5 years ago & 5 years from now

[cyclopse]

alright everyone how has your social life been when you look back at the last five years and where do you think you will be 5 years into the future. From my standpoint it has gotten better dramatically in terms of going with friends and talking to girls but i havent been able to cross that line and get a girl i like. I am 25 right now and I might be moving in the future for a job and a chance to be on my own which is scary to a certain extent but also exciting to becuase you have a chance to start over so what do everyone think.

[chemistry]

Five years ago, my social life SUCKED. Today, I've improved with my social skills. Five years from now, if I'm not married, I'm hoping to at least have that special woman in my life.

[gSteve]

5 years ago I was just starting college, I never went out, had never been to a pub, hardly ever spoke and didn't take much care in what I looked like.

Since then I'm alot more confident, I speak more, am better socially, take care of my appearance. I finished college and got a job after along time looking and am learning to drive. things aren't much better socially as I still don't go out and don't have any friends but I think every year i've improved since the previous.

In 5 years time i'd like to have a social life, go out more, have friends, a better job, a girlfriend.

[annaa]

5 years ago I was Miss Popular (I was at Primary school) and everyone in my class liked me and respected me.

Now i'm too scared to leave the house.

5 years from now I see myself in the process of re-building my confidence and making new friends.

[shypsychologyguy]

what happened anna

[Samantha]

Nothing much has changed in the past 5 years. I've fallen out with 2 very close friends but I now have stability which is nice. Hopefully I can use that to further my education within the next 5 years. Maybe try to meet some new people at college etc. Life has rarely turned out how I expected so I try not to think too far ahead.

[annaa]

shypsychologyguy said:

what happened anna

Moving to senior school.. it went downhill from there.

[silence]

5 years ago my social life was bordering on being good and then gradually over the years it got worse and is now bordering on being none existent. Sure I have a few acquaintances but no real friends. 5 years from now I would like to have built some new friendships with people who I am not afraid to be myself around. Hopefully I will also get a job I enjoy and obviously a significant other would be nice but the chances of that really are slim to none.

[Paulinus]

5 years ago I would have just finished sixth form and would later be going to uni. I was part of a group of 5 friends who I slowly became distant from once we went to different uni's. I havent had a proper friend since.

5 years from now, who knows I dont like to think too far ahead. I'll take things step by step and see how I go. Of course it would be nice to have some friends and a girlfriend but we'll see.

[shypsychologyguy]

5 years ago i started senior high school. i ended up that first year being rejected by a girl i liked and bullied in PE class and made fun of. I new things were not right in eighth grade when i realized i had no frineds really and i was on the outside. my first yeer of highschool was my least shy of the four years. my senior year was the most shy. that was followed by social isolasion in the first year of college and at work.

five years from now i hope to move out of my parents house , have a masters degree and make alot of frineds at work and mabye a girl.

i think a elementart school would be a great place to meet nice women because i have worked and volunteerd at some before and women are everywhere and men are a minority. so in that would motivate me to be a school psychologist.

[pnoopiepnats]

Lucky for me my life is recorded so here is some things I was saying 5 years ago. ;D

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I have enjoyed reading what you all want for Xmas. Gave me some
things to think about.

I already got one great Xmas present of my Dad not having cancer and
if that duede scares my Dad like that again, I'll kick his ass.

Anyway, here's my lit

An orange tree
A massage
New weight bench
To not be lonely
To one day to find someone who is funny and speells like teh ratt and
who isn't mean but I hace basically given up on that as I don't tink
there is anee mans who would put up with me.

Loev,

Poopie Pants

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As for 5 years from now, who knows? I would have never dreamed 5 years ago, the type of things that are going on in my life right now.

[cyclopse]

me personally im big on thinking ahead or looking ahead im one of those people who dont buy into live for today becuase your not gauranteed tomorrow but dont get me wrong that is true and i would be nieve to think not. My perspective is this anything that we want to get done that is important your going to have to take some risk, evaluate the situations, and make a plan to achieve what you want to basically set goals. My first year of college for the most part was just like high school my last 4 were amazingly different. When i was 21 i had straibismus surgery to correct my lazy eye and got my braces off. Thier was 2 guys who i became very good freinds at my job they would ask me to go out with them evenbefore i had the eye surgery and my braces were off up until this point none of my friends who i grew up with ever asked me to go out socially with them and today eventhough we have kind of gone are seperate ways becuase of grad school and jobs we still try to stay in contact with each other and i will always have the utmost respect for those guys. After this i saw a dramatic increase in me being social i would go out more, i made alot of friends in college all mostly girls, and really experience the college life for the most part. I knew when i was 21 that becuase of my prior socail history it would take time so 4 years later i have made dramatic improvements. The question know is i was happy before with just making new friends and hanging with girls but know that i had that experience become great friends with them i want to take it to the next level. I have had the chance to date some girls i kick myself everyday becuase i was an idiot and i didnt pursue to say when i think i might had a chance. So right know im at a point in my life where thier is alot of decisions in the future i have to make whether to move out about 5 hours away be on my own, then thier is the social situation i have made some strides and havent got the results that i wanted maybe that my fualt though, and a current friendship with a girl who i spent alot of time with during my last semester and have alot in common and same interest with her the only thing is she had b/f during that time then broke up with him and know she is dating someone else i guess the part that gets me is all the time we spent together, the stuff we have in common and i have nothing basically to show i now she is my friend and all and yea she actually just called me monday to see if i was working becuase she was coming in we talked tonite but its just to the point that its not fair to me to keep beating myself up because its plain as day that we would be good together but i guess she doesnt look at me as atttractive in that way which does hurt but im starting to accept. So Im trying to figure things out turn this situation into a positive i mean friends a work think im the man girls come in to see she literally waits for me if im busy and others to yet were still freinds so i have probably set the record for run on sentances but im looking to somehow turn these negative experiences of not getting the girl into positives especially if i move which would give me a blank sheet to start with only building on the positive experiences.

[lancelot]

5 years ago-not much of a social life, but better job.
5 years from now- I hope to get a better job, make new friends, and have my first girlfriend at least. I regressed with my job. I used to be a store manager for Blockbuster Video and Paper Warehouse, but I kinda burned out with being on the front lines in retail and dealing with so many people and different situations. Now I'm a shipping and receiving manager for a children's toy store-definitely beneath me and not very challenging.

[Tal]

Five years ago, I talked to more people, went out occasionally with them, but wasn't too happy with myself.

Now I have no friends, but am happier as a person.

In five years time I hope to have a job, new interests, knowledge and skills and to be even more content with myself. Everything else (friends, relationships) is just a bonus I don't care to speculate on.

[allen]

lets see, five years ago, I was at least happy some of the time and could fake it believably when I wasn't. I was able to carry on a halfway decent conversation with close friends and family. Life was tolerable. In the time since, I've had a lot of things (materialistic) happen...bought a house, got a new car, better job with more pay, took some vacations....but it's the loneliness that has wiped me out completely. Several different really bad heartbreaks in that time have just killed off any good feelings I've had and basically left me emotionally dead. I don't remember the last time I've really smiled, and now, rather than trying to force a smile when I go out, I'm more like forcing back tears instead. If I were to try to think of myself five years from now, I would probably kill myself. I can't stand to think of how much worse it could get....

Wow, I just went back and re-read what I wrote, I didn't really think I was that depressed but that is exactly what's happened in my world.