half the time. I know... we would all like to have something insightful to say in any situation. Anyway, keep trying!
