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Post by lennythegiant on Jul 24, 2005 15:16:06 GMT -5
On MTV there was a show on MTV about a shy kid that wanted to get better and have a girl to go to prom with. He gets rejected by the girl he had a crush on but he gets to go with someone else.
This got me thinking about how other shy people might have dealt with the prom situation. What triggered me to think about this is that the guy's mom said "you have to go to Prom, it is very important". I didn't go to my prom. There was only one girl that I would have been comfortable with asking but she had a boyfriend already at another school. I was offered to go as part of a group with my friends (who all had dates themselves) but I opted not to. I figured it wouldn't be much fun without a date and even though I'd be part of a group I'd still be the odd person out.
I did ask a girl out one time to that year's homecoming but she told me she couldn't make it (nice way of saying no).
Anyway I'm kind of wondering what was the prom/school dance situation with other people on this board?
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Post by lancelot on Jul 24, 2005 15:30:10 GMT -5
I wanted to go to the prom. I paid for myself and a date. The only problem was getting the courage to ask a girl to the prom.  My tennis coach who knew I was very shy offered to help me get a date, but that idea was too embarrassing so I turned him down. Part of the problem was I didn't know who was taken already and didn't like the idea of asking a girl who might already be going. Seeing how I feared rejection the probability of my getting the courage to ask a girl was slim, I was just trying to build up my confidence by paying for it hoping I would have the nerve to ask someone. I didn't go-surprise, surprise. No prom memories here to look back on-what a bummer.  |
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Post by allen on Jul 24, 2005 18:04:57 GMT -5
I was way to shy in high school to even think of asking a girl out so I never went to prom, homecoming, or pretty much any other dance. Each winter, there was a ladies choice dance where the women were supposed to ask the guys to attend....I never got invited to that.
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Post by Spartan on Jul 24, 2005 19:34:08 GMT -5
On MTV there was a show on MTV about a shy kid that wanted to get better and have a girl to go to prom with. He gets rejected by the girl he had a crush on but he gets to go with someone else. hey, I think I saw that. Didn't they help him lose weight and stuff to make him more confident? I saw him get rejected a few times but eventually one of the girls did say yes. I'm hoping I get a date for my senior prom. I've a whole year before I'm a senior so even though I haven't ever asked out a girl I think it could happen. If I can just overcome that fear of rejection... |
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Post by Bodhi on Jul 24, 2005 20:05:52 GMT -5
I never went to the Prom or any dance in high school. I did go to a dance once in middle school and didn't like it. I know some people put alot of stock in going to their prom, but I don't really care I never went and don't regret not going.
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Post by Kitten on Jul 24, 2005 22:28:30 GMT -5
Didn't go to my prom. Junior or senior. I never got asked, and I didn't really have any friends to go with. I could've gone with a group of girls from my class, but I was only really friends with one of them and I didn't want to feel like I was tagging along. Looking back I'm glad I didn't go and don't feel like I missed anything. Hey, when you miss out of most of high school's social activities b/c you're a friendless loser, missing out on a thing like the prom isn't really a big deal. Par for the course. I would've just felt lonely in a crowd of friends reliving memories with each other while I sat alone not eating my food. Oh, god I sound so pathetic! Ugh!  |
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Post by GreenFerret on Jul 24, 2005 22:59:59 GMT -5
I was much the same way Kitten, except my one female friend was sometimes almost as shy as me, and either didn't go to prom or went as half a couple with a guy I think she was dating at the time, and not with a group. I fantasized that a guy I liked would ask me to go--or that even someone I didn't really like might do me the honor of asking, but since I barely talked to most guys, it didn't happen. The day of Prom I felt kinda sick at the thought that everyone was going to be dressing up and catching limos with their friends and dates, shedding any inhibitions they might have had in the classroom. For some reason the idea of people dressing up and acting "different" has always had a weird effect on me, lol. Makes me want it badly and really hate it at the same time. Even then, I knew that if I'd gone I would have spent my time tight-lipped and just wishing I weren't too shy to dance or play social butterfly. ;D I'm just no good for parties, though the idea of parties always appeals to me for some reason. Now, of course, it's a lot easier to realize this.  I felt like I'd really missed out on something important, back then when the little yearbook supplements were filled with pictures of people I knew having crazy fun at prom. I don't regret not going, now. I don't think it's "very important" unless you're one of those people for whom the glory days really were back in high school. If high school is your high point in life, I suppose the Prom is like the climax of it all. Other than that, it's just a one-time blip on the radar of life. ;D |
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Post by lancelot on Jul 24, 2005 23:12:55 GMT -5
I'm just no good for parties, though the idea of parties always appeals to me for some reason. I hear that. Parties always sound good to me, but any I go to I don't do too much partying. More like stand in the background, watch everyone else party, leave early. |
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Post by streetworm on Jul 25, 2005 0:23:01 GMT -5
I went to prom but it wasn't all that fun. We had a mutual friend hook us up so I didn't need to do any asking at least. I didn't really want to go all that much in the first place but my friend talked me into it. I guess it gave me some experience if nothing else, although nothing really came about from it (relationship-wise). I think my biggest problem though was that I went with someone I'd only been on one date with (having just met her on that date) and never really felt comfortable around her.
The only good thing is that I won't have to worry about regretting it down the road.
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Post by Icarus X on Aug 1, 2005 21:22:09 GMT -5
If going out with you means the girl gets to be on TV, someone's going to say yes eventually.
There was no reality TV back when I didn't go to my prom. I had no desire to go at all really. I suppose if I had a girlfriend I would've gone with her. My loser friends all managed to get dates, but I didn't even bother thinking of trying. As it turned out, their dates all ditched them by the end of the night. They weren't seniors, and apparently just wanted to get into the senior prom. After the prom, they all went somewhere and screamed at inanimate objects or something like that. When I heard about it later, I decided I'd made the right decision.
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Post by omega on Aug 2, 2005 16:47:50 GMT -5
thank god, there is no such thing in this part of the world, so i didn't have to feel like a faliure for not going. |
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Post by wagnerr on Aug 3, 2005 14:53:23 GMT -5
thank god, there is no such thing in this part of the world, so i didn't have to feel like a faliure for not going. What part of the world are you?  I did go to my prom. I went with three of my friends; we had dinner before, went to the dance, took some pics, danced a bit, and then went home. It wasn't a big deal but it was sort of fun. I'm glad that i went, but my pics look really wierd from the night. |
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Post by nameless on Aug 3, 2005 16:39:15 GMT -5
im from england and although we did have a prom, it was nowhere near as big deal as it is in america/canada.
i was never really in to the whole disco/prom thing so throughout my whole school life i never went to anything like that.
i find in big social situations like that - even parties - i tend to just end up standing round, i much prefer small intimate affairs!
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My tennis coach who knew I was very shy offered to help me get a date, but that idea was too embarrassing so I turned him down. Part of the problem was I didn't know who was taken already and didn't like the idea of asking a girl who might already be going. Seeing how I feared rejection the probability of my getting the courage to ask a girl was slim, I was just trying to build up my confidence by paying for it hoping I would have the nerve to ask someone. I didn't go-surprise, surprise. No prom memories here to look back on-what a bummer. 
I felt like I'd really missed out on something important, back then when the little yearbook supplements were filled with pictures of people I knew having crazy fun at prom. 
