Shy people more judgemental than non-shy people?

[jaeksmith]

{ This originated as a response to a thread where I fealt the person was being a bit to judgemental (to someone else in the same thread)... figured I'd post it here to make it more anonymous and talk about something that I've been thinking about writing about for a while. }

One of the most interesting things I find on SU is how many people seem to be experts on everyone else (and often re-interpret what the other person is saying, thinking, believing as they feel fit)...

On other boards I find people debating about topics heatedly - but generally not assuming they know better about other people's own lives. I suppose that might partially be due to the topic at hand...

It's just, I'd hate to run across these shy people in the real world - since I feel like they'd definately judge me harshly (vs the potential of others to maybe not be judging).

These are some way too generalized thought questions to evoke discussion:

I wonder if shy people tend to be more judgemental than non-shy people..?
I wonder if we feel we have some right to be?
I wonder if we think we are less judgemental?

[pnoopiepnats]

I think people online tend to be more judgmental. The anonymity of the internets allows that.

I belong to some girlie boards and there is one gal instead of posting about the topic at hand spends her time analyzing and interpreting everyone's post. It's sorta like the religious zealot where they know they have the key!

Finally I got tired of it and pretty much told her to STFU.

Members of the girlie board took that personality test myers briggs or whatever it is called, and the majority of them are extroverts!

[Sweet Pea]

i don't think shy people are more judgemental than others, i think everyone is, pretty much. when you're not looking at someone it can be more difficult to gauge their reaction, and it's easier to go too far. also, it's easy to accidentally word something in a way that appears to be harsh when someone reads it, even if it wasn't intended that way.

but there is a concept called the stockholm syndrome that i think rears it's head sometimes in shy circles. i think some shy people who have been bullied in the past take on and imitate the behavior of the people who bullied them...even admire and envy them...which i think is a shame.

[Knox]

well, how else are shy people going to form their opinions of other people? talk to them??? and non-shy people can only judge and assume about us shybies too.. everyone does it.. that still doesnt make it right though..

[marty]

If we shy people do seem to be more judgmental, it's because we've been staying in the background, rather than coming right out and boldly cramming a foot in our mouths by venturing to say something crass.

[annaa]

I know this has already been said, but I do think it's people online that tend to be more judgemental.

Emotion can't be put through in to words, so people can't empathise as much with the person who's "being judged". Having said that, maybe because feeling can't be put through text, people just giving advice/views may come across as judgemental, when they're not.

From my own experience, I think shy people appear less judgemental (in real life).