anybody else miss out on their college experience?

[shygirl28]

just wondering if anybody else missed out on the so called college experience. what i mean is going to parties, bars, or football games. i missed out on those "best four years" of my life. i was a transfer student and i had to commute because i couldn't afford room & board. plus in order to pay for tuition without taking out loans, i worked at least 30 hours a week. because of my status as a transfer, everybody was in their own little cliques. i still get depressed about from time to time because i missed out on all the fun. the sad thing is, i still don't have any friends because everybody that is my age in my town has no desire to meet new people and the people i work with are either 16 - 20 or 40+. i would love a group of girlfriends to go out with every once in a while.

[MC]

I'm in college (sophomore) but I'm already missing out on such things as parties. I don't like football so that's out of the question. I'll soon be allowed in bars (December), but I doubt that I'll go much, other than with my housemates from last year who I was pretty close with who was saying they'd bring me to a bar the whole time.

I really don't have friends in college besides them . And I guess friends are what get you to parties. Then you are supposed to meet new ppl at parties. Hehe. So I'll simply never meet new people lol.

Let's hope that someone has some less depressing experiences to cheer us up.

[shygirl28]

The only thing positive that came out of me missing out was that i'm not in debt with student loans.

[Buzzz]

My college experience was/is awful. I thought high school sucked; at least there, I was involved in extracurricular activities and had some casual friendships. Since I was a freshman I don't think I've spoken more than a sentence or two to another student.

Actually, I don't think I "missed out" on normal college experiences because I don't really think think they were options for me in the first place. I can't even pretend to like sports, I don't drink, and even if I were invited to parties there's no way I would enjoy them. I lived on campus in a single for a couple of years, but all my neighbors did for fun was blare music and get drunk. As far as E/C goes, there's nothing at all that is interesting, and believe me, I've looked.

I've all but conceded defeat in trying to have a social life in college. I go to class, they give me a degree, I get the hell out of there as soon as I can, I go into suicidal debt trying to pay my student loans back while living alone the rest of my life. That's the best I can hope for.

[HybridMoment]

My "college experience" was hardly even one at all. I was able to get some dual credit hours through my high school and then ended up going to night and online college classes because I didn't have enough money to live in a dorm and the only larger university around was a long commute. The courses offered at night class were a poor selection, for example there were no science classes at all. So it took me longer then a year to get over 30 hours of credits. I had taken all the available distance courses and had a high enough GPA to transfer.

I thought I could use that time to get a job and decide what exactly I wanted to study. My parents made too much money and had too many assets for me to get any financial aide at all (my sister was even recently denied any even though my dad's income has decreased substantially since he retired) and my sister's lucky situation is another story altogether...so I was pretty much paying for it myself. Shyness and not having any job references made it nearly impossible for me to get a job, then I finally was hired at the job I currently work at. Low pay, bad hours, hard work, but it's better then being unemployed.

When I finally made it to the schools orientation everything there freaked me out: the horrendous traffic/commute, the students that had their parents accompanying them while I was alone, the tuition made me sick to my stomach, and then they made you declare a major when I still wasn't even sure what I wanted to do. It was late in the summer and most of the morning classes had already been filled up, there was no way I could fit classes and my work schedule together. I had been working 7 days a week that summer and all of a sudden being in a different situation having to make so many decisions caused me to panic and I left.

I haven't gone back since, and that was a year ago. I didn't really have time to even think about a social life with all my other problems. I've saved up more money now, but I'm still not sure if I want to go back or not.

[theinfiniteabyss84]

My college experience is basically doing homework, ever so briefly talk to some people in class, go home. I feel so inadequate compared to everyone else, so uninteresting and awkward.

I really don't have friends in college besides them . And I guess friends are what get you to parties. Then you are supposed to meet new ppl at parties. Hehe. So I'll simply never meet new people lol.

I have been invited to a halloween party, but I highly doubt I am going to go. This girl that invited me and I talk sometimes, and I think she invited me just because she invited another girl who was in the room with us. She didnt seem to enthusiastic. I am not going to go.

My college experience was/is awful. I thought high school sucked; at least there, I was involved in extracurricular activities and had some casual friendships. Since I was a freshman I don't think I've spoken more than a sentence or two to another student.

My last year of high school was great, it took 3 years for people to notice me and to talk to people. Then I got to college and talked to noone. Like you I only had some very casual friendships, out of my 4 years so far i only made 1 friend How? I have no idea.

I've all but conceded defeat in trying to have a social life in college. I go to class, they give me a degree, I get the hell out of there as soon as I can, I go into suicidal debt trying to pay my student loans back while living alone the rest of my life. That's the best I can hope for.

Me too


~ia

[MC]

My dad's income is big enough for me that I don't have loans/work my ass off. I'm lucky in this respect compared to some.

My life today was like: got out of class 5:30 (relatively late, had a lab), went home, blast rap while browsing, cooked shit and ate, read up on some CS, nearly (or did) fell asleep for an unspecified time, blast rap, did my physics hw, blast more rap, meanwhile trying to get a head start on my retarded physics lab hw (treasury hunt!). I'm meeting with my lab partners tomorrow at the library for this -- uh oh. I sat through the whole thing today while 2 of them were really working hard to figure out shit...

Then I was here writing this post...while blaring rap lol. I'm gonna kill it as soon as midnight comes.

Yeah, story of my life.

[Paulinus]

All I did was go in, do the work and go home again, hardly saying a word to anyone the whole time I was there. In fact a lot of the time I didn't speak to anyone for the whole day.

I didn't really feel I missed out as the stereotypical booze and parties student lifestyle doesn't appeal to me. I was a bit depressed about being friendless and always sitting alone in lectures for the first term but I later got used to it and just accepted that I wasn't gonna make any friends.

At the end of the day I got out of it with a good degree and enough of my student loan left to survive a long inefficient search for a job

Despite rarely talking to a soul I still preferred it to high school where I did have friends.

[urbanspaceman]

paulthequiet said:

Despite rarely talking to a soul I still preferred it to high school where I did have friends.

Pretty much the same with me. I got quite depressed at the start of uni, but after a while I got used to being on my own and ended up preferring to be that way.

Whether that was just me trying to convince myself due to the lack of other options I don't know, but I'm pretty sure it wasn't the healthiest route to take in the long run.

I saw a few of my high school friends in the summer breaks between uni, but I think spending the vast majority of my time on my own ended up having a big effect on the way I related to them, or didn't relate to be more precise.

[Rose]

What's the fudge is a "college experience" I want one.

No, seriously... I've been home schooled almost my whole life. And on top of that, no college. I've never had the oppurtunity to be around several people my own age and actually CHOOSE my friends, let alone party... Had I gone to college, or even a college party, I'm sure I'd be too uncomfortable to meet people anyway. I feel it'd be unfair of me to try and strike up a conversation with someone when I'm too boring to keep it going. Then the other person has to suffer the awkward dilemma of how to walk away without offending me... Aug, anyways...

My "best years of my life" days will mainly be remembered as just me watching TV alone, or listening to music in my room, or drawing by myself...and yes... chatting online.

[Rose]

sweetpea said:

rose said:

I feel it'd be unfair of me to try and strike up a conversation with someone when I'm too boring to keep it going. Then the other person has to suffer the awkward dilemma of how to walk away without offending me...

awww...you shouldn't feel that way. most people are boring anyways. especially the ones who like to talk about themselves constantly.

Yeah but at least they know how to be gracefully boring, lol.

[MissShy]

I started college a month ago and i know how it feels to feel like its passing you by. At the start i made such an effort to get to know people and be friendly so they wouldnt notice i was quiet but you cant fool people and if thats the kind of person you are you have to accept it and just do what makes you happy.

[nameless]

i never went to university (i think thats the equivalent in the uk), i really wish i had gone sometimes, i hear loads of people telling these great stories about their times at uni and kinda think i missed out!

i probably would have ended up being the shy, quiet kid but i think it would have been an experience and who knows, i may have had the time of my life there!

[skyhint]

Lately I've been missing High school because my ex was with me then. I don't like to admitting that because I have a new boyfriend. My exboyfriend was an inspiration to me to do well.

[annaa]

Well I didn't attend for 9 terms out of 15 (there are 3 in a year) at secondary school.

Even when I was there I didn't talk to anyone... I got bullied and spent most of my breaktime crying in the girls toilets contemplating how exactly I should attempt suicide. ;D (Sorry, it's just laugh or cry).

I felt I missed out because i'm ugly and shy. If I has been a bit better looking and had a bit more confidence i'm sure it would have been a blast.

It's weird comparying it to my experience at primary school. I'm not sounding big-headed but I was queen bee! I had everything, I was the smartest girl in class and the most popular...

Just don't know where the fuck it all went wrong.