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Post by moogle on Mar 29, 2003 12:57:46 GMT -5
i was wondering if anyone here has online journals (other than the ones at shyunited), or keep journals at home. what kinds of things do you write in them? do they help at all? i put a link to mine in my sig. since i don't have any real friends, it lets me vent and write about stuff i might talk to a friend about.
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Post by Twice-Shy on Mar 29, 2003 14:49:51 GMT -5
That's a brilliant idea. I haven't kept a diary in about ten years since I left school. I was completely happy until I left school and then it all went downhill. I didn't want my diaries to turn into a version of "Krapps's Last Tape" - a Samuel Becket play.
In the play Krapp has been taping the highlights of each year of his life for about 40 years. He forces himself once a year to listen to himself as a young man full of hope. It was full of pain. That would be me.
How long have you been keeping the log? It would be brilliant to have something like that on the SHY United site. Could I put a link to it in the SHY Diaries section or put in on the site entirely and update it as you update it?
Let me know. Shane
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Post by moogle on Mar 29, 2003 15:40:44 GMT -5
sure! either a link or the updates themselves are fine. i'm glad you're so interested. my journal isn't the most exciting thing anyone can post comments on my journal. if you're not a member of deadjournal, then just check the Annonymous button.
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Post by NewOrleansLady on Mar 29, 2003 21:38:41 GMT -5
I've tried keeping a journal but, never remember to keep up with it.
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Post by Twice-Shy on Mar 30, 2003 9:47:24 GMT -5
Thanks Moogle. I'll put a link on our SHY Diaries section today. I'll call it something like "Moogle's Weblog." It'll be a great addittion. If you want to choose a different name let me know, Shane.
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Post by B on Mar 21, 2004 21:17:01 GMT -5
Old topic, but I still want to comment on it becuase I think keeping a journal is one of the most important things a shy person (or any other kind of person) can do.
I write everything in it. If somebody else were to open it and look at it, they wouldn't know what the heck was going on, because I'm not exactly "linear" with it. Throughout the day, if I have any ideas or insights or anything that occurs to me about my situation, I jot it down on a peice of paper and elaborate on it at the end of the day in my journal.
I record what happened, what my reaction was to it, and what I honestly think about it. Sometimes i'll write down what other people have said or how they've reacted and i'll question and analyze that. I've read things other people have posted on this board and gotten insight from that. And sometimes I'll set aside 20 minutes, and just write everything that comes to mind. I've figured out some pretty complex problems that way.
If something occurs to you, no matter how trivial it seems, write it down. Once it's physically brought into the light of day there's a good chance you're going to think differently of it.
I have progressed leaps and bounds through the use of a journal. I don't go hard on myself after a lousy social interaction anymore because I've learned for (and through) myself that it's not always my lack of social skills that causes the problem. When you become more self aware, you find that a lot of other people are really lacking in the social skills department as well. They might talk a lot, but they certainly aren't appreciated for it.
Now, just reading what I've typed may have little meaning to you if you don't feel it or believe it for yourself. That's why a journal is so important. When you record your thoughts and feelings and beliefs and actually LOOK at them, you learn things simply by drawing them out of yourself. At least that's what I find.
You don't have to treat it as a "dear diary" thing. You can date it if you want, just to see how long it takes to progress, but the goal is just to get your thoughts down in physical form where you can see them and deal with them a little more effectively.
I've lost my train of thought about a dozen times while typing this post, so I'm gonna end it now.
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Post by Ghost on Mar 24, 2004 20:28:07 GMT -5
Very well spoken/written B I remember I kept a diary as kid..but I practical only wrote down the negative things. A couple of years ago I reread a bit and I immediate knew what it was about and felt the madness (no, not a psychotic episode...that one I only have when I notice I don't have any noodles left around the house ;D) about the situation again. So it is good to write anything down. Doesn't have to be consitent and just anything that's on your mind. That is more enjoyable and not like a quote I remember "returning to one's vomit" if you would only write down the bad stuff. Anything goes, whatever is on your mind.
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Post by Alecto on Mar 24, 2004 20:33:29 GMT -5
I really enjoy keeping a journal, and have been doing so for quiet a few years.
Actually I keep 3 seperate ones.
Its nice to look back over them, and see what life was like, or what my thoughts on random things were at the time. I believe they are a good way to get things of your chest and get your creative mind flowing also
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Post by lyn on Mar 25, 2004 12:55:06 GMT -5
I used to always keep a journal which I would write everything in, good and bad. Mum found it one day and read it, then world war 3 broke out as i had mentioned her in there after a disagreement. Haven't kept one since.
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Post by spitzig on Mar 26, 2004 3:46:59 GMT -5
I used to always keep a journal which I would write everything in, good and bad. Mum found it one day and read it, then world war 3 broke out as i had mentioned her in there after a disagreement. Haven't kept one since. You might try an online one. Just don't auto-login. Unless she can get your password, it wouldn't happen again. I'd avoid trusting the mother, though.
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Post by Jarous on Mar 26, 2004 15:59:08 GMT -5
I'd avoid trusting the mother, though. Don't attribute to malice what can be equally well explained by lack of self-control. Resisting the temtation of reading someone's diary could be too much for many - that's what makes online journals so widely read. Starting an argument over something written in a supposedly private journal is a wholly different matter, though.
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Post by spitzig on Mar 26, 2004 20:41:51 GMT -5
Don't attribute to malice what can be equally well explained by lack of self-control. Resisting the temtation of reading someone's diary could be too much for many - that's what makes online journals so widely read. Starting an argument over something written in a supposedly private journal is a wholly different matter, though. Either reason would be enough for me to avoid trusting her.
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Post by B on Mar 26, 2004 23:03:31 GMT -5
If you're afraid of someone reading it, make up names. I even make up words or substitute numbers for words. As long as you can understand what you write, all's good.
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Post by Jarous on Mar 27, 2004 1:21:15 GMT -5
Reminds me of Tolkien - the man wrote his journal in made up language and alphabet. Surely made his biographer's work tough indeed :-).
I do keep my journal electronic and encrypted. I doubt my mother would be that much interested to attempt breaking it. Even if she succeeded she'd have hard time reading English.
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